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    Well, first off, my girlfriend hates it, she feels like her mom constantly tries to make her "choose". She get's angry with her mom, but she also wants to have a somewhat good relationship with her. She feels like nothing she ever does is good enough for her mom. Like I said before, I've suggested that I stop going over so much, maybe a couple times a week and we can go either to my house or out on a date a couple nights and that she could spend more time with her mom that way. My girlfriend feels like if I do that, I would obviously be spending less time with her which would in turn be punishing her for her mom's behavior. It's really a bad situation for all parties envolved.
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    It sounds to me like she has done what she can to move on, now you need to either do the same or let her go. It's not fair to her to carry on for months about the past and it's also bad for the future of your relationship. You need to CHOOSE to let it go and really forgive her. You also need to really look at the situation and think about some of the things you mmay have done wrong... We're human and we screw up every day. I'm sure you're not perfect so just relax and like I said, make up your mind and if she's your choice, you must also choose to let go of the past. If she's not your choice, you still need to let it go so you can have trust in future relationships. Good luck and later man AG
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    Amber, I completely agree about the time thing. I actually suggested it and my girlfriend got upset and said that's not fair to her. She wants me around and her mom doesn't. When I take her out elsewhere, her mom calls her phone avery hour or so asking when she's coming home and getting pissed off that it's not right away. And in regards to the killing her with kindness thing... I already do all of that stuff. I think it's more just a mom trying to cope with her youngest growing, becoming an adult, and getting ready to move out of childhood completely. I definitely appreciate the time you took to write what you wrote amber, thanks AG
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    Yeah, you do have one thing on him. He's a pot head. Let him know that you're going to start calling in Anonymous complaints to the police about him having drugs in his possession until he hands over the tapes. Also, I really need some advice on my girlfriend's mom. Could someone please help a brother out?
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    I fully intend to marry this girl at some point and I want to have a good relationship with her family. I'm more looking for ways to show her I'm not competition and actually a good guy instead of just disappearing. Thanks though
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    Sure, it makes complete sense. I think this guy does love you and I think he does want to marry you. It sounds to me like he wanted to propose the night you left early. People have a tendency to want to make people close to them empathise with them. He had some very specific expectations for that night and reality didn't meet his crazy high expectation nor did it even come close. Rather than talking to you about it, He did what he did and had his mom tell you. Forcing you to empathise and be disappointed too. If you want this to get better, if you really love him, tear down your walls, let go of your fears and insecurities and trust him to love the real you. Let him know the real you and start with being open with him and telling him how you really feel. You both deserve that.
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    If you walk away before you know it needs to be over, you'll be making a grave mistake. You'll always carry those thoughts about "what could have been" with you for a very long time and even into future relationships. Let the relationship run it's course and enjoy the ride. That way, when it's over there no second thoughts or second guessing and you can moving on with out wondering and affecting future relationships. And if It doesn't end and you end up happily married then sticking around would also be the right things. Stick around until you KNOW what you want and aren't looking for other people to know for you.
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    Note to self, don't make a sex tape with someone. And if you do, you be the holder. I completely agree, that's a {Mod Edit} move and it's actually more about having something on you (control) than it is about remembering his past. He thinks that if he has that tape, you're more likely to stick around for fear of retribution. Maybe you should let him think you're going to try to work things out and at some point when you're alone at his house, steal the tape and destroy it. He's obviosly an irration {Mod Edit} and isn't going to do it on his own. Take control of the situation!!!
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    I've got one of those relationships where almost everything is perfect except my girlfriend's mom. Her dad and I get along great, it's just her mom. Her parents are separated and she just moved back in with her mom after finishing college. Since she moved in, her mom expects her daughter to be her new best friend that spends every waking moment either with her or working around the house. She gets pissed off and irrational whenever we spend time together. Her mom tells people that they've never fought so much since I've been around when the real issue is that my girlfriend just spent four years in an independent environment with no rules and now her mom expects her to be the same little girl that left after high school. Her mom resents me and I don't know what to do because I spend a fair amount of time at their house and she's always a complete to me. She views me as competition for her daughter's attention as opposed to a nice guy with a great career that treats her daughter like a princess... I think the failed relationship with her husband may also be part of the resentment, maybe she wants her daughter to feel the same way she does? any ideas people? thanks in advance
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