Ms.Lady Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 I've started talking with this guy for the past couple of weeks who approached me at a mall. Normally I don't really pursue guys that much older than me but I'm very interested in him. He's very handsome and he treats me with respect and he seems very nice.When he approached ,he started talking with me about a book I was reading at our local book store at the mall, we hit it off so well that we exchanged numbers. He was a little shock to find out during our conversation over the phone that I was 22 as he said that I look & sound very mature for my age. He told me he was 30 which kind of threw me for a loop. I don't see it as a problem. Though it makes me feel a little uneasy. Do you think a possible relationship can form between a 22 year old and a 30 year old?? Link to comment
knightingale Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Of course it can. My brother is engaged to a girl who is 8 years younger than him--she's 24, he's 32. They've been together almost five years, and getting married in June. Link to comment
CaptainPlanet Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Look I honestly think that is a perfect age gap if you are looking for an older man. Thirty is not that old, and twenty two not all that young. If you are both depending on each other for certain things then you've got the perfect age gap. Any older than that and I'd start to question it. Link to comment
Traveler27 Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Absolutely no problem. You are both practically in the same generation! And in my opinion, it is always better to go up in terms of age range - you always want the guy to be several years older than you, as most men usually take a bit longer to mature emotionally. So by dating a slightly older guy, you have a slightly better chance for emotional stability. Link to comment
KG Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 If he said you look/sound more mature...that's the green light! Link to comment
top bloke Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Nothing wrong with the age difference at all.. Go for it.. Link to comment
MyNinja Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Nothing wrong with it. When you're 30 he will be 38. You'll both be in your thirties!!! (if it makes you feel better) I'm with someone now that's 8 years older. I wouldn't want him any yourger or older Link to comment
melrich Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 That's not such a big gap. In fact I am pretty sure that the sort of "pop" defintion of an age gap relationship is 10 years? Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 You're both legal and i think a gap of 10 years or less when you're both legal age rarely causes any problems due to the age difference. Link to comment
jengh Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 I see no problems at all with it. My ex is 8 years older (22 and he will be 30 this year)... in this case, age is just a number Link to comment
Pandaj Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 My girlfriend is over twice my age and I will love her forever. I am 21, she is 49. She will die someday and leave me alone, but until then...Happily ever after. Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted February 10, 2009 Share Posted February 10, 2009 Im 22 soon to be 23, my bf is 35... We have a great relationship and live together. I have dated guys my own age and a couple years older. Yes I have dated older men like my current bf. I figured age is only a number and if you guys as a couple get along then great. it should only matter to you two and no one else. Yeah I get cr*p from people here and there. But my both of my parents have met him and they both say he is the best guy they have ever met and they also noticed that I was more happy now with him than I have ever been. Yes we have talked about getting married in the future and I would be honored to marry him. He is a great guy who treats me wonderful. We have great chemistry and are best friends. Link to comment
smagojiro Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 There is one thing I can think of that could be an issue and bear in mind this is all based on generalizations, which of course are only so useful. Often when you're 22 you may have yet to be settled down into an adult life, i.e. you may still be living a sort of 'college' lifestyle or extended adoleseence where going out to bars and parties and a busy social life is a priority to you and you haven't yet felt what it's like to be in a pattern of waking up every day and going to work, which can be very boring. You probably haven't had a mortgage, kids, etc. At 30, a person has likely done these things. I could see how it could be difficult for two people in different phases of their life like this to mesh. Your 20's are also the time when you sort of turn into your adult self. I think the same age gap later on wouldn't matter at al, say 30 and 38, because by that time you've both settled into your adult lives. Link to comment
Princess_star Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 Im 22 and they guy im seeing is turning 31 what do you think to the age gap? I think in todays society this age gap means nothing if you are both happy then who cares? all i worry about is telling the family! Link to comment
Will D Ness Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 Since most of us are 8 to 10 years EMOTIONALLY younger than our age, should be a perfect fit! Don't think another thing about it. 22/30 is just fine. 14/22 would be a problem...LOL. Link to comment
Princess_star Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 Does it change if the partner has a child? Link to comment
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