Caterina Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 I've heard that women who have sex are more likely to become attached to the sexual partner than men. Is this true? Are men able to separate sex and their feelings but not women? Link to comment
Gratsy Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 I've wondered the same thing, except about FWB situations. Link to comment
karvala Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 It's the other way around: women are more likely to have sex with someone they have an emotional attachment with. Generally speaking (and with the usual caveats about generalisations and exceptions), women need to feel comfortable, relaxed and emotionally involved to have sex with someone; they need to feel something feel. Men have sex in order to feel something; they don't need to feel it first, or at least they may have an emotional need that the sex fulfills. Link to comment
lillie Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 Try as i might,i just cannot help but feel some emotional attachment with the men i sleep with. They seem to manage it though with no problem... I wish i didn't feel like this because life would be so much simpler.. Link to comment
EQD Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 this question is obvious. no. women can have emotionless sex too. there are men out there believe it or not who 'cling' after sex too you know. It depends on the person and the situation. I think some women tend to 'read more into sex' then men do. Link to comment
angelsoft Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 I actually believe some part of this to be true. They've always said that men were more "logical" thinkers and it's true. They think with their brains, instead of their emotions. That's why you see more men into engineering and fields such as car mechanics, pilots, etc. On the other hand though, us women, well, we tend to think with our hearts and not so much our brain. That's why over 95% of the nursing field is women dominated. We also enjoy doing things like teaching children and caring for the elderly. Women put emotions into things much more than men, that's probably why they are more likely to become attached after sex Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 answer: YES women become on average more attached to guys than guys do to women. sure women can have emotionless sex, but it's much more rare than with guys. i think it's a nature thing. guys are just made that way. Link to comment
lillie Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 On the odd occasions that i have entered into an emotionless liaison,i just can't help but begin to like them on an emotional level,not love but nevertheless the emotion is there with me. I just wish that it wasn't. But sex is very close & personal with two people and even if it is a casual encounter i can't help but feel closer to them. Or just feel gratitude!! lol Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 On the odd occasions that i have entered into an emotionless liaison,i just can't help but begin to like them on an emotional level,not love but nevertheless the emotion is there with me. I just wish that it wasn't. But sex is very close & personal with two people and even if it is a casual encounter i can't help but feel closer to them. Or just feel gratitude!! lol I am sure the pleasure is theirs lillie pick ups at the bar have been unemotional, the dates are not Link to comment
lillie Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 I am sure the pleasure is theirs lillie pick ups at the bar have been unemotional, the dates are not Hey T! Well i haven't actually done the pick up at a bar,they don't really interest me. And this is because i like to sleep with people im at least slightly attracted to,thereforeeee i usually know them on some small level. Herein lies my problem i think,because i feel emotionally connected with them even before i sleep with them..I will have to start going to bars i think! Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 Hey T! Well i haven't actually done the pick up at a bar,they don't really interest me. And this is because i like to sleep with people im at least slightly attracted to,thereforeeee i usually know them on some small level. Herein lies my problem i think,because i feel emotionally connected with them even before i sleep with them..I will have to start going to bars i think! i think being emotionally connected is a good thing.....pick up at bars end up funny the next morning Link to comment
lillie Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 i think being emotionally connected is a good thing.....pick up at bars end up funny the next morning Oh definitely,emotion is fabulous when reciprocated that is.. I can imagine a scary,embarrassing scenario the next morning after a night on the town feeling all loved up. Not something i would like to feel like or be on the receiving end of. No things haven't become that desperate just yet,thank goodness! But from what i can gather from my male friends who have endeavored to have an emotionless encounter,these one night stands have worked perfectly for them. They can even sleep with women who are outrageously unattractive or promiscuous,lots older and even their friends mothers. Not including me of course Link to comment
amaria Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 I can honestly say that 1 man I know didn't need to feel emotionally attached and separated emotions indefinitely. I had been seeing him on and off for 2 years and unfortunately I started having feelings for him. In the end he would only come over when it was convenient for him but never reciprocated when I tried to contact him. He would get close for awhile, hang out, pledge he was with me only and no one else but then he would disappear. Then I found out he was with someone else and that person contacted me. Anyway, I'm glad it's over, we were friends before but even the friendship couldn't sustain his coldness/deceit toward the end. What can I say I am bitter and I had to vent. Thanks Link to comment
