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We've sat down and discussed it a lot of times, especially over the last few weeks. We've gone from being together 24/7 to not at all to a few hours a week. It's a big adjustment. The thing is, he used to be really flirty and touchy feely and then something changed. Ive asked him what but he says he doesnt know. Instead it becomes an argument and we always seem to be attacking each other. I don't understand it.

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 7 months. We met during a course last year and then he went back home to florida for 6 months before coming back again for the next school here. But the problem is, for the last few months we've been experiencing a lot of problems. I am naturally a very affectionate and touchy feely person so I love getting hugs from him and just curling up for a couple of hours to be able to kiss and cuddle with him. The thing is, he is not like that and he is usually not interested in making out with me unless it leads to something more sexual. We've discussed it loads now and he asked me to back off because he feels under pressure but the more I let the little moments where I feel he couldve made a move slide, the more he backs off anyway. It causes me to get fustrated with him but we're going round in circles when it gets brought up. He also believes that I am constantly annoyed at him and he reads into my facial expressions a lot and always points out the little details of looks I didnt even know I was giving. Half the time the reason im in a bad mood is becuase of other circumstances not related to him. These two things combined cause a lot of arguments and theres been a lot of time lately I've spent crying either becuase he's hurt me or because I can't stand hurting him. There's a bit communication problem somewhere but we just can't seem to get past it. I love him so much and I know he loves me too and I couldnt stand the thought of breaking up with him but there has to be something we can do before we drive each other away!

I've posted on this subject before under the heading "Christian girl and Christian guy but God says no". Thanks to everyone who gave advice there. Basically the story was, Ive been praying to meet someone for a while and at a completely random occurrence (a train station) I met this fantastic Christian guy. We'd been hanging out loads and at the end of January we decided to start dating. He wasnt happy because he felt God was telling him it was wrong and we broke up. We then got back together again when he'd cleared his head....until he got really depressed and ended it. Once again we're back together and he's a lot more comfortable than he was becuase he knows the reasons behind his confusion before. However, some of his doubts are still there and it's causing a rift. I know all about his past history with relationships and I know he's been in this same situation before....but he's changing. He's told me he doesnt want to be like that anymore and he doesnt want to hurt me. I think he wants it work this time with someone. I don't want to break up with him becuase I feel strongly that this is meant to work and I love him. I was thinking over things the other night and it made me wonder.....is he still suffering his depression? He has mood swings where one minute he's really happy with me and comfortable and the next he's all confused and wants it to end. I know he's not taking any tablets or anything like that and I'm too worried to ask him straightout if its a medical condition thats making him act this way. When we're together it's so nice and I feel so comforable with him...I know he feels the same. I just don't know what to do now becuase I don't want to leave him (besides, we'd only end up back together in a few weeks) I'm really worried about him.

Ok, first of all, and the most important issue here is that I'm a strong Christian. I've recently over the last few months got to know this guy who is also a Christian. We've been hanging out loads and we both realised that we wanted to be more than just friends. Wheres the problem you say?? Well, we've both been praying about it because while I feel 100% certain that God is telling me that the relationship is right and it should go ahead....God's been telling him that it's not right despite the fact that we both really like each other. This left us both really confused and even though we've prayed for clarity God's still not made the option clear to both of us. After a few days of discussing it we decided to go ahead with it and for the last week we've been boyfriend and girlfriend. I was over the moon and can honestly say that I was happier than I have been in a long, long time. unfortunately his doubts continued to the point where he could no longer focus on God at all because his mind was so messd up. This led him to call off the relationship and he's not sure if we can get back together. I've been devestated since sunday and have spent the last two days as a wreck. I cant understand why I'm getting one set of messages and he's getting another. It all started when a mutual friend wanted to set us up. Id been praying for a long time to meet someone and then she mentioned him. A few weeks down the line I met him while stood at a train station and realised it was the same guy. It seems like a lot more than just a coincidence that he was at the station that day (and the week before with me as well I found out). From then on we got in contact. God was definitely working for me. Being with him was the first time in years that Ive felt properly comfortable in a relationship and I was completely happy. He's devestated as well that we had to end it...neither of us can understand why it's not right. Are there any other Christians out there who can shed some light on this matter??? I like him so much and it felt so right....so why did God tell him it was so wrong? Please someone, we both need prayer and a lot of answers. I'm devestated and confused and at the moment, my faith now seems so low.

