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  1. tastycake
    You are all wonderful!! Just what I wanted and needed to hear! Terk- Sorry to hear of your setback. I think our thoughts are similar, I was treated wrong and I left.. this is just that... a setback. We will continue to move forward as long as it is what we want for ourselves. I don't want the guy back, I just feel the anger again.. and that's ok.. Me and myself- You are so right, it isn't love that I was feeling or have towards him anymore. It was just some bottled up emotion that needed to be released. I am sure I will have more, so bring em on! I'm ready! somebloke- Cheers to cakes and more fish in the sea! Yes, I happened to have a tastykake on my desk when I registered for my account p.s.. it wouldn't hurt if we could wipe them out of our memory though
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    6 months of NC and now a setback!! I found out over the weekend that i'm not as far along as I thought he's still on my mind. Not all day like it was the first couple of months, but definitely still a good part of my day. I had a setback this past weekend, (or maybe it was part of the healing process) I was suppose to go to a lounge with a girlfriend and decided I didn't feel like going.. my friend ended up texting me that my ex was there. Just hearing that made me take a drive just to cry.. I processed and decompressed it and realized I was still angry about the relationship. Angry about how he wasn't man enough to be honest with me, angry about how I was treated and how 4 yrs can just be gone.. I thought I was doing fine.. but then I had a setback.. I know I have to pick myself up and move right along because it happens to everyone.. just need some support today. Thanks everyone!
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    ps... I have a little one.. (well a 9 yr old).. He too gets sad when i'm sad, so I let him know how i feel, but move on and spend as much time with him as I can. Even if you don't have a little one.. turn to family, friends, enotalone or a therapist.. it helps.
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    Hi Debz002.. I don't think anyone can give you an exact timeline on when this will stop. I too ended my relationship and started full on NC in Aug-06 till this day, he's still on my mind. Not all day like it was the first couple of months, but definitely still a good part of my day. You will have setbacks and that's normal. Just this past weekend, I was suppose to go to a lounge with a girlfriend and decided I didn't feel like going.. my friend ended up texting me that my ex was there. Just hearing that made me take a drive just to cry.. I processed and decompressed it and realized I was still angry about the relationship. Angry about how he wasn't man enough to be honest with me, and how 4 yrs can just be gone.. You see.. I thought I was doing fine.. but then I had a setback.. and that's ok. Just pick yourself up and move right along because it happens to everyone.. just don't get stuck in it. Keep your head up...
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    Hang in there Lily04. When I start to feel the way you do, I write down my thoughts and take it to my next therapy session. It's the best thing I've ever done for myself. I also try to think of all the other people who have it way worst than I do.
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    Thank you again to all who gave such sound advice. He did end up texting me at 11:30pm with "good night love. happy bday". Since I was out all night, and the next day I didn't get the text till the next evening. I text back with 'Just got your text. Thanks'. No other exchange after that. I am relived the day is over. I am happy he remembered but am still moving forward with NC and in noway want to have a relationship with him again. Thank you all for reading this and good luck to everyone who is currently in or thinking about NC.
  7. tastycake
    This is absolutely a normal feeling but it will fade. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but I assure you it will fade. Keep a constant tab on your emotions and remind yourself that you are a good person who deserves someone good for yourself. I believe as long as you cancel out the negative each time it comes up, you will get stronger. Hang in there and keep posting for support.
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    BTW- I believe the best way to let someone know how your doing (esp. an ex) is by not contacting them. That way they wonder why your not interested in their life anymore.
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    Shut it down. Myspace is nothing but trouble. Why would you want everyone to know about your life anyway? hehe.. just my two cents.
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    Thank you everyone for all the kind words. I truthfully feel a bit better. One day at a time right?!! I think part of what i'm feeling is because i've never really been the one to be the dumper. He has only texted me twice in the last 3 months and I have not responded to either. If he texts me on my birthday, i'm afraid I will text him back and that will start the whole cycle again. I agree that it may hurt me more to hear from him then to think he forgot my birthday. Thanks again everyone. Keep them coming. I'm starting to feel better with all your support!
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    Hi everyone. I have been in NC for 3 months now. I won't go into detail because I don't want him back.. what I need is words of support. I have been doing ok.. up and down and most recently much better. Earlier this week, I had to meet a friend by his hometown and I found myself driving past his place 3x for no apparent reason. To make matters worse I drove around aimlessly hoping to .. i dont' know maybe see him? Anyhow, now i'm back to being down again. I think it has to do with the fact that I was at his town and most importantly that it is my birthday tomorrow and i'm anxious to know if he will greet me. Why? I don't know. What I do know is that I need to heal from these current feelings and move past it. The relationship is dead and I had very good reasons for leaving... Any supportive words would be greatly appreciated. I am VERY tired of being sad over someone who doesn't deserve what I have to offer. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.
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