Moontiger Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Yes, she does know him better then we do. And she was surprised by his behavior. Using logic we can assume she was surprised because he had not acted his way before. Using more logic we can now say that he pulled a bait and switch on her. He never intended to live a married life with her only to have a alternative place to sleep from his parents house. Link to comment
Tanzi Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Blue, you assume that because you are an adult and expect the same in your partner. I bet this was the same situation the OP found herself in only to find that married and single life were pretty much the same. Well yes. I'm sure the OP was ok with him being a mummy's boy to the extent to which she was used to but undoubtedly upon marriage didn't see that it would be as big a problem as it has turned out to be. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 So i went back to the original post, NEWLYWEDS & Living together for the FIRST time. How is that their entire life?? You are taking my words wrong. Their entire married life. Not their entire life as a person. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I think that's for OP decide. She's the one who's been with him for 10 years. I think she knows him a little bit better than we do I am sure she does. However this is why she is considering divorce and in this instance I think it is an excellent idea. Link to comment
sweetestdesire Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 You can sue your spouse or any other member of your family for that matter. Also please look up the word "analogy" For being a momma's boy?? lol I'm sure judge would say tough luck, you chose him. Just like losers, that women get involved with, let them borrow large amounts of money & expect them to pay them back. Analogy-similarity, what about it? Link to comment
sweetestdesire Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 You are taking my words wrong. Their entire married life. Not their entire life as a person. Well that's what i mean! & yet she chose to marry him, knowing that he's always been a momma's boy!! Link to comment
Moontiger Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 For being a momma's boy?? lol I'm sure judge would say tough luck, you chose him. Just like losers, that women get involved with, let them borrow large amounts of money & expect them to pay them back. Analogy-similarity, what about it? Camus job analogy for this faux marriage. Sorry I didn't realized I had to spell that out for you. You claimed that camus post was not accurate in part because the topic here is marriage and that a person can sue a company. I have pointed out the a person can sue their SO. Therefore the analogy is very accurate. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 If you feel marriage is forever would you be married to him? Let's say you married mr momma's boy and he was gone every single day and only came home to sleep and then disappeared the next night till beddy bye time and this went on for months you tell me how happy you would be and if you would not be considering a divorce? Link to comment
Moontiger Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Victoria, don't you understand Sweetest would never date a person with any flaw that could be a potential problem during a marriage. She as the magical ability to see the future and know exactly how a person will be 1, 2, even 5 years from now. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Well that's what i mean! & yet she chose to marry him, knowing that he's always been a momma's boy!! That does not mean she has to stay married to him. His is not performing his wedding vows and never has so the marriage is a sham. Link to comment
sweetestdesire Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Yes, she does know him better then we do. And she was surprised by his behavior. Using logic we can assume she was surprised because he had not acted his way before. Using more logic we can now say that he pulled a bait and switch on her. He never intended to live a married life with her only to have a alternative place to sleep from his parents house. But he's always slept at his parents house!! Right, because shes been dealing with this all of her "lifetime" So how did he do a switch on her?? Link to comment
Maeva Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 His parents know he is married, right? Perhaps ring his mum and say can you move in with her as a couple because he is still living with them and you miss him? Link to comment
Tanzi Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 So when something is wrong, you turn to divorce? that's what im trying to point out, it can be ANYTHING! how do you know it's something that can't be fixed? Because, evidently, he doesn't seem to want to fix it. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Anyway I am tired of the trolling. Link to comment
sweetestdesire Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 That does not mean she has to stay married to him. His is not performing his wedding vows and never has so the marriage is a sham. I have not said she should stay married to him, i asked why she got married in the first place?? & lets not talk about marriage vows because nowadays, nobody follows them. Link to comment
Tanzi Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 But he's always slept at his parents house!! Right, because shes been dealing with this all of her "lifetime" So how did he do a switch on her?? We mostly all sleep at our parents house until we move on and move out but moving out and in with a partner .... a wife .... means you actually live, eat and chill with them too. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I have not said she should stay married to him, i asked why she got married in the first place?? & lets not talk about marriage vows because nowadays, nobody follows them. Really? Many people do. If nobody follows them then that would include everyone's parents too. Link to comment
sweetestdesire Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 His parents know he is married, right? Perhaps ring his mum and say can you move in with her as a couple because he is still living with them and you miss him? Good Suggestion Maeva. Something somebody who wants to make it work, would do. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Hahahaha, sweetest, you have such a world of learning coming your way when you get married. Yes, move the mother in, that will clearly solve the problem. Peace out guys I'm off for the day. Link to comment
Tanzi Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I have not said she should stay married to him, i asked why she got married in the first place?? & lets not talk about marriage vows because nowadays, nobody follows them. Because she loved him and saw a future with him. You know, it really doesn't matter that he was a momma's boy. I think we are taking that too literally. He can still be a momma's boy, he can still be close to his parents, but he can still live a perfectly normal married life too ... which is what I'm sure the OP expected. This is NOT normal. Not by a long shot! Link to comment
sweetestdesire Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Really? Many people do. If nobody follows them then that would include everyone's parents too. Yes, parents as well, when you get married, divorce is not an option at least in my religion. thats how serious it is You can not get married by church again. I dont know one single person who has been divorced & stayed divorced Link to comment
sweetestdesire Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Because she loved him and saw a future with him. You know, it really doesn't matter that he was a momma's boy. I think we are taking that too literally. He can still be a momma's boy, he can still be close to his parents, but he can still live a perfectly normal married life too ... which is what I'm sure the OP expected. This is NOT normal. Not by a long shot! Obviously him being a momma's boy does matter because that's the reason why she would divorce him!! We all expect things to "work" but then you need to be realistic with yourself also & know what you're getting yourself into. Link to comment
Tanzi Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Good Suggestion Maeva. Something somebody who wants to make it work, would do. I could be totally wrong, sweetest, but I detected a whiff of sarcasm in Maeva's post. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Yes, parents as well, when you get married, divorce is not an option at least in my religion. thats how serious it is You can not get married by church again. I dont know one single person who has been divorced & stayed divorced Same in my church, however you CAN get an annulment because he is NOT performing his vows and not investing in your marriage IS one of the reasons they allow an annulment. I was married in a religion. Link to comment
sweetestdesire Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Hahahaha, sweetest, you have such a world of learning coming your way when you get married. Yes, move the mother in, that will clearly solve the problem. Peace out guys I'm off for the day. What's wrong with that? Only of course if the wife & mother don't get along. Link to comment
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