hockeyboy Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Everyone here is telling you that you are wrong. You are wrong. You insist you are right. You are incredibly ignorant on the subject at hand. You need to recognize that or your going to end up in bad situations eventually. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted August 22, 2008 Author Share Posted August 22, 2008 D*** straight, I would. That kind of response is NOT NORMAL. but it's normal to tell a grown man to his face who approached you in a respectable way that-"YOU ARE NOT MY TYPE" You do know that she is saying that "I DON"T THINK YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE" What man wants to hear that from a stranger especially when he treated her with respect? So I have every right to call her all kinds of you know what if a girl says that to me. Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 but it's normal to tell a grown man to his face who approached you in a respectable way that-"YOU ARE NOT MY TYPE" You do know that she is saying that "I DON"T THINK YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE" What man wants to hear that from a stranger especially when he treated her with respect? So I have every right to call her all kinds of you know what if a girl says that to me. I'm shocked a brother, boyfriend, friend etc of one of these girls hasn't gotten physical with you...if you in fact do this on a regular occurrence. Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 but it's normal.... Wrong...Wrong...Wrong Again. Link to comment
hers Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 NO YOU DONT. Being polite does not justify disrespecting her like that! And "you're not my type" does not mean that you aren't attractive to her! It just means that you aren't her type. Case closed. The other day I went out wiht a guy who wasn't my type, but he was attractive. Shuld he have called me all sorts of awful things when I told him I just wanted to be friends??? Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted August 22, 2008 Author Share Posted August 22, 2008 So let make sure I'm clear here 1.It's ok for a grown women to tell a guy in public to his face-"you are not my type" which basically means she is saying he is not attractive 2.And it's not normal for a guy to let that same woman know that SHE IS NOT ALL THAT???? Please tell me I'm not in the twilight zone Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 but it's normal to tell a grown man to his face who approached you in a respectable way that-"YOU ARE NOT MY TYPE" You do know that she is saying that "I DON"T THINK YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE" What man wants to hear that from a stranger especially when he treated her with respect? So I have every right to call her all kinds of you know what if a girl says that to me. Yes, it's normal. That's how adults communicate in adult land ... a place you are obviously NOT familiar with. This seriously has to be a hoax. Link to comment
hers Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 "You are not my type" is not synonymous wiht cursing her out and saying mean things to her. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 CD's threads grow in size faster than any others i have seen. lol Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 So let make sure I'm clear here 1.It's ok for a grown women to tell a guy in public to his face-"you are not my type" which basically means she is saying he is not attractive 2.And it's not normal for a guy to let that same woman know that SHE IS NOT ALL THAT???? Please tell me I'm not in the twilight zone Believe me, you ARE in the twilight zone. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted August 22, 2008 Author Share Posted August 22, 2008 NO YOU DONT. Being polite does not justify disrespecting her like that! And "you're not my type" does not mean that you aren't attractive to her! It just means that you aren't her type. Case closed. The other day I went out wiht a guy who wasn't my type, but he was attractive. Shuld he have called me all sorts of awful things when I told him I just wanted to be friends??? But how else would a guy take-"you are not my type" if he doesn;t know the girl? She wouldn't be talking about his personality because she doesn;t know him so she wouldn't obviously be talking about his looks. Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 ill try one more time... So let make sure I'm clear here 1.It's ok for a grown women to tell a guy in public to his face-"you are not my type" Yes, it is which basically means she is saying he is not attractive Doesn't necessarily mean that but if it does, it's perfectly fine. 2.And it's not normal for a guy to let that same woman know that SHE IS NOT ALL THAT???? Correct, that is not normal Please tell me I'm not in the twilight zone Can't do it. I think you are. Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 So let make sure I'm clear here 1.It's ok for a grown women to tell a guy in public to his face-"you are not my type" which basically means she is saying he is not attractive 2.And it's not normal for a guy to let that same woman know that SHE IS NOT ALL THAT???? Please tell me I'm not in the twilight zone And if she were not "all that", then why would you approach her to begin with ... and why would her opinion of you cause such a violent and disturbing reaction??? Obviously, you've been rejected your entire life, have NEVER been with a woman, and are bitter and hateful of the world because of it. Time for a straight-jacket and forced mental help. Link to comment
