xyzzzz Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 not as public as the middle of a street,but something like parks or places where there arent many ppl.. if u see a couple kissing or rubbing each other,in such places,will u feel repulse?or it's just a way to express affection and no biggie? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
easyguy Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I can usually hang with it, but since the recent breakup with my girlfriend, it makes me feel uncomfortable to encounter it. Not in a repulsive way, but in a "I miss having that experience" way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 if u see a couple kissing or rubbing each other,in such places,will u feel repulse?or it's just a way to express affection and no biggie? To me it's a biggie and makes me feel very uncomfortable. Not so much just kissing, but only if they are all over each other. It makes me think ... "UGH, just get a room already", .... lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 not as public as the middle of a street,but something like parks or places where there arent many ppl.. if u see a couple kissing or rubbing each other,in such places,will u feel repulse?or it's just a way to express affection and no biggie? The fact still remains is that there are people and it is disrespectful to the other people around who want to enjoy what they are doing without having to be forced into voyeurism by having two people making out in front of them. People who can't keep their hands off each other in public often do it because they like attention, they want to show everyone "look at me". It has to do more with exhibitionism than with expressing affection. There are subtle ways of expressing affection to your partner in public without having make out sessions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lucius Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I wouldn't be comfortable doing that in public, but I wouldn't get indignant if I saw someone else doing. I might find it a bit distasteful, but I'm not going to get worked up about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Derick Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Kissing in public, that is alright. I can tolerate that, as I see there is nothing wrong with it. But rubbing each other then thats a bit to much, if you want to do anything like that then they need to get inside. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xyzzzz Posted March 20, 2010 Author Share Posted March 20, 2010 The fact still remains is that there are people and it is disrespectful to the other people around who want to enjoy what they are doing without having to be forced into voyeurism by having two people making out in front of them. People who can't keep their hands off each other in public often do it because they like attention, they want to show everyone "look at me". It has to do more with exhibitionism than with expressing affection. There are subtle ways of expressing affection to your partner in public without having make out sessions. but sometimes ppl who are making out dont wanna be noticed?They just feel the passion and cant wait? But they dont wanna disturb anyone and want to do it alone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shadows Light Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 It has to do more with exhibitionism than with expressing affection. There are subtle ways of expressing affection to your partner in public without having make out sessions. I totally agree. Having had that issue in one of my relationships. He said I didn't act like a "GF" in public. I didn't know how to define what he exactly meant. Too much PDA frankly turns me off. I felt like I was being marked in a primative and territorial way. I believe one of my remarks to him went along the lines of, "Next time, why don't you just whip out your uhhh hem and pee all over me. That's what dogs do to mark territory and ownership." Sadly... he never understood me either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 but sometimes ppl who are making out dont wanna be noticed?They just feel the passion and cant wait? I believe that ALL people know how to self-control and saying they just "can't wait" is a very weak/feeble excuse, but that's just me. If you don't want to be noticed, then go home, simple as that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I believe that ALL people know how to self-control and saying they just "can't wait" is a very weak/feeble excuse, but that's just me. If you don't want to be noticed, then go home, simple as that. I completely agree. This feel it and therefore got to do it right then and there doesn't fly with me. People have to exercise self-control in other ways..people just don't drop their pants in public whenever they feel the urgent need to go to the bathroom. When a person's bladder feels like it is going to burst they still hold it in and wait until they find the nearest restroom. If someone can control their bladder until they are in the privacy of the bathroom, then they surely can control their passion until they are in the privacy of their home or at a motel room. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrazyKing Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 not as public as the middle of a street,but something like parks or places where there arent many ppl.. if u see a couple kissing or rubbing each other,in such places,will u feel repulse?or it's just a way to express affection and no biggie? I'd rather watch someone rubbing each other in the park than someone's dog pooping or a smelly ugly drinker in a corner, or those bad parents who scream at their children... Makes me think positive... I must admit that I often try to figure out how their compatibility is, in a while you're able to fix about how long they've been together or see if they're just posers... It's just like dancing... Damn, I guess the female side of me has spoken... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lila... Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I see it a lot and to be honest, I don't like it. I feel grossed out and uncomfortable. There are places for everything, and I understand the passion of love lol, but can't you wait until you're in the privacy of your own home or elsewhere, not in public? I think it's a bit disrespectful to the people around them, especially so knowing there are children and elderly people around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