lillie Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 I can honestly say that 1 man I know didn't need to feel emotionally attached and separated emotions indefinitely. I had been seeing him on and off for 2 years and unfortunately I started having feelings for him. In the end he would only come over when it was convenient for him but never reciprocated when I tried to contact him. He would get close for awhile, hang out, pledge he was with me only and no one else but then he would disappear. Then I found out he was with someone else and that person contacted me. Anyway, I'm glad it's over, we were friends before but even the friendship couldn't sustain his coldness/deceit toward the end. What can I say I am bitter and I had to vent. Thanks That is cold cold cold!! What a rat,why do we let them do it? You must be relieved! Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 Oh definitely,emotion is fabulous when reciprocated that is.. I can imagine a scary,embarrassing scenario the next morning after a night on the town feeling all loved up. Not something i would like to feel like or be on the receiving end of. No things haven't become that desperate just yet,thank goodness! But from what i can gather from my male friends who have endeavored to have an emotionless encounter,these one night stands have worked perfectly for them. They can even sleep with women who are outrageously unattractive or promiscuous,lots older and even their friends mothers. Not including me of course of course Mrs. Robinson Link to comment
lillie Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 of course Mrs. Robinson hahaha But one thing that i can't understand is this..When i try and have an emotionless encounter with someone i know,im not always physically attracted to them,sometimes its just their personality. So i go in all guns blarring thinking that i am safe,but i never am because i start to find them attractive??? I must be just very emotional!lol Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 hahaha But one thing that i can't understand is this..When i try and have an emotionless encounter with someone i know,im not always physically attracted to them,sometimes its just their personality. So i go in all guns blarring thinking that i am safe,but i never am because i start to find them attractive??? I must be just very emotional!lol you are a complex person....to be honest i am past that stage of emotionless encounters unless drinking is involved, then i lose my inhibitions Link to comment
lillie Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 you are a complex person....to be honest i am past that stage of emotionless encounters unless drinking is involved, then i lose my inhibitions Was that the polite way of saying desperate???lol I think im passed the emotionless encounters too,im getting a little too long in the tooth for that. So T when you had you ladies from the bar and it was emotionless for you,was it also emotionless for them. Or did some come back wanting more,on an emotional level? Please say yes otherwise im going to start thinking im a freak!lol Link to comment
civilservant Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 Maybe I'm a girl then, because I find it really hard to separate the emotional and physical aspects of love. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 I've heard that women who have sex are more likely to become attached to the sexual partner than men. Is this true? Are men able to separate sex and their feelings but not women? No. Some people can, some people can't. From my observations/experiences it's a matter of personality. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 Was that the polite way of saying desperate???lol I think im passed the emotionless encounters too,im getting a little too long in the tooth for that. So T when you had you ladies from the bar and it was emotionless for you,was it also emotionless for them. Or did some come back wanting more,on an emotional level? Please say yes otherwise im going to start thinking im a freak!lol i have only the highest regard for you Madam Spice, the last two were in 2006....one gave me her phone number......the other one we never got to spend the night together because her boyfriend showed up 5 minutes after we entered her flat. we all three sat down and had a beer and offered me a joint....she walked me to the car and said"now you know where we live, stop by and see us.." Link to comment
lillie Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 Why thankyou doc! Heck you like to live life on the edge don't you! Never a dull moment what with weddings,one night stands & manage et trois! I don't suppose you can afford to put much emotion into encounters! Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 Why thankyou doc! Heck you like to live life on the edge don't you! Never a dull moment what with weddings,one night stands & manage et trois! I don't suppose you can afford to put much emotion into encounters! no menage et trois...bf got there before we got properly started....So we had a beer together to show we were civilized Link to comment
lillie Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 no menage et trois...bf got there before we got properly started....So we had a beer together to show we were civilized Damn & blast!! Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted April 17, 2008 Share Posted April 17, 2008 I think back on that and wished I had followed up with her....i forgot her email address Link to comment
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