hers Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Perhaps you approached her with "Damn baby, that dress woudl look better on my floor", to which your personality speaks volumes. Your first words to her can speak volumes of her personality and tell her what she needs to know. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 So let make sure I'm clear here 1.It's ok for a grown women to tell a guy in public to his face-"you are not my type" which basically means she is saying he is not attractive 2.And it's not normal for a guy to let that same woman know that SHE IS NOT ALL THAT???? Please tell me I'm not in the twilight zone Women have different types. Example: Some girls would go for a guy in a suit.... other girls would be turned off by the suit because they prefer a sports buff. Pffff CD! Now you're just enjoying the attention I think. And btw, you probably shouldn't date if you have this mentality man. Really - Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Pffff CD! Now you're just enjoying the attention I think. It's the only attention he's ever, or will ever, receive. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 but it's normal to tell a grown man to his face who approached you in a respectable way that-"YOU ARE NOT MY TYPE" You do know that she is saying that "I DON"T THINK YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE" What man wants to hear that from a stranger especially when he treated her with respect? So I have every right to call her all kinds of you know what if a girl says that to me. omg, so someone doesn't think you are attractive. deal with it. don't be a little girl that fell off the monkey bars on lunch period and got a booboo. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 So let make sure I'm clear here 1.It's ok for a grown women to tell a guy in public to his face-"you are not my type" which basically means she is saying he is not attractive 2.And it's not normal for a guy to let that same woman know that SHE IS NOT ALL THAT???? Please tell me I'm not in the twilight zone who cares if you aren't attractive to her. sob story i know. you did more than tell the girl she is not all that. and why try and make yourself feel better by firing back at her? you just hit on her so your statement is bunk. Link to comment
bijoux27 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 This is the bitterness that rejection can give you. Wowie. Link to comment
bulletproof Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Unleashing a torrent of curse words at a stranger in the street is not "normal" behavior, no matter what preceded it. We are not talking about dating anymore; we are talking about human decency, and the self-control that a healthy adult should possess. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Just thought of something else - you say it'd be better for the person to tell you that they are in a relationship. That one girl..... she told you she's in a relationship.... Yet you post about hoping she will still be physical with you. So what does that mean? Seems to me that you don't take just "hints." Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 why do think some women don't like to receiving a FLIRT message on a dating site?? You know the type of message that's not a real email but kind of a ice breaker? I mean I thought the purpose of those kind of messages was for a guy to know if you are attracted to him first so he can then send a regular reply. I don't think no guy wants to sit there and type a paragraph and then not get a reply back from her at all. Also ladies, do you like to hear that you are PRETTY in the first sentence of a reply when a guy send you a message? For me I think it's no problem though I prefer to have some more text to read even if it's only one or a few sentences (or if it's that to start with). In general I dislike it if things are unpersonal and kind of standard so you can think other person is sending same kind of icebreaker to a lot of people. Not sure if it's same reason for a lot of other woman who dislike it. But I understand it could be preferable to do it that way b/c it can be frustrating to type a lot and not receiving anything. Always nice to hear for me but it doesn't make much sense until I find out how serious other person is and I can dislike the fact if someone is putting very high value to outside without knowing about the inside/personality/things happened before. Though it can be important to choose someone who is fysically attractive as well (but - at least for me - it correlates highly with the inside of the person and I think outhern attractiveness becomes more when you like someone (know better in a good way)). I like it when a man acts very gentle so giving compliments is part of it so positive for me. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 I think saying 'Not my type' is especially meant as a way to express gently 'I'm not interested'. Guess it shouldn't be taken very litterairy or with deep content. I also think deciding someone is in that category needn't be based on outhern appeareance. Attractiveness maybe for a big part it does. Also the way someone acts or if you feel s'thing like it's pushing you away or even if she has already interest in someone else and started thinking more about the other or if there's something in the way he acts that she dislikes like too much pushing or too doministric or just too less or whatever. In some cases it could be taken litterairy maybe. But personally I don't really believe in 'types' of men. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted August 23, 2008 Share Posted August 23, 2008 Hey! I figured out a solution! Never email them first. Wait til the girl emails you. Then you know she won't respond "Your not my type." Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted August 23, 2008 Author Share Posted August 23, 2008 And if she were not "all that", then why would you approach her to begin with ... and why would her opinion of you cause such a violent and disturbing reaction??? Obviously, you've been rejected your entire life, have NEVER been with a woman, and are bitter and hateful of the world because of it. Time for a straight-jacket and forced mental help. If a woman ever told me I'm not her type to my face, I will be very sarcastic. Class goes out the window. Link to comment
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