Maybe it's not that he's being bitter but if like you said his new gf knows you, he doesnt want her to get jealous and think there's still something going on. I dont know how long it's been since you guys broke up but if it's recent that could be why it was awkward. I wouldnt rush to phone him about if I were you cos it couldve been something simple. Why not meet up, just the two of you and see how it goes. Friendships can be awkward to maintain after a break up but theres no reason why it shouldnt work. Ive been in a similar situation but I refused to let the guy go and after time we're now like, best friends again. You've just gotta work through it. I hope it all goes ok for you.

you know what, I say go for it! You're right in what you say, just cos you talk to him doesnt mean you wanna get back together and theres nothing wrong with having a guy as a friend. Suggest meeting up with him sometime, maybe see a film or phone him and have a chat. As long as he realises that you just want to be friends, you should have nothing to worry about. Just be careful you don't fall for him again if you start hanging out. It's too easily done.

Erm ok....this is hard without knowing the story behind what your friends did but I'll try for you. I know what it's like to not trust someone anymore. If one of them has tried to apologise it sounds like he really could be sorry. I'm not saying that maybe you forgive him straight away but maybe at least consider it. They sound like a group of friends who you're close to and it would be a shame to just give up and not know them anymore because of just one incident. Trust can take a while to build back up but it is possible. Trust me, I've been there. As for that grl...don't worry about it. If you still like her then go on, make the effort and say hi to her next time you see her. Then she'll know that you're not against her. All in all, try and relax. Being stressed and confused while trying to cope with school work is not a good combination. The quicker things get sorted with your friends, the quicker you can be feeling happy again.

I think if you want to be friends with her, just keep talking with her. Start up conversations about what she's interested in etc. Once you get to know her you might find that you've got loads in common and she'll be chuffed you've taken the time to find out about her. As for finding out if she likes you, it's quite hard to tell but yeh, eye contact is often a sign and so is smiling or slight body contact. Just give it time and keep trying with her. Hope it goes ok for you!!

Ok, well as far I know Im straight but my best friend is bi sexual. Since Ive been friends with her Ive felt as though Im attracted to her and I often day dream about kissing her. She often tells me she loves me but I dont know if she means as a friend or whether its her way of telling me she fancies me. The thing is though, I cant just go for it with her or tell her how I feel because she's been hurt really badly in the past by her former best friend telling her she was in love with her and then changing her mind. I dont want to jeperdise our friendhsip in the same way but I dont know what I can do either. I know I would never actually go out with her but I guess Im curious enoguth to want a one off thing. I know that sounds really bad but Im like 90% sure Im straight. I really dont know what to do. Please someone help me!

OK, Im new to this but I really need help on what to do. You see, Ive been friends with this guy for 13 years and he's the best friend I could ever ask for. But over the last 2 years a lot has happened between us in the way that we have kissed...and gone a lot further but not all the way, even when he had a girlfriend. I realised I was in love with him 2 years ago but I havent told him because I'm scared of losing him. When stuff has happened we have attempted to talk about it but it seems to me that he doesnt feel the same as me, but only see's me as a best friend. He seems to regret what happens but then it always happens again. I know I love him and I cant imagine not being with him. People that know us say that we're soulmates but when people have tried to set us up, he's always said no becuase of the friendship. I dont know how to find out how he really feels becuse the way I see it, things wouldnt have happened between us if he didnt feel something because he's not that kind of guy. I dont know whether to get over him and if I should, how I go about it or whether I should keep trying to get together with him. I'd be a wreck if I ever lost him. I love him so much but I really dont know what to do. Please can someone help me!