Is anyone else amused by cheaters new found morals after they cheated on you?

[Alstott Fan]

Every single woman who cheated on me had no qualms at all about lying, cheating and risking passing me an STD while still in a relationship. Yet once they left for the person they cheated on me with they put on the air of being a saint. Now, all of a sudden, they couldn't ever imagine cheating on their new love. They very suggestion made them enraged. Even though they slunk around behind my back like a rabid dog in heat they can't bring themselves to allow a re-tap, or if they do they now develop the ability to feel guilt.

 

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It really it's amusing once you're past the anger and pain of being cheated on when you look at these pathetic excuses for humans and how they have to constantly shift true North on their moral compass so they can look themselves in the mirror without feeling the need to eat the business end of a shotgun.

 

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[sickoflosing]

yes i see that too. that day i saw my cheater ex she "quit smoking cigs and weed" too. but tha b1tch cant even call me cuz she cant do that to her new man but she suuuure could when she was with me

[hexaemeron]

because why should anyone learn from mistakes and give you a reason to move on.

[Alstott Fan]

because why should anyone learn from mistakes and give you a reason to move on.

 

How often to habitual cheaters actually learn from mistakes? I can tell you it only took one time of me cheating to learn to never do that again. Habitual cheaters never learn, they just keep moving the target and claiming it's always been there to rationalize their behavior.

 

Learn and return.

 

 

[sickoflosing]

long enought til the new guy gets stale..so whats that 6 months mebbe?

[BellaStranger]

Once a cheat NOT always a cheat...

 

Happy people don't cheat on their partners.... so maybe she's just happy now... get over it and move on!

 

Oh, and people who say 'It really it's amusing once you're past the anger and pain of being cheated on' amidst a tirade of abuse... are probably not over the anger and pain of being cheated on....

[Miss Firecracker]

How often to habitual cheaters actually learn from mistakes? I can tell you it only took one time of me cheating to learn to never do that again. Habitual cheaters never learn, they just keep moving the target and claiming it's always been there to rationalize their behavior.

 

Learn and return.

 

 

I find it interesting you cheated but look down on other cheaters.

[leq]

I find it interesting you cheated but look down on other cheaters.

 

Not the point he is making.

 

I get it mate.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I find it interesting you cheated but look down on other cheaters.

 

I find that interesting as well. OP, if you cheated on your partner and say that you have now learned from your mistake and will never do it again, why can't it be that your partner who cheated on you has learned from her mistake as well and will never do it again?

[Capricorn3]

I can tell you it only took one time of me cheating to learn to never do that again.

So, you're saying you also found the new morals you're talking about in your first post?

[Tanzi]

Not the point he is making.

 

I get it mate.

 

Agree. There is a difference between making a mistake to being a habitual cheater and pathological liar ... just like my ex-husband in fact

[Sugar-Rush]

I cheated. Not on my husband, on a boyfriend but cheated all the same. I had my reasons (this doesn't make what I did better)

 

But anyway, I learnt from my mistakes and it's made me a person who would never ever cheat again. I am remoseful of what I did, not ending the relationship, but how I went about it. I was very wrong.

 

So does it make me a worse to have learnt from my mistake , than to carry on being a ? Obviously if I could turn back time, I wouldn't have done it in the first place.

 

 

Sugar xx

[Tanzi]

I cheated. Not on my husband, on a boyfriend but cheated all the same. I had my reasons (this doesn't make what I did better)

 

Same here. I cheated on my boyfriend at the very start of our relationship when I didn't think I wanted it to go any further. I was faithful throughout my marriage and once committed I would always be faithful but like you, I had my reasons ... but no excuses ... I won't trivialise what I did with excuses because what I did was wrong whatever the circumstances.

 

I learnt big-time from my mistake and I would never compare myself to my ex-husband who seems to have lied and cheated his way through several relationships recently ... after having done the same to me of course.

[Cognitive_Canine]

One of my boyfriends exes (all of his girlfriends have cheated on him except for me, poor guy) "turned to god" according to her status updates. She will constantly talk about karma and how good is better than evil and how we all must love jesus. Yep, I'm sure she was really thinking about church while she gave a blowjob to one of his friends....

