TFulton88 Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 So i went to a bar the other day for my friends birthday. I usually don't think i come accross as gay, but i probably did that night...it was me and like 6 girls. haha. At any rate, at one point, this guy from my college was passing by behind me. Out of no where he stopped, and like started to dance/grind up behind me. He also ran his hand down my chest (remember he was behind me) in a very sexual manor. And as he was leaving, he grabbed my female-friend's ass. I...just don't know what to make of this. I know this guy is straight, and he was wasted...so i'm assuming it was meant to offend me or something. But i don't really know. This isn't exactly something that happens very often. I figured I'd ask you guys. Your thoughts? Link to comment
riley123 Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 I don't really understand the question...He sounds like a typical, drunk jerk to me...probably trying to be funny, but just comes off as a creep. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Maybe he thought he was being funny or cute. I'd laugh it off and ignore him, unless you're both drunk in the same place and it happens again.. Link to comment
alli Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 My bf has been mistaken as being gay several times. He told me about times guys have hit on him while out at a bar. He said one tried to grab him, so he responded by grabbing that guy's hand and squeezing it... hard. Another guy hit on him & he told the guy he'd punch him if he didn't go away, so yeah... that leaves little doubt that he does not like it when guys hit on him, and the guys never do it again. Before we were together he never really had a gf, so I think he was more sensitive about people thinking he's gay since he's not. You wouldn't have to respond with violence. Just turn around & be like "dude, not cool" Link to comment
knightNshiningarmor Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 My bf has been mistaken as being gay several times. He told me about times guys have hit on him while out at a bar. He said one tried to grab him, so he responded by grabbing that guy's hand and squeezing it... hard. Another guy hit on him & he told the guy he'd punch him if he didn't go away, so yeah... that leaves little doubt that he does not like it when guys hit on him, and the guys never do it again. Before we were together he never really had a gf, so I think he was more sensitive about people thinking he's gay since he's not. You wouldn't have to respond with violence. Just turn around & be like "dude, not cool" boyfriend sounds pretty insensitive...i usually go with the "dont let my style fool ya, im straight as a flag pole" Link to comment
alli Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 boyfriend sounds pretty insensitive...i usually go with the "dont let my style fool ya, im straight as a flag pole" Yeah I can see why it'd seem that way... but people often mistake him as being gay so he feels kind of insecure about it. He's not homophobic... his aunt is gay & he still thinks she is awesome, he just really doesn't want people to think he is gay. I agree it is an overreaction! It doesn't really happen now anyway because we are usually at a bar together so there is little question as to his availability and sexual orientation. Link to comment
1WayTicket2Norway Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 So i went to a bar the other day for my friends birthday. I usually don't think i come accross as gay, but i probably did that night...it was me and like 6 girls. haha. At any rate, at one point, this guy from my college was passing by behind me. Out of no where he stopped, and like started to dance/grind up behind me. He also ran his hand down my chest (remember he was behind me) in a very sexual manor. And as he was leaving, he grabbed my female-friend's ass. I...just don't know what to make of this. I know this guy is straight, and he was wasted...so i'm assuming it was meant to offend me or something. But i don't really know. This isn't exactly something that happens very often. I figured I'd ask you guys. Your thoughts? I'm ashamed to say it, but he sounds like me when i'm drunk...so he's probably gay and deep in the closet. I found that while i was still in the closet and decided to have a few drinks my repressed sexual urges would bubble out and i would do something totally stupid like that. That's why i've stopped drinking haha Link to comment
Donster Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Sounds like drunken horseplay. I would just laugh it off and forget about it. Link to comment
chiefoptimizer Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I'm ashamed to say it, but he sounds like me when i'm drunk...so he's probably gay and deep in the closet. I found that while i was still in the closet and decided to have a few drinks my repressed sexual urges would bubble out and i would do something totally stupid like that. That's why i've stopped drinking haha Haha, that's why I decided to never drink when I was in the closet, I figured it could accidentally out me. But I still don't now, lol, I prefer to remember when I have fun, haha! Link to comment
liveconfidence Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I respect anyone with the courage to hit on me, regardless of gender. He may have thought he was teasing you or something? Link to comment
TFulton88 Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 I don't think he was teasing me. It was a guy on campus, who i kinda know just from seeing him around. And i think i messed up when i was eplaining this...i think he was mocking me for being gay....not that he was really flirting with me. idk though. not that pictures matter, but it was this guy: link removed Link to comment
Nina_2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 You say this guy is straight and used to know you through college. It is a typical reaction of the straight guy to go into competition when he sees one. And you were there with EIGHT girls!!!! Can you imagine his frustration? He sees his former classmate, who is surrounded by girls and let's say he knows or suspects about your sexual preference... so by moving around you in a sexual dance he let these 8 girls know that they are wasting their time on you and he grabs girl's butt to show that he is the real one for them. He is a jerk. He acted out of jealousy. Link to comment
lukeb Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 I'm not sure why you showed us his picture, doesnt seem right. You are accusing him of something and he is not here to defend himself. Considering where it happened, I wouldnt think much of the incident if the advances are unwanted you should have told him then and there. Link to comment
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