nmarchildon

well, if you have been together that long then i think there is a reason. I asume you both love each other very much. sometimes people prefer to do certain things with other people. i don't like hagging out with my boyfriend that much when im with some of my friends... it just makes me a little uncomfortable. yet i love it when he takes me everywhere. i dont know. people are different. i have been through similar situations lately and i think the best thing is to not worry about it and respect her needs. dancing with other guys doesn't mean anything to me when im at a club. its just a way to have some fun on the weekends nat

that really sux that she doesn't want to take you clubbing. yes maybe she likes to hang out with the girls and just dance away without feeling like she is doing something wrong, but once in a while it would be fun if you guys got together and went out. maybe you act jealous around her at a club? if you just ease up maybe she will realize that you trust her. Also if you guys go out, give her space within that context. go dance in a decent way with other girls and let her do her thing. after a bit go dance a few songs with her.... yunno? my boyfriend and i aren't big clubbers but when we do go out we go with friends (as in his friends and some of mine) so there is a variety and its fun all around!!!! i'm probably not that helpful, but you seemed like you really needed some advice. about her being less shy with other guys.... how long have you been together, and how close are you? maybe she feels shy around you because she has to worry about not making you worried that she looks like she is to close dancing with other guys. give her space but show her that your all about having a good time too... not just controling her. xnatx

My boyfriend and i are leaving in a few months to travel together for a year. I have travelled a lot before and he hasn't. He doesn't seem like he needs me, he reads a lot of books and seems to be planning his trip and not our trip. i know that he would be going away even if i was coming with him or not. i also want to travel again but i'm pretty sure that i want to travel simply to be with him instead of taking a year break. i adapt to anything and am easygoing but im affraid of being ditched while we are travelling or that i am leaving for the wrong reasons. i keep on thinking about other things i could do with the money i have saved up. I just wish that i was more needed. we have sort of talked about this, and he said that he would never just leave me and that if we needed to go our separate ways once in a while that doesn't mean that we would not get back together and travel some more. it all depends on our interests when we get there. so i'm feeling a little confused, should i leave with him and take things as the come and adapt and learn from new situations or should i just try to sell my plane ticket

man.. i feel the same way. i dont think that i over tell him that i love him... and neither does he. but he just seems to be content and know how much i care about him. he loves me but i always need to feel more secure especially when just one little thing goes wrong. like, i start scenarios in my head and then i just start to cry. i am insecure. why... i dont know. because it feels good to know to feel like everything is ok ... to have him say i want you to stay over tonight.... you know... we have only been together for 6 months but we are leaving for a year and that must mean something right?

I'm not really sure but i'm sort of in the same situation as you. you see my boyfriend is my first piority and i am not his. we love each other to death but he likes his space and i could spend every minute with him. we used to spend everday and night together but now he has grown distant. maybe he just needs to spend less time with me since we are leaving for a year together in two months. men are totally different from women. they dont feel like us. also maybe he is just so comfortable with you in this long term relatioship that he doesn't need to think of you all the time. or he just takes it for granted and figures you will always be there. i think that maybe energies are not even or that you are not on the same level as he is. which seems to be the case with me and my bf. my boyfriend is really secure about my love for him, but he can't tell me enough that he loves me because i'm insecure. maybe he is totally secure with you.....it sucks eh? nat

dude that must be the hardest shit to go through. ive been with my boyfriend for six months now and things are a little sketchy right now. i think they will work out if we just continue to respect each other though. i think your ex is pretty selfish about the whole thing. love doesnt make you act that way. thats what i dont understand. why is it that when you are completely in love with someone you are so weak and vulnerable? I wish i could say move on, but i think about me and my bfriend and i think my world would end if we broke up. so i know where your coming from. what i would give for my boyfriend to give me as much energy as you seem to want to put in it. well, keep your head high and don't give her the satisfaction of looking like the one who can't move on. you cant help the way you feel but that doesnt mean you have to feed her with you energy. it hurts though.... man i'm sorry dude. really, this smells like poo! Everything happens for a reason though and you can learn from it. Just see the positive. xnatx

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My boyfriend and I are leaving together on febuary 10th for asia and australia. We are travelling together for a year. We usually spend all our time together but just this week he has told me that we need to hang out less and that he needed to find himself and spend more time with the rest of his friends and family. I feel rejected although I respect his choice and I know that we still love each other. He is still so important to me but I feel like I have lost importance to him. I feel week and vulnerable. He is my first priority but it is not likewise. Someone please reassure me with some constructive feedback!

I have been with my boyfriend for the past six months and we have been practically inseperable. We have a very close relationship that happened really fast. This past week, he was chatting with a girl on the internet and accused me of being jealous when i was unhappy with the situation. Since then we have not been together except once when i asked myself over to his house. He doesn't treat me like he is mad or annoyed but yesterday he said he didn't want to hang out when i asked him. I have been crying and wondering why he doesn't want to see me, although he has called a few times. Am i overreacting? He has told me not to worry and mentioned that alone time is good. What should i do? why do i feel like the relationship will never be as special as it was? someone please help calm my nerves, i love him to much.