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[dereitis]

I'm so upset because I have stuff going on, I need you so much but I hate your guts.

 

Ahh yes. Mutual feelings.

 

 

I know you emotionally cheated on my multiple times. Your best friend told me you made out with some guy in the second year of our relationship. You cheated on your last guy with me. What a pathetic chain of events. You can't be alone. I feel sorry for you. You stayed with me because I came accross some money. Once that ran out..so did you. I didn't marry you because you were a dramatic ***** that was severely emotionally unstable. Now you're with this new guy. You never took the time to work on yourself so that's what I'm going to do. I think 10 years down the road we'll see who prevailed. I'm certain it won't be you. I genuinely wish horrible relationships on you. I shouldn't have responded to your texts the other day. You have a pull on me that I never thought possible. I'm going to work through being jaded by you. I can't let you ruin the rest of my life. I'm so absolutely ready to be completely detached from you. I know your biggest thing is how extremely jealous you get. I want to rub girls in your face so you get sick to your stomach like I have been. I hope he keeps verbally abusing you like I've heard he does. Sorry I didn't "do everything with you" I think that's your lack of independence. You dragged me around by my hair for 5 years. Wear this, do this, be like this. Love doesn't mean changing someone. Hopefully you can manipulate this guy into the perfect man for you until you smother him so he leaves you and you wish you would have stayed with me.

[dereitis]

"I don't have any friends" was your personal mantra. I've never heard someone so needy for friends. The reason you don't have any is because of the way you treat people. You treat people like **** and they don't want to come around. Let's see, your "best friend" constantly talks down about you to me. Your other good friend calls you a huge *****, one of your favorite friends says to me that you're dramatic and don't care about other's feelings. Your sister used to tell me "you're going to have to live with that for the rest of your life"...that's it! Those are your relationships. Haha. Writing that out made me realize you really have no worth. The guy at the cell phone place who doesn't even know you told my dad to tell me to RUN! Maybe since you're such an attractive girl, you've had everything laid in your lap. That isn't working over so well now.

[tarzann22]

My rose coloured glasses are off. I now know how selfish and self centred you are. You were my bestest of friends. When i was hurting over you all you did was ask me for advice on your insecurities of your new bf. Not once did you ask if id be okay or how im doing. If it were me id make sure you are okay cauae thats what best friends are for. Lucky im a strong person and i can look after myseld. Thankyou for telling me id be a rebound and telling me that you had sex with him the day after i told you my feelings. I dont give second chances and i dont open a door ive closed. You asked me if i would be there for you if he breaks up with you, but where were you when i needed you?

 

In the matter of princple stand like a rock.

[periwinkle00]

It's been just over 5 weeks since we have spoken. You called a week and a half ago, but I didn't pick up the phone.

Ever since I didn't pick up, you have been liking many of my facebook posts and statuses. It's driving me kind of crazy. At first, I liked it, and felt ok without responding, but now, I feel like I want to message you or call you..but I know it wouldn't be right. The longest we have gone before without talking is 6 weeks. I want to at least make it past that mark, but honestly, I know it would be best to not have you in my life at all.

[S.Ken]

Having time to think, I can actually accept the fact that my romantic gestures weren't enough for you. I can accept that you chose to be with another man you had been stringing along for months. I can also come to terms with the fact that I had more emotionally invested in us than you did.

 

However, one thing I cannot overlook is the fact that you used me as a distraction as you tried to work out your feelings for another man. I gave you so many opportunities in the most articulate and eloquent way I could to own up to your actions after I admitted to my own wrong doings and faults, but you never did. In fact you actually justified them by saying you did not promise me anything or commit to me anyway.

 

This may be true, but you KNEW how I felt about you. If I didn't express it through words I did so with actions, at the very least you KNEW how much emotionally involved I was to you. However, you made the decision to use me as an emotional and physical surrogate as you tried reopening communications with ****. This is wrong on a fundamental level. You do not use people you claim you "love" and care about and while knowing how deeply they care about you as a tool of distraction.

 

You also did the same thing to the other guy when you slept with him after he made it clear to you he wanted to be more than friends, but you justified your actions by telling him "you weren't ready for a relationship." Yet you were shocked and surprised when he got pissed at you for refusing to start a romantic relationship with him after sleeping with him for weeks. Newsflash, you do NOT have sex with someone who clearly is in love with you and not expect some sort of emotional backlash.

