Mate
Just been reading through your posts. You seem in exactly the same situation as me, even the timing of it all. Have a look at my posts man.
Wish i'd read up sooner, hadnt gone to see her on Monday, we have split up twice before but it never felt like this, and I had doubts about the realationship, always arguing, but now she has gone, I want to take it all back.
Anyway Its day 3, went to see her on monday. She said she needs time to be herself, so I have to respect that.
In my case I think going to see her maybe was the right thing to do, as I hadnt seen her face to face and needed just to see her. She wasnt mean or angry I went round, she was really good about the whole thing. Crying was done by both and I didnt leave feeling like she wished I hadnt come.
Feeling wrong at the moment but im going to.
Let me know how you get on Mr Brightside.