RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 Then why bother trying to sneak away? Just tell her you're leaving, let her do her withdrawing, and get yourself out of there in a nice organized way. Otherwise you'll probably end up dropping that Plasma off the back of the truck in your haste to get away. haha, there is a better chance of me marrying this girl tomorrow than dropping that Plasma Link to comment
striker_dude Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 haha, there is a better chance of me marrying this girl than dropping that Plasma At least you've got your priorities straight! Link to comment
RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 At least you've got your priorities straight! Or, at the least, I'm getting them straight Link to comment
RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 So, what if she says she's sorry, will really work on it, will try her best to change. Should I give her a chance? Or is this just truly doomed? In my mind it's barely salvageable Link to comment
striker_dude Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 So, what if she says she's sorry, will really work on it, will try her best to change. Should I give her a chance? Or is this just truly doomed? In my mind it's barely salvageable No, because she won't change. Even if she did start showing you affection, it's forced. It's not her. It will NEVER be her. Link to comment
DN Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 So, what if she says she's sorry, will really work on it, will try her best to change. Should I give her a chance? Or is this just truly doomed? In my mind it's barely salvageableIf you do - don't move back in. Let her show you she really means it and part of that would be getting some counselling to deal with her issues. Link to comment
striker_dude Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 You can't counsel someone to be affectionate. Link to comment
RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 If you do - don't move back in. Let her show you she really means it and part of that would be getting some counselling to deal with her issues. Unfortunately she'll never admit to having "issues." She will say the coldness and lack of affection is just "the way she is." She will say the lack of sex is because she has no drive and is sore. She won't admit to having an issue. I surmise she thinks this behavior is normal in a relationship? Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Unfortunately she'll never admit to having "issues." She will say the coldness and lack of affection is just "the way she is." She will say the lack of sex is because she has no drive and is sore. She won't admit to having an issue. I surmise she thinks this behavior is normal in a relationship? Probably, and in that case you are really screwed in this relationship. Link to comment
hiphop3 Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 but how many chances have you given her? there's only so many you can give she clearly isn't fighting for this relationship WITH you if she won't face things Link to comment
striker_dude Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Unfortunately she'll never admit to having "issues." She will say the coldness and lack of affection is just "the way she is." She will say the lack of sex is because she has no drive and is sore. She won't admit to having an issue. I surmise she thinks this behavior is normal in a relationship? Yes she will, no she has no drive, yes she's sore, and no, she won't admit to having issues, and yes she thinks its normal. You can't save this one. You can however save the plasma TV. Link to comment
RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 Yes she will, no she has no drive, yes she's sore, and no, she won't admit to having issues, and yes she thinks its normal. You can't save this one. You can however save the plasma TV. haha. And the surround sound >_> And the Wii! It's good to laugh at least. Link to comment
RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 but how many chances have you given her? there's only so many you can give she clearly isn't fighting for this relationship WITH you if she won't face things We've had at least 5-6 conversations about this the last three months. Each one ends with "I'll try harder" from her. It never happens. Link to comment
DN Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Have you ever had that conversation when she knows that you really mean to end the relationship? Not just talk - but action? Link to comment
RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 Have you ever had that conversation when she knows that you really mean to end the relationship? Not just talk - but action? I think she calls my bluff. I've told her the physicality problems could be the end of us, but it's never escalated to where she REALLY though I would dump her. Once, however, during an argument, I jumped out of bed and told her I was going home, and she didn't like that at all and changed her tune fast. I think that's the only time she thought I would split. Link to comment
striker_dude Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 I think she calls my bluff. I've told her the physicality problems could be the end of us, but it's never escalated to where she REALLY though I would dump her. Once, however, during an argument, I jumped out of bed and told her I was going home, and she didn't like that at all and changed her tune fast. I think that's the only time she thought I would split. It will be a rollercoaster. You seriously threaten to leave..she realizes you mean it. She starts being affectionate and not complaining about painful sex. For a few days, a week..then she drifts back to her old ways. You threaten to leave again..she doesn't take you seriously. You "really mean it this time". You start disassembling the surround sound system..she comes up behind you and starts stroking your back. You relent and put back the center and rear speakers...you have good sex. The next day she hardly even gives you the time of day. You longingly look up at the plasma TV and wonder what size socket wrench you will need to take the bracket off the wall... ETC Link to comment
DN Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Well, once you leave she will really mean to change, will pretend to change or will accept what your decision. The tricky thing will be if she pretends to change. Link to comment
RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 It will be a rollercoaster. You seriously threaten to leave..she realizes you mean it. She starts being affectionate and not complaining about painful sex. For a few days, a week..then she drifts back to her old ways. You threaten to leave again..she doesn't take you seriously. You "really mean it this time". You start disassembling the surround sound system..she comes up behind you and starts stroking your back. You relent and put back the center and rear speakers...you have good sex. The next day she hardly even gives you the time of day. You longingly look up at the plasma TV and wonder what size socket wrench you will need to take the bracket off the wall... ETC ROFL, post of the year. Although it has some sexual innuendo-laden electronic references. But hey whatever, I get more action out of my plasma anyway. Link to comment
striker_dude Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 ROFL, post of the year. Although it has some sexual innuendo-laden electronic references. But hey whatever, I get more action out of my plasma anyway. Ryan, on a serious note. You Plasma TV will always give you unconditional love. Link to comment
RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 Ryan, on a serious note. You Plasma TV will always give you unconditional love. Especially when my blu-ray player is channeling it's sweet love to it. Ah, this has gotten into a man-electronic-love-fest. I still have this issue, of this girl, in the next room, who I'm trying to figure out. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Especially when my blu-ray player is channeling it's sweet love to it. Ah, this has gotten into a man-electronic-love-fest. I still have this issue, of this girl, in the next room, who I'm trying to figure out. Nice to see you taking a moment to laugh! LOL Link to comment
striker_dude Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Especially when my blu-ray player is channeling it's sweet love to it. Ah, this has gotten into a man-electronic-love-fest. I still have this issue, of this girl, in the next room, who I'm trying to figure out. If that plasma is 1080p you don't need a girl in your life. You don't have the time. Link to comment
RyanD333 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 If that plasma is 1080p you don't need a girl in your life. You don't have the time. But of course it is. I take my electronics as seriously as my relationships. You should see my threads on the Home theater forums! Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 If that plasma is 1080p you don't need a girl in your life. You don't have the time. You are a hoot!!!!!!!! LMAO Link to comment
striker_dude Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 But of course it is. I take my electronics as seriously as my relationships. You should see my threads on the Home theater forums! I got a 50" Panasonic plasma but I didn't shell out the dough for a 1080p. It's a 720p..when I bought it I compared it side by side with the 1080s and didn't see a big difference.. But I don't want to derail your thread so let me just say this. You are obviously a man of discerning taste who knows he wants and deserves the best. She aint never gonna do it for you. It's time to cut your loses and move on. More Blu-ray titles come out everyday. Link to comment
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