 

For someone who claims to be so nurturing and caring, you have almost NO empathy for the emotional ramifications your actions have upon people.

 

The most disconcerting aspect of this situation is that I actually think you believe what you did wasn't wrong. You made no effort to apologize while painting yourself as some sort of figure of integrity and honesty. If you had simply acknowledged what you did was wrong, as I had admitted to my own wrongdoings then I firmly believe we would have a decent foundation to begin building a friendship, but that didn't happen.

 

After that revelation, I had two choices: Continue trying to convince you that you were wrong and force an acknowledgement that would only escalate into something ugly and pointless or just walk away from the situation entirely. Actually, that wasn't much of a choice at all.

[simplexity]

You're a great person to be with. I'm sorry I asked for more than you can give.

 

I'd give things a shot, if you'd be as brave as me.

 

Awww, this is nice , we are on the same boat except that he changed completley and no longer nice to me

[periwinkle00]

I don't know if I can make it to 6 weeks no contact. It's only coming up in a few days. Maybe I can do it. Oh man....I am getting worn down, thinking about you.

[Hazyillusions]

E, I'd love a hug from you right now.

[periwinkle00]

I am learning to not expect you to like my facebook posts anymore. You do, more often than not, but when you don't, I get this sinking feeling that you've given up on me. I don't make an effort to communicate with you, because I don't think it would be right to rekindle the connection right now.

[IAmFCA]

EWWWWWW

 

When will the end ever arrive?

 

Sometimes I get this sense that I should fb you or google you, and its random and always a waste of my time. But I do it, because FOR EXAMPLE that is how I discovered you are married. Which is BAD ENOUGH and you really challenge my patience with that crap.

 

So tonight for some reason I thought I needed to google. What did I find? A vid you posted of your talented little self, on a porn site. More interesting, I found a post under the vid from 4 days ago, right about the time of your wedding. Someone who named you by name, named your wife, named your town. AND THEN I FOUND a fb page established for the purpose of hating you.

 

I so wish I could friend it but I will not waste my energy and sully myself by hating you. I will accept that I really WHEW dodged a bullet here. I can not erase the fact that you are the biggest mistake I ever made. As a lover, as a friend.

 

Well, your wife really got a prize didn't she.

 

You disgust me. My effort is to make sure I do not disgust myself.

[Notagoodninja]

I hate you for all you put me through

I hate it that my finances and life and sleep are all wacked out because of you

I hope you never find love or happiness I hope you live alone and miserable with your own self

[kinders]

Do you miss me?

[IAmFCA]

Huh, you already took down the porn vid. She saw it? Or did you escape undetected?

 

Your end will come to you, I'm only partially sorry to say. It always does.

[Notagoodninja]

I hate you.

It's been a long time now and I am very proud of myself for staying away from you. The more I stay away from you the more I hate you!

[FindingClarity]

I've waited 2 years for you playing it your way.. and now after all this time you still haven't come through for me. It feels like all the love you felt was a lie. I just want to be a part of your life.

[IAmFCA]

I am really hopeful that someone else is doing to you what you deserve, but I doubt it's bad enough.

[IAmFCA]

This is what I got: you see me almost every day. You drove someone else's car to see me. you didn't want me to know.I busted you. it's complicated. I'm supposed to be waiting for an explanation?

 

I am important to you, more time than anyone else, you didn't want to mess it up?

 

there's a conversation we are supposed to have?

 

Okay " see me" might be an overstatement, commute to workout at least.

 

whatever. I'm tired, what else is there.

 

you suck atm

[IAmFCA]

This is what I got: you see me almost every day. You drove someone else's car to see me. you didn't want me to know.I busted you. it's complicated. I'm supposed to be waiting for an explanation?

 

I am important to you, more time than anyone else, you didn't want to mess it up?

 

there's a conversation we are supposed to have?

 

Okay " see me" might be an overstatement, commute to workout at least.

 

whatever. I'm tired, what else is there.

 

you suck atm

 

oh yeah, we are not even dating.

 

what is up with you?

