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I agree with a post by matius a few back. Poor communication and arguments that go unresolved really do drive a wedge in between two people and that has a big effect in the horizontal mambo department. You may just want to keep trying your best to get to the bottom of this. I didn't communicate b/c I wasn't comfortable doing so, and it did not turn out well. It may be something trivial, or it may be serious, you owe it to your happiness and well being to find out.

ladyface, I happen to be in a very similar situation, but I don't have to see her hardly at all. But I have friends that live right behind her house and I sometimes see her with the new b/f and it still sucks. The only thing I can tell you is that it dulls over time and you get "okay" with it. I actually go out of my way to look the opposite direction. I used to sneak glances to see if his car was there, and it sucked even worse. So, if you can find something to do, like send a text or call someone to distract you until you get past, that might help.

Hi, I am new to this site and I need some feedback. I was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years with my ex gf. Things went really well for about a year and a half, and then I started withdrawing, becoming constantly irritable and annoyed, unaffectionate, fighting alot pretty much acting like a jerk. She finally got tired of it and broke up with me a little over a year ago. I have since gone to a psychologist, and have taken responsibility for the way I behaved. They say I have depression. I feel horrible about the way I treated her and am taking steps to not be this way anymore. I do not feel like a victim, nor do I want to be treated as such. The question I guess I have is, how do I get over losing her? It's been a year and three months and I'm firmly convinced I have no chance of finding a woman as wonderful as she, because a)I have no desirewhatsoever right now to date anyone else and b) to; and I have no confidence. I need to move on, but I'm not. I've convinced myself I'm evil, awful, stupid and even have gone through a "I must be gay" or something. This is kinda driving me nuts. I know I caused most of the problems with my behavior, but I still love her so much, and she lives half a block away from me, so I'm always wondering what she's doing. She's been with another guy for a long time, so I think I know the answer, but feedback is appreciated.