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he's a fantastic guy otherwise. We've been through hell and back over the last 4 years or so, and he's just been the biggest supporter emotionally, and until lately, the most considerate lover. I'm just scared I guess. I want him to love me -- I want him to be aroused by me, I don't want him to feel he has to be on eggshells with me.. And it's such a sensitive issue, I think it's inevitable that he feels that way. It's not like I *haven't* told him *I'm not like that*, *I don't think I could ever do that for you*, etc... You know? And he's acted cool about it.. But lately (and I mean the past 2-3 weeks) -- he just hasn't been himself in that sense.. I want him to be perfectly aroused by *me* and *me* alone, and lately, I just think that's too much to ask. He's been fantasizing about me in a dressing room at a wedding with 3 other naked girls (bridesmaids, you know) -- and I think he liked one of them.. and that makes me physically feel even more uncomfortable. I don't want to make this a big deal (like a make or break deal) -- I just need him to see my side.. I don't ask for a 3some even with 2 guys.. why does he talk about this?? Conversation starters? lol *We gotta talk* won't be accepted.

On the same subject -- I know there are creams out there to put on your T Zone before applying make up to reduce the excess oil (and further reduce the amount of times you have to apply powder.. ) Does anyone know any??

We've reached a point in our relationship where we just gave up sexually -- and I mean in the sense, *I don't care if he looks at porn, fantasizes, masturbates frequently* what have you. Ironically enough, it did just as I expected.. It enhanced our sex lives in the sense he eventually learns that it's not as fullfilling as he'd hoped, and returns to me with a new perspective.. ready to love on me. However, here's the deal... He's started mentioning stuff *during the act* about fantasies with people we know. Not threesomes.. they're STRICTLY lesbian. I'm as straight and narrow as they come in that sense... Not in an insecure way albeit, maybe in a "sheltered" way -- just because I've never thought of these things. I try to humor him.. But it's becoming uncomfortable for me. I just don't feel comfortable with EVER being with another girl. I want to please him, but I don't want to feel forced to be something I'm not.. Things have been also escalating and I'm afraid things are going to get worse in the sense of him wanting these things to become a reality. He use to tell me things to reassure that this is not what he wants -- but lately.. that's not the case. I'm in a strange way, scared. I just want him to love me for me, I want to love him for him, and I want sex to be a way we can share that, intimately. Seems it's taken a different path though... Suggestions? Help? Advice? Shared experiences?

Just think of all the people now that are stuck in a relationship.. you know? Just think of all the people that are on the other side of that coin, wishing that they could be single.. go out, have fun, flirt, etc. There's always two sides to every story, kind of thing. But just know you're in good company. There are a LOT of people that are just so busy it's hard to get out and meet people, but, I'm sure you're a great person, a wonderful, loving personality, and that person's going to find you. Til then, let your hair down, and just go have FUN! Keep smiling, bc that's always the most attractive attribute.. Someone who looks happy, fullfilled.. etc. Everything happens in it's own timing. Everyone feel like they're waiting for something, I'm in a situation now that I'm just waiting for my life to get going.. But I also take faith in the fact that maybe I'm not ready yet, and maybe that's why things haven't panned out the way I've personally *wanted* -- but everything will happen in the way that I *need*. Keep your chin up, lady

We had this problem on nearly every one of our anniversaries.. I have ALWAYS tried to do something.. And I make him dinner, find a sentimental movie *like this year, I rented the movie we watched on our first valentines day together* and I got him a gift he had been talking and talking about, but just never would do for himself. Yes, we made love, and I know that should be a gift in itself, but it really is important for girls... Anniversaries are VERY special things, but I don't think guys feel the same for some reason.

Hey! My boyfriend and I were in the same scenario yesterday.. We just stayed relatively in control of the social event.. For example, he went shopping with the group that purchased the food, made sure he picked up things like salad, low fat dressings, boca burgers, etc etc... And so we had PLENTY to eat for us.. And everyone else had a great time with regular burgers, cakes and cookies, etc. We feel no temptation with that sort of things just because we are secure enough in what a healthy diet has done for both of us. But you're not alone