civilservant Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I love being affectionate public, holding hands, just touching and of course kissing and hugging, but not to the extent that it could make others uncomfortable... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rangafro Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I am not bothered by kissing. If it is somewhere romantic I think it is kind of cute. Grinding and groping is pretty tacky but I have a neck, it is easy enough to look away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jelina Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I hate it. I think it's gross and it makes you look immature. I remember being on the train once and there was this guy sitting accross from me with his gf, he was sucking on her neck. She was moaning and she was like Oooooh baby that feels sooo good, it was so awkward, I didn't know where to look, the train was crowded and there were kids and elderly people sitting next to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bedrocks Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Once on my birthday my girlfriend asked me what I wanted to do. I suprised myself by saying I wanted her to go with me to a strip club, she agreed. I felt her up in the middle of the place, it was weird doing that knowing no one really cared but some people were watching us. One of the dancers came up to us and asked if we wanted a lap dance. I said yes, girlfriend said NO! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidehop Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 A little peck and being flirtatious, doesn't bother me. It's different when people are on top of each other and making out. That was a bit disturbing at a park I drove by the other day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alli Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 A little kissing (no tongue), a small amount of shoulder rubbing & holding hands or giving a hug I think is perfectly fine. Anything more than that I think is unneccessary. I HATE PDAs. I am very conscious in public & would feel embarrassed showing "affection" in public. I also hate seeing it! I was at a restaurant once & this couple in the booth behind me was kissing. They were behind me so I couldn't see it, but I could hear it & it was gross!! The restaurant manager actually told them to stop! It was awesome. I just think it's very inconsiderate to do things like that in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jd1983 Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I agree, simple acts of affection is just fine with me. When I'm out with my bf, we'll hold hands and tap kiss, but nothing more beyond that. I know I feel uncomfortable with seeing people do that in public, so I can only imagine how they would feel if I was doing the same. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pinnsvini Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Affection is fine in public imo; hand holding, cuddles, kisses, etc. But when it is becoming sexual; making out, intimate rubbing then it's crass and embarassing to see, and I just feel the people doing it are looking for attention. There's no way they lack that amount of self control. They want a reaction from people and I find it pathetic, and it makes me feel uncomfortable. Just makes me want to scream GET A ROOM. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoMuchLove Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I think it's fine. It's just kissing. I think America has issues with it though (I live here) so I'm more curious as to how it is in other countries. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Organs Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Not a fan of it. I remember when I was alone and miserable for much of my life and I resented people who did that. So I don't like to do it out of respect for other people who may be like I was. Besides, I think a lot of people do it just for the sake of doing it, and that's obnoxious to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JusticeLaw9 Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I'm not against PDA, but all that smooching on the elevator or in the grocery line is too much for me. We can hold hands or give a light kiss, but let's not get all crazy with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Yeah, I'm all for hand holding, light kisses and hugs but nothing like straddling him in public and a heavy make out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinkelephant Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 The fact still remains is that there are people and it is disrespectful to the other people around who want to enjoy what they are doing without having to be forced into voyeurism by having two people making out in front of them. People who can't keep their hands off each other in public often do it because they like attention, they want to show everyone "look at me". It has to do more with exhibitionism than with expressing affection. There are subtle ways of expressing affection to your partner in public without having make out sessions. That's not entirely true. This was a long time ago, but I remember couldn't stop making out with my then boyfriend because it just felt SO good. Lol. He stopped me eventually because we ended up with a couple of weird audiences and a few uncomfortable people. It definitely was disrespectful on my part, so I backed off... but it wasn't attention seeking behaviour. It was just selfish and I guess, caught up in the moment. I definitely do not like PDA on others, so I try to avoid it now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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