JohnTheMan Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 So I have been in a sticky situation for quite some time now. My EX started contacting me again after I told her I wouldn't answer her txts or emails. I know that after our breakup she developed a relationship with someone that she started talking to before our split. She lied to me for months saying she has no interest in anyone and we needed to work on ourselves and maybe see about trying again. Later pics surfaced on fbook. For about 2 months she stuck with my decision for NC. Then she started txting me and asked to see me before she moves back home after graduation... Imo, she was still seeing the guy she left me for. There are some indicators that they have backed off a bit. I ignored all attempts for her to reach me. Her last email asked if I was ignoring her or got a new phone number. She said she just wanted to know if I was ok. BUT she has used the "want to know if your ok" line before to get me talking. It doesn't seem like she has any intentions of recon, but thats all i want from her. Basically, I have been instructed and coached by others, that the only way I'll be able to find out what she really wants, or she will be able to find out what she really wants is by sticking to NC. That she needs to see me not responding to her to understand her choices, and as a result I can see what her real intentions are. It sucks to ignore her, and I hate playing games. But a lot of people think that if I respond i give her exactly what she wants and then she'll just go back to her new life. She has managed to stay good friends with all her exs. She wanted to keep me as a friend. I have already told her many times we wont be friends. I am torn at the appropriate action for this situation... Link to comment
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