Masterbation Frequency - Males vs Females

[shygirl23]

Thanks for your encouragement! I really like your rationalization.

 

Thanks, thanks, thanks...

[koolaidnovel]

I'm a girl...and yeah I masturbate about every other day...to the point of orgasm. I started when I was about 11 or 12 and I've been doing it since.

 

I think it's funny how guys are always wondering if girls do or not...

[kate111]

Of course girls do. The thing is that "nice girls" just don't admit it.

 

Lucky im a nasty girl. lol. Much more fun.

 

If you want to learn to masturbate then I recommend you buy some pornography first to get you in the mood.

 

Girls (generally) seem to prefer erotic stories to pictures. You may be the same.

 

I recommend a book by Nancy Friday called "men on top" or alternatively "Women on Top". Each book contains the fantasies of lots of men or women.

 

If you read some of the stories you may start to feel a small twhichy sensation in your nether regions and wetness.

 

Use your fingers to touch as you read and you should locate your clit. It is a hard round but above your peehole. With lubricated fingers (spit or lube) make round circles on this spot.

 

Hopefully you can go from there.

[eksman]

i am currently having a contest with my friend to see who can hold out longer without masturbation and am still going strong since monday july 25. normally though, i probably do it roughly once a day sometimes skip a day just whenever i feel like doin it

[lost_relic]

Thanks for all the replies everyone... it's been very interesting and educational

I haven't forgotten you all, don't worry

I still don't like doing it, and would rather I didn't.

 

Sometimes I am able to hold it off, and just forget about it, and I don't really have a need to anymore. Usually this is what causes me to get cranky lol. Then, one day, it'll just kinda pop into my head.

Doing it every day just seems far too common though for me. It loses a LOT of it's impact when you do it that often. If I can do it once a week, it is much better. But usually, when I wait that long, just once isn't enough lol... and I end up doing it every day again afterwards, and it loses it's impact all over again.

I also find that if I do it everyday... it kind of... numbs my emotions... ?

If that makes any sense.

... it's hard to describe. I just feel pretty "blank" most of the time... or, when I have reason to be emotional, the emotion is not nearly as strong... which I really don't like

 

Does anyone know what I mean?

Do females get this too?

Perhaps it's just a loss of sex drive? But then, the sex drive is still there... it's just... it has less feeling... it's more "blank" lol.

 

Sorry if I've confused everyone...

The differences between males and females in this area fascinates me...

[goddess23]

hey. well i guess i sort of understand what you're saying. i mean, the longer i hold out, the more intense and enjoyable it is sometimes. its like more intense, and i orgasm longer. but about the EMOTION to it...i dont think ive really felt that, but i think its alot better when i think about my bf and things we've done together.

 

also btw, i dont feel comfortable talking to other girls about it, ill admit that. although it depends on the girl, but generallly speaking its hard. i also wanted to mention that ive never actually fingered myself, ill stimulate the area and touch but i never actually finger. i was just wondering if all girls do.

[teenresearch]

isn't it interesting that we are all uncomfortable talking about masturbation with other girls?

[June4life]

I'm a girl, and I HATE masturbating.

 

Well, I dont know if I really hate it, but I dont get much pleasure from it because I know my boyfriend does it a lot better to me!! hah

[JonnyG]

Im trying to understand what your saying, but if your saying once you have finished you lose that urge for a girl next to you in bed, its quite common. Give it a couple of hours and you should hopefully be thinking of girls again. When a guy ejaculates he suddenly loses all the chemicals that were going to his head telling him how great it is. Its depressing that having had a great climax you get hit very quickly by a emotional downer in terms of your wants for a girl. However, if you are with the right girl this feeling is less obvious e.g. some girl I was seeing just as a sex thing made me feel guilty and down sometimes when we finished as I didnt really fancy her, whil'st my ex who I thought was gorgeous and great when we finished off something I would still be real glad she was with me.

 

Other emotions are think are numbed a bit as well, but this could be due to the tiredness you get after ejaculating.

 

 

And Teenresearch, I don't get why girls keep it quiet when they all do it. I guess its seen as unfeminine??? When myself and my ex talked about it, she said her and her friends would freely talk about sex, but she is like 31 and her friends are between 25-31 or so. She said when she was younger 16-22 she never talked to anyone about it.

[Swiss_Chic]

When I was quite young, and I was exploring my body, I kinda stumbled onto masturbation. I didn't even know what it was for a long time! All I knew was it felt good. I never penetrated deep, but I didn't need to. And after I found out what I was really doing, I also felt really nasty. I thought it was only a guy thing and that made me feel disgusted with myself. I think girls may masturbate later and less often than boys because they think, like i did, that they are the only ones. This is an effect of girls feeling uncomfortable talking about it. It is like a vicious cirlce; girls feel guilty so the don't talk, which makes them feel guiltier so they talk less, and so on.

Well, I feel better!

[Roffler]

Honestly, I don't think I've masturbated in about 3 months, not that I'm opposed to it or anything, just don't feel the need. Actually, I think anytime I have a girlfriend, I just stop masturbating, whether or not we are sexually active with each other. Don't know why, but that just seems to be the way things work.

[ForAnother]

hah.

