NoLies_JustLove Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 for those who have seen my previous post, yes im still in this relationship and i havent heard from him in over a week. but theres this other guy who is a friend of mine who seems hes becoming very attached to me. although in my mind i still have a boyfriend even though it seems like we are not together, we never officially broke it off. i am a very loyal person and believe it to be very wrong to cheat on someone so i know my boundaries. but this guy babys me to death. dont get me wrong, hes a very sweet person but he always wants to take me out or do things for me, and he constantly calls me baby, babe, beautiful...etc. i love the whole pet names thing but for some reason it seems to be a bit annoying when he constantly does it like he does. its like he over killed it to the point where it just doesn't even seem cute anymore. is there anyone else who has had that happen? what do you think, is it possible that its just to much babying? any stories & thoughts are welcome (: Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 How come you haven't been in contact for a week? Are you taking a break or something? Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 not that i know of, he just stopped talking to me. but we never broke up. Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 Well, he's either busy or he's broken up passively with you. Lack of contact for that long is a seriously BAD sign. How were things before he stopped the contact? Was he becoming more distant? Did you argue? Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 Well, he's either busy or he's broken up passively with you. Lack of contact for that long is a seriously BAD sign. How were things before he stopped the contact? Was he becoming more distant? Did you argue? i dont know how to tell if hes done this without asking him straight up, i dont want to just assume we have broken up even though its not good that he hasn't contacted me. and no actually we spent two straight days together and had a great time, not to mention he still tells me he loves me. he kissed me goodbye and left as usual and i haven't seen/heard from him since. he doesn't have a phone so i have no way of contacting him besides myspace or unless he calls me. i wrote him a casual message on myspace, asking hey whats up i havent heard from you in awhile, and got no reply. his whole problem is he believes everything he hears but then wont confront me if theres and issue, instead he just disappears for awhile. now i dont know if this is the problem, i just dont know what to do from here. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 well, this guy needs to back off and you need to tell him. you also need to call your bf and ask him what's up. Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted July 29, 2008 Author Share Posted July 29, 2008 my boyfriend doesn't have a phone. or i would have already called him. its just very weird, and as hard as it is for me im just trying to let it play out and see what happens... Link to comment
D_Lish Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 ....hes a very sweet person but he always wants to take me out or do things for me, and he constantly calls me baby, babe, beautiful...etc. i love the whole pet names thing but for some reason it seems to be a bit annoying when he constantly does it like he does. its like he over killed it to the point where it just doesn't even seem cute anymore. is there anyone else who has had that happen? what do you think, is it possible that its just to much babying? any stories & thoughts are welcome ( I'm with someone, exact same and I don't mind it, lol Probably because I'm very affectionate myself... Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted July 30, 2008 Author Share Posted July 30, 2008 I'm with someone, exact same and I don't mind it, lol Probably because I'm very affectionate myself... ya, i guess im just weird about it because i have a boyfriend, although he doesn't act like much of a boyfriend. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 my boyfriend doesn't have a phone. or i would have already called him. its just very weird, and as hard as it is for me im just trying to let it play out and see what happens... how do you talk to your bf? whenever he wants to show up? Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted July 31, 2008 Author Share Posted July 31, 2008 how do you talk to your bf? whenever he wants to show up? pretty much. hes only called me once off of a number he told me not to call...its his friends house number. he stays with friends, so i never know exactly where he is. i haven't seen him in almost 2 weeks.:sad: Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 why not find a bf? this is not a bf. Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 this dude sounds like a real winner!! NOT!!! wake up chick! he sleeps from friends house to friends house?? what a loser! go for the guy that takes care of you but let him know he is smotherin you a bit. i would consider you and your BF over and its for your benefit. he is not a good bf! Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted August 1, 2008 Author Share Posted August 1, 2008 why not find a bf? this is not a bf. im working on it. i just have to be sure its broken up, because although it may seem that way already i dont want anything to turn around on me saying i cheated when im a very loyal person. its hard to get around when you really care about someone. Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted August 1, 2008 Author Share Posted August 1, 2008 this dude sounds like a real winner!! NOT!!! wake up chick! he sleeps from friends house to friends house?? what a loser! go for the guy that takes care of you but let him know he is smotherin you a bit. i would consider you and your BF over and its for your benefit. he is not a good bf! thanks, im slowly starting to realize that enough is enough. ive spent to much time on this, and even though i have strong feelings for him, i just cant put up with this anymore. by the way i found out the one who was "smothering" me, has been talking to this other chick at the same time as me, and she just happens to be the type who cant seem to keep her legs shut. i dont go for that bull * * * * . Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 im working on it. i just have to be sure its broken up, because although it may seem that way already i dont want anything to turn around on me saying i cheated when im a very loyal person. its hard to get around when you really care about someone. wow. you really care about a guy that treats you like this? haven't heard from them in over a week? no gf of mine would be around if this was going on. i'd tell myself i'm single and do my own thing. this is nuts. Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted August 1, 2008 Author Share Posted August 1, 2008 wow. you really care about a guy that treats you like this? haven't heard from them in over a week? no gf of mine would be around if this was going on. i'd tell myself i'm single and do my own thing. this is nuts. yes i know. most people ask me why ive stuck around so long when hes like this on and off. ive known him for over three years, and for about a year of that we were talking. ive just been so attached to him for so long that i dont know how to move on without him. ive already assumed im single and im trying to carry on with my own thing, because with all i do for hi, i dont think its fair and its his loss, not mine. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 yes i know. most people ask me why ive stuck around so long when hes like this on and off. ive known him for over three years, and for about a year of that we were talking. ive just been so attached to him for so long that i dont know how to move on without him. ive already assumed im single and im trying to carry on with my own thing, because with all i do for hi, i dont think its fair and its his loss, not mine. couldn't have said it better myself. but you are doing this to yourself. not him. you are allowing him to treat you like this. so much better out there. Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted August 2, 2008 Author Share Posted August 2, 2008 couldn't have said it better myself. but you are doing this to yourself. not him. you are allowing him to treat you like this. so much better out there. thanks, i seem to always end up putting myself in the worst situations. would you say anything to him? or just leave it at that..? Link to comment
chocolate-cake Posted August 2, 2008 Share Posted August 2, 2008 When he eventually calls off a "friends" phone or myspaces :s just tell him uve been thinking and its not workign and u cant be with someone who can just disappear and u have no way of calling!!!!! how REDICULOUS. Give the new guy a chance Link to comment
NoLies_JustLove Posted August 5, 2008 Author Share Posted August 5, 2008 When he eventually calls off a "friends" phone or myspaces :s just tell him uve been thinking and its not workign and u cant be with someone who can just disappear and u have no way of calling!!!!! how REDICULOUS. Give the new guy a chance well what if that was his way of breaking up? its not right to have me wondering like that, ive already assumed that were not together anymore. so im just doing my own thing. and believe it or not, the new guys another one who like to think he can lead on 5 girls at once. how pathetic. i just have the worst of luck. Link to comment
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