[periwinkle00]

I made it to 6 weeks NC! I have made it this long, once before, with you.

I am proud of myself, but I am feeling the weight on my shoulders. It's hard. Really hard. I don't have enough friends to cancel you out.

There aren't enough distractions, sometimes. When I go to bed, I think of you, holding me, but I am glad when I close my eyes, because I am escaping the suffering that I feel all day, in one degree, or another.

 

All I know, is if you want a relationship here, you're going to have to try harder than you ever have. All I did was give, and you just took all the love out of me. I know that we wouldn't work, right now.

[IAmFCA]

I'm tired. honesty is so simple. I am beginning to think it's a rare trait.

 

I messaged you by mistake, yes, now you know how I talked about you to my friend. it makes it so plain that lying is what matters.

 

Own your life.

 

and no response to me now. I guess I just won't hear from you for a few days, a week, maybe a month.

 

I am hurt and I am pissed. I deserve better, not as a gf or anything. as a human.

[Coins]

Yesterday I found out you started dating again. Really, T? It's only been a month since you decided to call it off. I tried and I did everything I could for you, I tried being the best I could for you to put that adorable smile on your face. Although you were never the best girlfriend, I grew so attached to you. I have to ask, did you ever feel the same?

 

Not only did I find out you were dating again, but I found out you were fighting constantly with him. We never fought, why do this to yourself? I just don't understand, T. How did you move on so quickly even after all the things you told me?

 

And me? Why am I still jealous? Why am I upset? I don't want to be and I just want you out of my head. I threw away those cute little drawings you made from me, your picture you gave me to put in my wallet, I don't even respond to your good mornings anymore.

 

Please, T, get out of my head.

 

From,

C

[Chalk]

I'm having a moment a missing you. I miss your comfort, I miss the birds, I miss your sunshine. I don't miss how much you appeared to detest me but I guess that's my bad. It really hurts sometimes. Just keep moving.

[AutumnBorn]

Please, idiot, stop hitting on me! Nothing you do turns me on or interests me. Find a way to get me out of your head. Please.

[Jayru]

I had a rough morning and was doing better this afternoon. Until you text me only to complain about my sister.

I get it, it was a mistake letting her move in. I regret alot of things.

 

And then I replied like an idiot to you... to let you know I understood why you are annoyed... and then you reply with emoticons?? I dont even deserve words anymore???

 

I am so hurt, annoyed, angry. Why?????

 

Why cant you love me unconditionally like I loved you. Why cant you forgive me like I have forgiven you. You never have had to fight for me.

 

I may have made mistakes, but you knew I would never leave you.

 

Why are you trying to place all the blame on me??? I cannot just forget all the pain you caused me in the first 5 years, even though you say that nothing matters before the baby was born. It does matter. I cried those tears for you, I cried and always begged you to come back after you wronged me.

 

Why cant you do the same???

 

Why am I the bad guy??

[IAmFCA]

OK, I get it.

 

1 You said you were selfish, that maybe I wouldnt be your friend anymore and so you were selfish

2 I get that then there we were, and you didnt know how to handle it, and you made the wrong choice, and having previously avoided conversations, then you were out of time and unclear how to handle it

3 It is true, if you were a full on f around playa then you would have gone there with me, but you respected my rules

4 I am in your head

5 I am worth more than you

 

For now, you may have been right about #1

But I know you will be my friend again eventually, even if it is in just a few days or a few weeks.

You are a coward, in some ways, but so very clear headed in other ways. Maybe you learn strength from me, I learn clarity from you.

 

We agreed that now we know each other better, and that we were glad for that.

You agreed to have conversations

I agreed to call you, sleep on it, no poison pen emails

 

What do I want from you now? I want to make you live without me

You would be right, thats isnt nice

 

And, uh, just a reminder. Your parents know about me, Mitch is on board, but yeah, we are not dating.

 

whatever. You will not know until its past knowing. You are ENTP like me, I get it.

 

 

Oh, and btw, its not commitment issues if you havent met anyone to whom you want to commit.

 

 

 

 

 

Right now, I am working on disappearing. Because, you know, you basically just said you are dating trollops but needing to connect to me. Yeah, and why should I let you connect to me exactly?