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She never has a problem communicating. She has always told me everything and whatever has been on her mind. I think she's just taking this breakup hard and doesn't want to deal with it. I'll give her a few weeks. I don't mind giving her space, I just want her to at least talk to me. It's really a helpless feeling when there is no way to talk to someone. Especially when you don't know if you did something wrong or not.

My intentions were not to disrespect our agreement. Although she may have taken it that way. Probably so since she still has not called me back. My question now is how to rectify this. I thought of giving her a couple of weeks before I try calling her again. It has been 4 days since I called. This would not be all that big of a deal but I have known her for several months and we have become good friends. I don't want to just give it up. In a way it is immature. You don't just ignore someone, especially someone important . If you have an issue then you talk about it. Avoiding the situation is immature. People in their late 20's shouldn't act like that. And me going along with it means I am playing the immature game as well, but like I said, she really is a great person and I hate to give up. Thanks Y'all

So ladies do you have a certain time period in situations like this where you wait to call? I know she has played hard to get with her ex before by not answering his calls. Although this is not really a hard to get situation. But maybe it relates?

Yeah I'm sure she was. No call today either.

Yeah the whole thing does sound kind of young. She's be married before, but even so, she's only been in a couple of relationships so in a way she's kind of inmature in that sense. But I think she is worth the effort.

Thanks, that makes me feel somewhat better. Although we are both almost 30 so the kissing thing should not be that big of a deal, but I do understand what you mean. Thanks

So I have a post below on dating a recently single girl. We agreed not to get involved for at least a month, because she his hung up on the ex, she did the breaking up. So last night we went out to a movie, just a casual get-together, no date. Everything was fine. At the end I gave her a hug and went to kiss her. She wouldn't let me. Said she was sorry but she could not, she still wasn't ready. Now we had done some serious kissing and such a few weeks ago before deciding it would be best to wait. So I thought it was just going to be an inocent kiss, no big deal. So I said it's ok and we went our separate ways. I called her a bit later to tell her I was sorry and hope I did not make her feal unconfortable. She did not answer so I left a message. Called her twice today, moring and evening, again just left messages. I explained that I respected our decision not to date for at least a month and was not trying to break that deal with a kiss or rush her. I really did not think it would hurt. Also said we did not have to talk about it if it was bothering her but I would like to talk to her. She still has not called. I'm not going to call her for at least a week, don't want to look like a freak. So did I screw it up? Do you think she'll call? I understand this might have bothered her and she needs much more time, I just hope she is not upset with me. Thanks everyone.

Well is he good in bed? Not to be so blunt but if he is not into women then he probably is not going to be the best lover. Also does he ever make any remarks about other women, like guy remarks not how good their shoes look? I have a friend that took me a while to figure out he was gay. He liked sports and all the guy stuff, but he never ever made any kind of remark about women, like if a good looking girl walked by and all the guys where gaulking, he would not say anything. And I don't mean crude remarks, he just didn't acknowledge them at all. Your gut really should tell you.

We have been friends for about 4 months. Close to the point that she tells me personal things and likes to hang out. We had nothing "going on" until she broke up with her bf. She is the type who really is not in to the cheating thing. As a matter of fact that is ultimately why they broke up. He cheated on her. It's true, every situation is different. She did say that she has always liked and has been attracted to me. I believe that in time we will get together. But like I said, I don't want to screw anything up. She likes the type of guy who knows what he wants and is not afraid to tell her. So I am afraid if I wait too long I might lose her. Well I guess I'll know when it's time. Thanks for Y'alls help.

Here is the story. A girlfriend of mine recently broke up with her boyfriend of over 2 years. We have known each other for a few months and have always liked each other. She asked me out after they broke up. So we went out. It did not go so well, she is very depressed. So we agreed to hold of dating for at least a month for her to heal. We are going to still see each other casually in the meantime. She is very interested in me, I do believe her. And she knows I am with her. My plan is to give here whatever time she needs and not pressure her at all. I do want this to work out. I believe we would be very good together. I really don't want to mess up. I am afraid I might push too much too soon. I am also afraid I may do too little by giving her this space. I would appreciate any advice on handling this delicate situation. Thanks!

Is there no way to get someone back when they won't even talk to you? Or at least get some closure? She want return my calls, so I stopped calling her. She doesn't return my emails. We passed each other driving by once and I could tell she avoided looking in my direction. She won't even let me know why she broke it off. I'm sure the answer is "She's Crazy!" At least that's what everyone else thinks. Never has any girl just said "bye" to me with no reason. I guess I should just let it go. I want so bad to send her one last email saying "if you are going to treat me like this then I don't want to talk to you anyway" but I don't won't to be an ass, even though she deserves it. Seems like the only time she ever has really listened is when I just got mad and stood up for myself. It would at least give me some closure. Anyone have an opinion? thanks,

ameliamolly So you dumped your ex and he is trying to get you back. You say you haven't forgoten about him. Do you want to get back with him? Are you waiting for him to do something to get you back? I have often wondered because of the way my gf ended the relationship if she wants me to try to get her back. Would the no-contact be of much use then in getting her back?

Well my last email to her was in reply to our official breakup about 2 weeks ago. We were on a break for the month I have not seen her, not officially broken up. So as of our breakup I have not contacted her.

So my last contact with my ex, she ended the relationship, was about 2 weeks ago. Email. Haven't seen her in over a month. She seemed somewhat irritated and mad about the breakup, don't know why, she dumped me. I tried to end it on a good note saying I hope we can still be friends and call me sometime if she wanted. Anyway I been doing the no-contact thing. But now I have a strictly non-relationship question to ask her. So I want to use this question (email) to possibly be a way to get the ball rolling. My real question for you all is when to do it. I was thinking after 3 weeks of no contact. But I am starting to get impatient and wondering if 2 weeks is enough for something this simple. The info I need from her is nothing urgent so it could wait a month if need be. Really I'm going to email her whether it helps my chances of her talking to me or not because I need this info. But I want to utilize it as a way to possibly get her talking to me again. What do you all think? Hold off longer or try to get the ball moving?

Thanks everyone for your replies.