valentino2003 Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 Majority of my partners (xcept my first bf) including a quick one night stand in vegas NEVER received a bj from me before. LOL the point is last night I talked to my ex "first" real bf.....he pointed out to me that he is with a new girl now who "sucks his pee pee" good and that he wished I would've did him that favor too. All of my guy friends talk about how their gf's suck them dry and they basically talk down on their gf's....... My girl friends do it all the time like its candy LOL I know men love bj's and for some reason I just think its gross, can't stand the taste or smell.......(even if he showered) My point is why do men like receiving bj's but always talk down on a woman when she gives him a bj? Link to comment
Ac143 Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 This is a good question, cause I never gave BJ's either - just never liked it. My exes complained about it, but my SO now always said to me from the beginning that "that" is not something he wants his serious GF or wife to do, he says he can live without them. I mean I would if he wanted me to but never even asked or hinted lol. But he loves giving it to me...IDK! Every guy I talked to also talked down about the girls that gave them BJ's. The guys that didn't talk about it were ones that were married or in a serious relationship...hmmm Link to comment
zzprometheuszz Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 Oral sex has been around since cavemen.... ..I mean, right? Maybe I'm wrong. But I thought it was always done. LoL, maybe you can do some research on it (cause i am lazy) Wouldn't it be nice to know the actual answer As far as women is concern, (again, please correct me if I am wrong) my understand is that only 20% of the women had climax from penetration. Oral sex is probably necessary to please women. So if you don't want to give oral sex, would you expect oral sex from your partner? Link to comment
melrich Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 If I am correct, and please correct me if I am wrong. Oral sex wasn't around before the sexual revolution 40 years ago. You are wrong. Wildly wrong. Link to comment
Samedy Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 Oral sex has been around since cavemen.... ..I mean, right? Maybe I'm wrong. But I thought it was always done. Most likely. We've always had mouths and junk.... It probably became more popular once soap was invented. Link to comment
Jpo Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 Honestly, I don't care that much about blow jobs. I like them, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me -- I would rather just have sex, but they are nice if the situation doesn't allow for intercourse. I have a feeling I am a bit weird about that though, and a lot of guys would be really put off by refusal. I will say that it might make me think there is something wrong with me and that is why you don't want to do it. Something to consider. Link to comment
Tw3aks Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 My girl sucks and swallows and it's a major turn on. I don't talk down on girls who do it, don't see why anyone would? Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 I don't like giving it if I'm not in love with the guy. It sounds weird, but it totally disgusts me. I could have sex with him, but bjs are oddly more intimate. I don't understand the smell business. It smells just like normal skin??? Ask him to shave, maybe? Link to comment
Fiend Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 All of my guy friends talk about how their gf's suck them dry and they basically talk down on their gf's....... My point is why do men like receiving bj's but always talk down on a woman when she gives him a bj? I really hate hearing guys/men talking about this. It's really made me lose respect for the male gender. I don't know why most guys are so interested in publicly degrading their girlfriends. Link to comment
livefree Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 If I am correct, and please correct me if I am wrong. Oral sex wasn't around before the sexual revolution 40 years ago. Just googled it...the source I founds says they were around since 1337s AD. How they know that, I have no idea. Supposedly they were used as "gifts." But yah they weren't publicly popularized till much later, somewhere in the early 1900s. And back on the original subject. I don't understand why people would be discussing blow jobs amongst a group of people? That's typically not something most people talk about unless it's with someone close to them, asking for advice or something along those lines. Sounds like immaturity to me. Link to comment
onewithbooks Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 Probably men watching too much porn (yup, back to that subject) If I am correct, and please correct me if I am wrong. Oral sex wasn't around before the sexual revolution 40 years ago. But since then all women give bj in porn film and now it's almost expected in a relationship. It's about giving and receiving. I guess if you don't expect oral sex from him then it's fair. just my opinion The Kama Sutra was published in English in 1883 and in there they talked about "sucking the mango". Link to comment
Sky-Cherries Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 I read once that men like it because it gives them the feeling of dominance, and seeing a woman kneel before him and give her total attention to his 'member', makes him feel as if that part of him is being worshipped and is irrisistable. I personally adore giving oral to my fiance. Especially in the shower, then he can cum on me and there's a quick wash-off avaliable. Link to comment
zzprometheuszz Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 ok...i am going to go ahead and delete my post.... no need to say it over and over again that i was wrong this thread isn't really about my knowledge on the subject Link to comment
livefree Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 I will say that it might make me think there is something wrong with me and that is why you don't want to do it. Something to consider. I can kind of see that. I know that with one of my ex's, he would openly tell me that he didn't want to go down on me because it was gross. He wouldn't elaborate any further, and I was left thinking that it was ME he thought was nasty. Weird part is that I was too shy to ask him to go down on me, so it was his who brought it up to tell me it was "nasty." I personally would never give a blow job to someone I don't know. Kind of the "I don't know where it's been" so it may be unhygenic. Then once I'm in a relationship, I have no problem with it. It's all personal preference. Some people may have a problem with it, some may not. It just depends on what people are willing to give up. Link to comment
