Decado Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 I think ill just go straight into it. I dont think i can have sex because i feel embarrassed about how i look. Its not that im excessively overweight or cant have sex, its just that i have pock marks all over my skin from puberty ( mainly on the back of my legs and my butt I am a virgin (still!) and just wanted to ask anyone who has sex if this stuff matters to you guys and whether i should be so worried. thanks Decado Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 I lost alot of weight so I have some extra skin. I told my BF about it and he's fine with it. Just be upfront and honest about stuff like this. Listen hon...NO ONE has a perfect body. Don't put so much pressure on yourself! My best to you ~Allie Link to comment
redhearts Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Just make sure she isn't behind you during sex, oh wait that doesn't happen shes not a guy. Link to comment
Divine_Malice Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 You'll be fine your partner will understand cause I am sure there is something that she wont like about her body. Be confident it will be fine like allie said no one has a perfect body. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 You'll be fine your partner will understand cause I am sure there is something that she wont like about her body. Be confident it will be fine like allie said no one has a perfect body. exactly...as much as you are focusing on you imperfections, she'll be focusins on her! Link to comment
Decado Posted October 19, 2008 Author Share Posted October 19, 2008 thanks guys. I appreciate it. Link to comment
KG Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 When you become intimate, you overlook the others flaws. If you can't you're self centered. Link to comment
justbrowsing Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Everyone is self-conscious about their body and it's flaws. We are our own worst critics. The person you become intimate with will probably thinking about other things (like their imperfections). Don't sweat it and enjoy the moment. Link to comment
justbrowsing Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Have to add that funky odors are definitely a turn off--but that can easily be fixed w/a shower Link to comment
Taomagicdragon Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 You're 19, relax. You still have plenty of other things to be insecure over to let pock marks bother you. Link to comment
kenshinkitten Posted October 20, 2008 Share Posted October 20, 2008 Everyone has imperfections, you have to try and get over them. I know that's hard. My boyfriend has chest scars from open heart surgery when he was a teenager, I knew that when we first started dating. He has weird stretch marks on his back from...well it's a mystery. He had a scar under his stomach close to his penis from a hernia operation. He was pretty insecure about those things but I looked past them and still do because why should this really matter? We all have imperfections and if someone doesn't liek them then that someone isn't right for you. Link to comment
jengh Posted October 20, 2008 Share Posted October 20, 2008 Aw, no it shouldn't matter. If someone sleeps with you it (hopefully) means they care about you on SOME level... and will be able to look past imperfections. No one's perfect. Don't stress about it. Link to comment
lady00 Posted October 20, 2008 Share Posted October 20, 2008 I think usually when two people are about to do the deed, they are pretty thrilled about it and they tend to overlook little imperfections. Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted October 20, 2008 Share Posted October 20, 2008 girls dont care that much. i bet u wouldnt care too much either if ur girl had any imperfections. plus usually the lights will be off. i think once u get a steady gf u connect with, it will be bliss when u can just really feel beyond comfy in ur skin with her. i still feel a wee bit self conscious of my few scars here and there infront of my bf. but he doesnt care. Link to comment
laisla Posted October 20, 2008 Share Posted October 20, 2008 i have more imperfections than i can count, but i am with someone i love very much and who loves me so that it does not get in our way. we all get self-conscious especially with someone new, but someone who cares for you will not make a big deal about your flaws. Link to comment
lana111 Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 dont worry! everyone has imperfections, but some people are more hung up on it than others. Link to comment
Decado Posted October 21, 2008 Author Share Posted October 21, 2008 Thank you everyone who replied my topic, your advice is much appreciated. over the last few weeks i have been presented with many oppotunities to have sex. I am actually typing this after i have just turned down an opportunity to have sex. i just didnt want to. it was just after a drunken night and it wasnt the right person or the right situation. she was properly full on clingy and i didnt want to do it. does that make me gay? my sexuality has always been a question but i have not been attracted to men more than i have women. i am just always confused! Link to comment
KG Posted October 21, 2008 Share Posted October 21, 2008 Hey Decado, I've got a skinny ( none at all ) butt. My chest could use some extra weight, and my legs are skinny. Do I care if I get between the sheets with someone I care about? NO. because when you get to that point, it's just liking the person you are with. Link to comment
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