 

Another one is still a complete lady of the night....and proud of it it seems...

[ohemgee]

I think its awesome people can learn from mistakes

[Brownstone322]

Every single woman who cheated on me had no qualms at all about lying, cheating and risking passing me an STD while still in a relationship. Yet once they left for the person they cheated on me with they put on the air of being a saint.

The fact that you describe this behavior in plural makes me wonder if those exes had their reasons for seeking intimacy elsewhere. I'm not defending infidelity, but something tells me they weren't happy with you and they are happy now, which would explain a lot.

[missinghimso]

Obviously if they are serial cheaters, they probably know how to manipulate their way into making people think "they've changed" or "have learned from their mistake". But when you come accross someone who is a one-time cheat and say how "funny" and "amusing" it is that they have learned, would you rather all be serial cheaters?

Have some faith in the world, even though all seems bad and backstabbing, there's still some good left.

Some really do learn a lot from their stupidities.

I know I have..

[Alstott Fan]

Once a cheat NOT always a cheat...

 

Happy people don't cheat on their partners.... so maybe she's just happy now... get over it and move on!

 

Oh, and people who say 'It really it's amusing once you're past the anger and pain of being cheated on' amidst a tirade of abuse... are probably not over the anger and pain of being cheated on....

 

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It was a joke. I'm the type of person who has to laugh at stuff like this or else I'll be on top of a clock tower with a sniper rifle*.

 

*See, that was another joke.

[Alstott Fan]

I find that interesting as well. OP, if you cheated on your partner and say that you have now learned from your mistake and will never do it again, why can't it be that your partner who cheated on you has learned from her mistake as well and will never do it again?

 

To answer the first part, not that it's a reason or excuse, but I cheated on a woman who cheated on me. I was a stupid, selfish immature teenager and felt that getting even was the way to go. I ended up hurting her, myself and the other woman so bad it made me physically ill and seriously depressed. Not to mention the damage I did to both women. Yes, I was a jerk and yes, I deserved every insult and every bit of anger that came my way. I've never met a habitual cheater who has expressed that level of remorse or introspection. Are they out there? I'm sure they are, but I've yet to meet one.

 

As for the second part of your question, I do know they didn't learn from their mistake because both still cheated on their new BF's and husbands. One of them while pregnant with her husbands child. If you can defend that then you are saintly.

[Alstott Fan]

I find it interesting you cheated but look down on other cheaters.

 

See post 19.

[Alstott Fan]

So, you're saying you also found the new morals you're talking about in your first post?

 

Not at all. I went against my nature, morals and better judgment when I cheated. I also went out of my way to make amends, something the people I am referring to have never even attempted.

[Alstott Fan]

Agree. There is a difference between making a mistake to being a habitual cheater and pathological liar ... just like my ex-husband in fact

 

Exactly. One is a bad decision the other is a cycle of behavior that they are not only aware of, but revel in.

[Alstott Fan]

I cheated. Not on my husband, on a boyfriend but cheated all the same. I had my reasons (this doesn't make what I did better)

 

But anyway, I learnt from my mistakes and it's made me a person who would never ever cheat again. I am remoseful of what I did, not ending the relationship, but how I went about it. I was very wrong.

 

So does it make me a worse to have learnt from my mistake , than to carry on being a ? Obviously if I could turn back time, I wouldn't have done it in the first place.

 

 

Sugar xx

 

Thank you, this is what I'm saying.

 

Why some people feel the need to defend people who consistently inflict some of the worst emotional pain one human can inflict on another is beyond me.

 

 

[j.r.c.123]

i agree with the op. i think tbh, they will still be more inclined to cheat if they have done it before. they naturally liars anyway. its likely they will cheat on the partner they say they love after they get bored.

[Alstott Fan]

The fact that you describe this behavior in plural makes me wonder if those exes had their reasons for seeking intimacy elsewhere. I'm not defending infidelity, but something tells me they weren't happy with you and they are happy now, which would explain a lot.

 

Wow. Lots of backseat Dr. Phil's in this thread who refuse to deal with the topic and instead take passive/aggressive shots at me. Could it be you're defending this type of person because you feel a certain kinship with them?

 

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Is there something you'd like to share with the class, Mr. Brownstone?