l0n3ly Posted April 14, 2010 Share Posted April 14, 2010 My fiance and I are talking about separating. He wants us to stay together, but I just don't know anymore. I don't feel like I'm in love with him. We've got a 2 year old daughter together and she'll be going back to our home state with me to be with family and friends and so I can clear my head. Neither one of us has gone through anything like this before, and I was wondering what kind of "rules" there are or whatever when you are going through a separation. He told me he'll change, he'll be better, he'll treat me like I deserve to be treated and do things for me every day to show me that he loves me and he said he'll go to anger management. Which he told me a dozen times before when I *ALMOST* left but he guilted me into staying. and things would be okay for a bit but theyd always go back to normal. but when he tells me this, its like...it doesn't matter. i dont know if its just too little too late, or what. i'm lost. i also think that i've fallen in love with one of my best guy friends. he's always been there for me. he's the sweetest most kind-hearted person that i know. and i didnt mean for it to happen, but it just did. i know he feels the same for me. how am i supposed to figure out my feelings for him, on top of if i even love my fiance anymore...? there are 3 questions in there somewhere... i guess i may have phrased them the wrong way. but please help... i know i sound like a mess. and i guess i really am right now. -If you want to know about my fiance and our relationship, heres what my problems are.. My fiance has a horrible temper. He killed my dog, and it wasnt just that he killed her, it was how. it was cruel. he kicked her and threw her into a wall twice. He feels like a roommate really, and that we're just raising a baby together. I've told him a million times that I need him to be sweet and romantic and act like he cares, and up to this point he hasnt acknowledged that. Only when it comes to this point does he say he'll change. I don't think he'd try to get full custody, and even if he did I don't think he could get it. Thank you for your advice everyone. Link to comment
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