Skydiver8 Posted October 25, 2004 Share Posted October 25, 2004 This is my first post, but everyone here seems very helpful and friendly. Here's my situation. I've been married 4 years, together almost 6. My now-husband was my first long-term relationship. I was/am what you'd might call a "late bloomer". I had no self-confidence in high school and college, and I was never attractive to men (probably for that reason). I never even had a boyfriend until my junior year of college. I met my husband when I was 23, and looking back, I think I was just so grateful and happy that there was a person that actually was interested in me that I had no problem saying yes when he proposed. I know getting married to bolster my self esteem is not a good reason, but at the time, I really did think I loved him. I'm not sure why I've waited so long to question my motives for getting married...we've been growing apart for a while now. I think now that I was incredibly naive when I got married. I just jumped at a chance that I thought would never come along again. Now I feel like I missed a huge part of life. I was so angry when I was engaged and my parents warned me about this very thing...now I feel like I have to admit that they were right. The problem is, he's still my best friend, I just don't think I love him anymore. It's like we're roomates who trust each other completely, but the love and companionship I'd expect from a marriage isn't there. Our sex life was never all that active, but now it's almost non-existant, and I don't mind. I am devastated to say it, but I actually regret my marriage. I think I haven't wanted to face it before this because I'm scared at what the outcome will be, but I'm not happy. Anyone have any experience or advice or a way to help me feel better? Thanks. Quote Link to comment
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