Organs Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 One, I'm pretty sure the French gave the world oral sex (figuratively and literally). Two, what guy talks down to his partner when he's receiving? Three, if you don't want to, you don't have to, but it's a little like being the one who won't get in the water when everyone else will. Four, there are foods and beverages a man can consume to make his cum more palatable. Five, for what it's worth, I like performing oral sex so much that I don't even need a blowjob in return. EDIT: As far as why men like it, to me, it's the idea more than anything. It's like, hey, I pee out of that thing! And sticky cum comes out of there! And you're willing to put it in your mouth and suck out whatever fluids come out, and you like the idea of it? Kinky! To me, sex is partially about what kinky and questionable things people are absolutely willing to do, that normal convention would say they would otherwise avoid doing. Like pain and watersports. Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 I read once that men like it because it gives them the feeling of dominance, and seeing a woman kneel before him and give her total attention to his 'member', makes him feel as if that part of him is being worshipped and is irrisistable. i have a Q relevant to this... both my roommie and i had the same experience. my ex asked me to look up at him... while i was um, performing... but when i did, he laughed??? what the hell? my roommie had the same thing happened to her. can someone please explain that. Link to comment
Sky-Cherries Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 i have a Q relevant to this... both my roommie and i had the same experience. my ex asked me to look up at him... while i was um, performing... but when i did, he laughed??? what the hell? my roommie had the same thing happened to her. can someone please explain that. Laughed?! Jeez, that's a let down! Just before the end, I look up and with him still in my mouth, I go "mmmmmm", as if it's the tastiest thing I've ever had. Drives him wild. Link to comment
UptownGuy Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 Majority of my partners (xcept my first bf) including a quick one night stand in vegas NEVER received a bj from me before. LOL the point is last night I talked to my ex "first" real bf.....he pointed out to me that he is with a new girl now who "sucks his pee pee" good and that he wished I would've did him that favor too. If a girl doesn't like giving bjs, in my experience, she probably has some issues with sex in general. Girls that have sexual hangups are not exactly the best sexual partners, for obvious reasons. All of my guy friends talk about how their gf's suck them dry and they basically talk down on their gf's....... My girl friends do it all the time like its candy LOL That is YOUR perception of what they are saying. Viewed through your own negative bias of oral sex. You feel that is degrading or what ever and when someone talks about it, you hear what you want to hear. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 The only time I was married was because I can give a great blowjob! He couldn't reciprocate on the same level, so it was doomed from the start. I love oral sex more than intercourse! I love giving blowjobs, I love to experiment with different positions (I'm often on top), different substances in my mouth (try them with mint or ice, your guy will go wild!) and in different places (let your mind and your bodies wander, the possibilities are endless). Oral sex is what kept me from getting pregnant for many years, though I do love intercourse as well. The main reason I love blowjobs is because I am in charge and I like that. Another reason I love it is because most often a man will reciprocate until I am shaking from exhaustion. Hey, it's a win-win deal! My bf adores me and tells me and others how wonderful I am! Doesn't sound like he's putting me down at all! In fact, I've never heard a man put a woman down because she loves oral sex. Link to comment
ProtestTheHero Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 You are wrong. Wildly wrong. Yep. They've been doing that shiz since Song of Songs. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 All the good stuff has been around forever, hasn't it? Link to comment
ay0_x Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 I really don't know what the fuss about smell/taste is. But maybe i've just been lucky. It's nothing soap can't fix, and you dont have to swallow it anyhow. For some girls, it's a power/control thing: knowing you're the sole source of someone's pleasure and them being powerless in a way and not being able to control their emotions. Other girls are just "oral".. they love kissing and basically doing anything with their mouths, usually the same girls who bite their fingernails obsessively or chew gum. (If it fits in their mouth, they'll put it there haha). Link to comment
Organs Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 For some girls, it's a power/control thing: knowing you're the sole source of someone's pleasure and them being powerless in a way and not being able to control their emotions. Other girls are just "oral".. they love kissing and basically doing anything with their mouths, usually the same girls who bite their fingernails obsessively or chew gum. (If it fits in their mouth, they'll put it there haha). That's so...Hegelian... Link to comment
ay0_x Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 ...o...m...g....I just had a breakthrough. Thank ya ma'am!! lol LOL! Personal experience. I've realized you and I agree a lot on these topics haha. Sex twin! That's so...Hegelian... Lol how so? Link to comment
Organs Posted July 17, 2009 Share Posted July 17, 2009 Lol how so? Well, the great thinker Hegel has his Master/Slave dialectic where, because the Slave is aware of his/her position and also that of the Master, the Slave is the more powerful of the two. We applied the concept to "Fight Club" to elaborate on it once. I have to say it again, though. It's weird to me that guys talk down to their partners when receiving blowjobs. Then again, I don't like talking at all during sex. It's a physical thing, like taking a dump or a hot bath. Those are things that are experienced by touch and with the body, therefore talk is....well, unnecessary. To me, anyway. Link to comment
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