minerva5

Why are "men" so... not what I am looking for? Not that I'm in to women, but it seems that the guys that are interested in me are either idiots or socially inept. I just want to date someone that's not boring and shy or dumb. That's all I want. Where are they?

If he cums often he shouldn't have that much. I would just swallow, there is nothing less sexy than a chick running around trying to find something to spit something into, it's not that much and it's already in your mouth. You should talk to him about it. I actually just went through this with my partner. I had never done it before and was UBER nervous and couldn't do it. One night we had a couple of drinks and I decided to be adventurous. I asked him what he liked and he told me. I tried it and it wasn't that bad. Make sure you suck...apparently there's nothing worse than just lips and no sucking. It's also apparently bad to remove the mouth a lot also so try to swallow spit with your mouth still on the penis. That takes some practice. However, you should use your hands, don't be afraid to give your mouth a rest and to use your hands. I would also suggest not neglecting the testicles.

Honey, listen to me... Do you masturbate? It's the same thing. Even if you don't masturbate you have to realize that sex with yourself and sex with other people are totally different from each other. Just because he looks at porn doesn't mean he respects you less nor does it mean he thinks you are unattractive and it definitely doesn't mean that he would rather look at porn than be with you. It's just something that guys and gals like to do. "Self-love" is a different feeling, getting a rush from looking at porn is different than getting a rush from looking at your partner. That doesn't mean one is better or anything like that...it's just different. As long as he is not being mean about it, for example telling you you aren't as pretty as the women in the porn, or anything like that, you really shouldn't let it bother you. Speaking from personal experience, I have a partner that enjoys a certain fetish that I am not able to fullfill for him. He looks at porn to be a part of that part of himself. That doesn't mean we don't have sex, that doesn't mean he cares about me less...it just means that while he may enjoy being with me, he also enjoys watching porn. You need to get some self confidence, you need to be able to look at yourself and say I'm wonderful and even though he looks at porn, he still sleeps with me, respects me, loves me and I trust him. I think it's rediculous that you are making him promise not to look at porn. That's like a bf telling a gf to not look at hot guys in movies, or to not read romance novels, or to not eat chocolate covered strawberries just because it get's you a little hot and bothered. I wouldn't give up chocolate strawberries for the world and if some bf told that it made him jealous that I was eating them and enjoying myself without him and then told me to stop, I would walk. In short, if you don't like it, leave, because he is always going to look at it. Let me tell you, you would be hard pressed to find a man that didn't enjoy looking at porn once in a while.

I haven't had very much sex, this is only my second partner. My relationship is kinda interesting. We started out as friends and kinda slipped into friends with benefits and now we are in an open relationship. I'm attracted to him like it's my job and I enjoy spending time with him. But in the bedroom I get nervous.

I have a little problem with initiating sex. I'm extremely shy, I have a crazy fear of rejection, which I am sure most people have. Can anyone give me some tips on how to give hints I want to have sex or do anything intimate without having to go out on a limb? Or perhaps does anyone have advice on conquering shyness? In all other aspects of my life I am outgoing, strong willed, and I am a natural leader. It's just in the bedroom that I have problems initiating things or asking for things.

PS I regret it, but only because the guy turned out to be a jerk, I'm not a believer in waiting till marriage.

I didn't get my first kiss till I was almost 18 and didn't lose my virginity till I was 18...Jan 4th to be exact

Yeah, I think I have screwed up. Thanks everyone.

I dated a guy for little under a year and he kind of "messed" me up. In short he made me "afraid" to have sex. After we broke up I hooked up with a friend. This friend doesn't want to be in a relationship due to the fact that he just got out of a serious relationship. In the beginning I was ok with being friends with benefits, he's my best friend and I feel I can tell him anything. He's helped me a lot in sexual areas. He claims he's polyamorous and doesn't want to be tied down to anyone, he wants to love everyone which would be fine. I, however, have a small issue with this. He's cute and could pretty much get anyone he wants, and I am not. No I am not one of those girls that thinks she's hideous and doesn't deserve love, but I am realistic, in this society I am not attractive. I feel that if I were cute and could get guys the way he can get girls I would feel less insecure. But he is really the only one that seems interested in me. My question is, can one be in an open relationship where one is monogamous and the other not? Or is it doomed?