 

I have gone 23 days without masterbating. until my gf and I got back together and had sex. Well let me tell you I AM NEVER GOING 23 DAYS AGAIN!!! I had serious blue balls. Guys, if you haven't masturbated in 10 -14 days... I suggest you do the deed otherwise... IT HURTS.

 

Over masturbating, the most annoying thing is in bed. My gf is able to orgasm OVER and OVER and OVER again.. the most I have done it in one day with her is 4 times. Meanwhile she got 6 or 7 times. By the 4th time i am not that hard, and it is so difficult for me to come.

 

I think that girls (if they can come) have a better time during sex than men. They just can keep on going. unfair .

 

But I tried the 40 days and 40 nights, and they were a miserable bunch of days.. till 23.

 

Actually right now I have gone 3 days without, because I when I get home to my gf, i want it to feel good. She masturbates about every other morning. If I blow my load now, it won't feel as good later

 

But typically, I masturbate about once every 2 days or so.

 

Anyone find it hard to come without seeing like hardcore porn? Like if I just see tits, I don't get turned on by it. I need to see some really nasty porn to get off (well to have a mindblowing ejaculation).

 

My gf said that she gets off from simply the feeling, and feels jealous when I think of other women... (I only think of others when i am masturbating, not during sex). Any other women have the same feeling towards men?

 

ForAnother

[lost_relic]

I feel the same way ForAnother!

What you have said about females and males in bed really interests me though... and I think it is very true.

A very interesting post

 

Also, the lassitude one feels after ejaculation is not what I was referring to... (I really hate that though!)

But it seems to effect my emotions as well... merely in the scope and extremity of them. That's only if I do it really frequently on a regular basis...

But meh, I am not worried... I think everyone gets it, but just aren't sure what I am talking about. I just have to discipline myself to start holding off again

 

Speaking of the after-depression, do females have any similar mechanism, or are there no drawbacks?

By what you've said ForAnother, it seems like they don't

[anonymouse]

Yeh i know what you're talking about lost_relic. Sometimes i feel sort of emotionally drained or 'blank' afterwards. Even to the point i might get snappy at ppl!

[ForAnother]

Yeah, I didn't know if that was with everyone or not but I too feel like I don't want to even think of girls right after I masturbate... however when I have sex and I am finished I am not like "ewww girls" but it is less of a turn on to see her naked but rather see her looking beautiful... and it doesn't get my hormones going it simply lets you look at her as tho she is just another human being..

 

I don't think girls get the same way, I asked my gf and she said no.

 

ForAnother

[Lucky_Ducky]

actually no, i feel that when i masturbate and i don't Orgasm i get VERY cranky and moody im also more horney after as i havn't releaved myself and i think it builds my moodyness... and when i DO Orgasm, im VERY relaxed and content

 

im rather different, i don't know... are anyother females like this?

[iam_nimit]

Hey!! if i would have to embaressed, I would have now turned into red coloured tomato. U see, I am 15 and masturbate around 3 - 4 times a day!!! 8) 8) 8) . U see, after all that i feel nothing is wrong about it. Its ok . We are giving ourselves pleasure and not harming anybody. So whats wrong???? U see Don't take tensions.

[lost_relic]

actually no, i feel that when i masturbate and i don't Orgasm i get VERY cranky and moody im also more horney after as i havn't releaved myself and i think it builds my moodyness... and when i DO Orgasm, im VERY relaxed and content

 

im rather different, i don't know... are anyother females like this?

 

Yep, you have nothing to worry about Lucky_Ducky, it's normal.

I have read about girls that sometimes have trouble achieving orgasm... what you just described is the result.

 

That's a pretty admirable perspective iam_nimit

Even though I know it's normal and almost everybody does it, I still don't feel that way =)

[hardcore]

sorry just had to pop in lol there's nothing wronge with doing what you have to .

i would tell you how many times i have but then i would be a sicko lol

8)

[Trigve]

I read a study somewhere that showed only 50% of women masterbate regularly, where the number is like 95% for guys. I don't think it's false to say women have much less need for sexual relief than men (after all they're always the ones with the headache, lol). So I am kind of surprised to read from some of you girls that you HAVE TO masterbate. It seems girls usually have no problem going without sex for long periods of time

[June4life]

95% of men masturbate. The other 5% are liars.

[Trigve]

june4life, remember there are those who are priests, monks, others with strong wills, and also men who are impotent, etc. I think 5% is definitely a realistic number

 

 

I can be one of the 5% if I really try. I've gone for months without doing it. it's hard the first few weeks but after that you sort of just get it out of your mind and forget about it

[Supra1188]

damn im sorry but i could never do that i get way to horny not to if i did i would like explode

[Mermaid]

I masturbate at varying intervels, though usually about twice a week. My boyfriend, also in his 20s, masturbates more frequently--and often video tapes it for me so I can watch (he also does it for me in person). Hot! Never be ashamed about being sexual.

[goddess23]

lol, honestly 50% is an unrealistic number. i agree we woman/girls may need to masturbate less often, as well i think we can go without it with much more ease (just a generalization), but i think most women masturbate regularly, i think the number is probably closer to 80 or 90%. i think we are not as READY TO EXPLODE as some guys here put it lol, but it definitely is pleasurable and i think most girls/women do it.