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I realised that i was with this gal with 3 years, but i didn't love her. I realised that yes we could get along well, and i was more towards looking at her as someone whom would be pleasing to my parents and to the people around me. I was not really happy. I should probably think of my own happiness instead In fact, i am intending to propose to this gal in 2 months time. I don't want to look for gals. all i want to do now is to settle down

well at least it took you 6 mths.. it took me 3 years.. and by then i felt that i was really wasting her time. I was the one who moved on with a new gal and she only crumbled

Hi peeps.... just in case you didn't want to read everything in the last few pages.... I shall now summarise it for you. Well, ok i shall start it like this: I have been with this gal for like 3 over years and yes we did have our happy times. I really loved this gal and thought she was the one. We had sex as well, it was both our first time. I found that she became very clingy and soon, i felt so stuffy. I wanted to take a breather. I didn't tell her how i felt. We continued to have sex more often because we did live together for a while. I really thought she was the one. I loved her and yes, had our happy times, and she did sacrifice a lot to make me happy by enjoying what i enjoyed and always giving in to me After a long while, I decided to break up with her. I called her over the phone and told her that. I didn't tell her i got attached to someone else. I broke off with her and cut off all contact whatsoever. When i managed to talk to her, i told her i was never happy and that the love was gone. She crumbled. But i just had so much work up my head, until my work was being affected (FYI, i am still studying). Well, we were always quarelling, and she never seemed happy. But she did tell me that when she quarrelled with me was when she missed me most. I have actually wanted to call it off right from the start. But somehow, it dragged this long and while it was dragging, we had sex lots. She didn't seem keen, but for me, she was willing. I told her i felt stuffed up, she crumbled and said in a moment of anger that she wanted to break off. So i thought about it for a while and decided. ok. But she did apologise ceaselessly, her virginity meant a lot to her and i am so sorry and regretful to have taken it away. She just kept apologising and kept saying that she wanted to make things work out. Honestly, i do feel stressful with this gal. I felt that i was just happy trying to make her happy, didn't bother thinking about what i felt. I don't actually know how i can switch off a switch just like that. For someone who has given me everything, someone whom i have shared a close intimate bond for 3 long years. I keep reassuring the new gal i am with that i know what i want. And we have even bought rings as a couple with engraving our names. Something i never gave to my girlfriend of 3 years. And now in a week, i gave it to someone new. I dunno what i am feeling. Really. How could i do such a thing to someone who loves me so much? I don't want to admit that i regret anything and i feel happier now. But i did feel happy too when i was with my ex didn't i?

she is hurt. She is so hurt that she just places her defenses up so that she doesn't get hurt again. You said that she was pregnant.. by you? and what did you tell her? what did she do? why did you break up?

well.... i really don't know.. she needed the reassurance that i didn't leave the previous relationship because she told me to. I didn't give my ex any rings... well... i don't really know. I knew she wanted us to have something the both of us could use, she knew i was a practical person so we decided to get something else instead of rings as a couple. Well... i really don't know.. anyone care to tell me what i was thinking?

I don't actually know how i can switch off a switch just like that. For someone who has given me everything, someone whom i have shared a close intimate bond for 3 long years. I keep reassuring the new gal i am with that i know what i want. And we have even bought rings as a couple with engraving our names. Something i never gave to my girlfriend of 3 years. And now in a week, i gave it to someone new. I dunno what i am feeling. Really. How could i do such a thing to someone who loves me so much? I don't want to admit that i regret anything and i feel happier now. But i did feel happy too when i was with my ex didn't i? Do i really have a conscience?

Well.. i understand, sometimes i don't really understand myself

well, we did meet up. I just told her that it was over. We didn't talk about why. We didn't talk about the sentimental stuff with each other. How?

You think i should just let it be? I do know for sure that she is hurting real bad.. and i know that when she means she will hold out, she would.. What should be the best way?

Well, excellent post and replies What i can say is to give the gal time, only if you think if she is worth it. I know it sounds bad, but this is what i think. Touch her with small little acts that sweep her off her feet, but do not be too pushy with it

I do think of my ex everyday. Hmmm....

Just a question, what kinda closure should i be looking at?

furthermore, to still have sex with her, knowing that it meant so much to her. And trying to make things better i thought so

so you mean that it is ok for me to see someone else now? Well, i did mean to tell her 2 years ago. but i didn't. Was it wrong of me?

and her feelings?