OriginalMixedUpKid

Thanks for your support, I'm taking it as a sign, that I've got to keep on moving in the direction I'm going, and in a way showing me how far I have come already. If this had happened 3 months ago, it would have killed me, but I'm alright, these things happen I guess.

Sorry if this goes on a bit, it's been a while. I was walking down the street today, when in the distance I saw my ex-girlfriend riding towards me. I could see she had already seen me, so had no chance to duck into a shop or something like that. So I had to front it out. Now I have had no contact at all with her for over 3 months, even though we broke up about this time last year. The last contact we had was not all that pleasant for me in particular (read previous posts), and as a result of it have made no further attempts at contacting her, and she hasn't contacted me either. So, like a rabbit in the headlights I was trapped, nowhere to shelter 'til the storm passed, so to speak. Then to my surprise she pulled over, this I'm afraid to say took me totally by surprise. She looked like she'd seen a ghost, we had a short mumbled exchange, then I found myself walking away as she called out good-bye. Afterwards I felt a bit rude for not wishing her "Happy New Year!" so I sent her a txt saying so, and wishing her all the best for 2006.......obviously I got no reply!........didn't expect one actually. Don't know how I feel about it, haven't figured it out yet, definitely feel different though. It was a bit like meeting a stranger, if you know what I mean. I'd like to say it was nice to see her, but I'd be lying. Aren't emotions funny things?

Thank you for posting that! Reading that really made me feel better today! Me Too.....thanks.

In a similar situation myself, maintain nc and move on. I feel anyone who you had spent so much time with and could you treat you so cruelly doesn't warrant worrying about.........however, having been where you are now I know how much it hurts, it's totally disrespectful, but you shouldn't feel less as a person. nc it all the way, it gets easier! Hang In There!

Thanks

Thanks guys, for helping me thru this. It's tough but i know it's for the best, but, it really does sting!

She replied to earlier txt, asked me to dump it for her. Missed opputunity what do i do now? Feelin' low..........back to stage 1 again.

Thank you, that sounds right. Thing is she might cancel, I sent the txt afterall. I'm a mess, but i now hope i get the chance! This is so hard!

Please guys, help me? Times running out!

I contacted my ex about picking her stuff, she told me to dump it at the charity shop. I said I'd rather she did that herself, so she said she'd pass by tonight at 9pm to pick it up! She wasn't that pleasant to me and now I'm feeling unable to see her as I'm concerned how I'll feel. I've heard she is almost certainly with someone else now. I wonder if I should send her a text saying that it might be better if I dropped it at the charity shop myself. I know it may seem obvious, but I'm really confused, I'd like to have closeure of all of this, so would it be better to face her one last time? Please HELP!!!

Thank you for that, I felt like some sad stalker, but that was exactly what it was, a gut instinct and I acted on it. I'm glad I did. She was making a jerk outta me. So no shame right?

Doesn't anyone think I should apologise for seeing what she was upto, or was I justified in what I did? Also I have box of her possessions I would like her to have back. How should I deal with that? After so much time, I feel worse now than I ever did! Help! Please

Thanks guys for being straight with me I realise that I may appear to be passive, but I did react to being dropped for someone else. Saying that i felt deceived and used, etc... Just wanted to apologise for invading her privacy. I do still have feelings, but i wish I hadn't. Also can't understand how I managed 6 months of not even wanting to see her! I know it wouldn't work long term or even short term! Still really confused, by myself more than anything.

Need some help deciding what to do.......apologies if it's a bit long!!!!! About 9 months ago I broke up with my g/f of 7 years. We had already broken up twice in the previous 18 months. 1st time for about 8 months got back together, then 4 months later again for about 6 weeks. By January it had reached crisis point, we had been arguing but then she started becoming verbally abusive, leaving voicemails telling me how much she hated me, telling me she did not have to answer 2 me etc..... I could take no more and after one final volley of abuse said fine....ok that's it! I had no contact, but had seen her accross the school hall at a parents evening, though we didn't acknowledge eachother. (our respective children go to the same school). I sent her a short txt on her B/day in June & when London was bombed(we both live in central London, but never together). Both times she replied, with a quick thanks. About 6 weeks ago, i decided to test the water, so by txt i asked her if she fancied meeting up sometime, she replied yeah luv to, listing when she was free. I called her when agreed, but she was initially a little hesitant, but decided we should meet up that night. i picked her up outside her place, after the initial hellos she asked me if i was seeing anybody else? i said no. we went for a drink, where she proceeded to tell me how much her life had improved without me around, how she had moved on etc..... We ended up in a resturant, where again she quizzed me about going out on dates etc...... i dropped her home and agreed we'd meet up the following morning to walk my dog. We met as arranged, walked the dog, then ended up going for lunch. This time she told me how much i irritated her in the past and how i still did, we ended up going round the shops together before i dropped her home. I tried calling the following day, but no reply. the following day i got a txt saying she'd enjoyed seeing me. We spoke a couple of times over the next few days & agreed to go to dinner. A hour before we were due to meet, she cancelled by txt, when I replied it was fine, she phoned me and was really chatty, i guess i was a little pushy asking why she;d cancelled but she became evasive, and finally put the phone down. I became suspicious and regrettably, drove down to where she lives and saw her coming out of her place with another guy. She saw me, but I kept on driving. About 2 mins later she called me asking if I'd seen her, with someone else? I said yes i had. She then tried to come up with some explanation, which I said she didn't have to........you can probably guess the rest?!? I decided to send her a txt 2 days later, saying sorry for my part, and that she didn't need to explain, hoped she was happy and settled & that we were still buddies. Much to my surprise she replied she still wanted to be "buddies". At this point i felt crushed, confused and uncertain. I decided that's the way it should stay, but still felt unressolved. Finally after a month i called again, again much to my surprise she answered first time. I said that i wanted to apologise for what had happened a month ago-she seemed really shocked (she stuttered oh! twice) I said that's all i'd phoned up to say. I was in a rush to get off the phone, she sounded a little disappointed, and when I said I'd catch with her again sometime she said i'd like that and that would be nice, with a slight sound of desperation. So i said i'd call her and left it at that. Sorry guys I told you it was long.........I'm really confused what I'm feeling and no idea what to do!?! any advice would be welcome