Bar16
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Well according to her the only thing they did was go out somewhere and that was right before we broke up we broke up 3 days afer they went out to there "date" but she said that he was trying to talk to her behind my back for a little while. Its just the fact that right after we break she would go with him one of my friends. I know shes not seeing him now thought. But anyway we talked about getting back together and both of agreed its way to soon to consider that. But she says she really misses me alot and i really miss her alot. I honestly dont know whats gonna happen between us. I know she still loves me but i really think this time apart is good for us both. Im not scared that she wont come back im just to the point where its like if were suspose to be together then thats whats gonna happen. Im not gonna chase after her when we broke up b4 i did that and it was really a hurtful expeirence i really think im better off not knowing what she is doing on the weekends and who she is doing them with.
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Ok its been a month since me and my ex of five years broke up. I know a big part of breaking up is my fault i pushed her away when she loved me the most. But anyway after we broke up i found out she was messing around/ seeing one of my close friends that me and her hung out with every weekend. We did not talk for about two weeks until i found out about this. When i found out of course i fliped and we stoped talking again for a few days then she wrote me a long email sayin how sorry she was and this and that and how shes not seeing him anymore becuase its eating her alive etc. etc. Ok so now me and her have been talking and i even seen her one day last week. Even after all this i still fine myself in love with her. I mean i know i dont want to get back together with her right now and either does she. But in the future i think there is a real chance for me and her. My question is does anyone out there even think i should condider getting back with her in the future right now im really confused. One day i wake up and i hate her and next i miss her to death and wish we were still together. Im starting to get over what she did but i dont know if I should ever forgive her for what she has done. someone please give me some advice on my situtaion.
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No i dont talk to the guy anymore he went behing my back to get her so im done with him. Right after the break up she was nasty and mean thats why i stoped talking to her. Now she says she didnt give herself time to get over me and she is going threw that now. She keeps emailing me sayin she is sorry. But everyone knows what happened and i could only imagine what people will think and say to me if i somehow forgive her and take her back its a very confusing time.
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Oh and she says she is going to call me tonight around 7 cause she really needs to talk to me. Should i talk to her or not?? we havent really talked on the phone in about three weeks
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Ok i posted before but this is a update. Me and my ex of 5 years off and on. Broke up almost a month ago. I knew she was seeing someone else then i found out she was seeing one of my friends the friend me and her hung out with all the time. So when i found out i called and we got into a huge fight over it of course. Ok well now for the past few days she said she stoped seeing him cause it was tearing her apart to know she was hurting me and how bad she hurt me. Now she is sayin she cant sleep at night and she is crying and she really misses me and all this stuff. The thing is when i found this out about her and him I said i was done i would never see or talk to her again. But for some reason I cant keep thouse feeling i mean i love this girl to death and I really miss her. I know i shouldnt give in to her but its really hard. For some reason i just cant stay mad at her will someone please help me. And yes we did no contact for like three weeks the first time we talked was when i found out what she was doing. I just dont know what to do. I know the right thing is to let her go for good but my heart wont let me.
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Well i have posted b4 me and my ex of five years (off and on) broke up about three weeks ago. And yesterday i just found out she is with one of my close friends. The friend the me and her used to hang out with all the time. I finnaly put all pieces of the puzzle together and ask her about it yeserday and she finally admitted. I just cannot get over it. I was moving on getting over her and this hits me like a ton of bricks. My emotions are out of control. All i can think about is all three of us hanging out having a good time. And now i can picture theM two hanging having just as good of a time but with out me THIS IS NUTS I ONLY THOUGH STUFF LIKE THIS happened ON TV!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Shes not differnt then me at all we all like the same things i think thats why we stayed together so long. hmmmm how bad can she be she lies shes cheats. She would go out at night sometimes and disappear basicaly she was just a liar and a cheat. I mean we broke up because she said she was at six flags with her aunt and cousinds come to find she was there with a guy i had no idea about. so you do the math my whole this is why the heck did i put up with that for all those years.
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sorry i meant to type she is WITH someone else now
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Yea well i think it has alot to do with she is someone else now. And when i look back i think about how much of a negative person she was and feels so good to have her out of my life. She couldnt be trusted and she was a liar. And we had a huge fight a few days ago which really made me realize how bad of a person she really is. I just wish it didnt take me 5 years to realize that there are alot better people out there.
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Ok well i posted b4 me and my ex were together on and off for 5 years. We broke up almost two weeks ago and I thought it was the worst thing ever. But now after a lil no contact I dont really miss her that much and for some reason dont care. Do you think this is because we were just attatched and not really in love. Now that im single and living the single life i dont think there is anyway i would ever take her back.
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Well once again not even a day goes by and i get an email. just her saying that she just feels she needs this right now. and hopefully we can be friends and keep in touch in the future. I just read the email and deleted it!!!
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Thanks for the advice it is really helpful. I always try no contact but she always breaks it. She instant messages me like today she was like you alright. And i just said huh? and she said nevermind and that was that. I guess im just going to have to ignore her every time we talk she acts like a b**ch anyway and shes only doing it cause she has someone else and she knows she can get under my skin. So im just gonna leave it alone and see what happens. Today was actually a good day i feel really good. Me and my ex had a trip planned for Vegas June 1st i was going to cancel it but one of buddys is gettin a plance ticket and me and him are going so that makes me feel really good. Its time to get on with my life if she comes back so be it. Maybe i wont even want her back
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I have been doing that. Ive been out almost everynight its just really hard. We wernt just a couple that sat home all of our friends were each other friends and me and her were really best friends she was the best friend that i have ever had and that is what really hurts here the most i really miss the fun that we had. But i think she needs space i have really been her only boyfriend ever and if she decides im not what she wants i guess ill just have to move on ill just take it day by day. And ill just leave her alone for a lil while and see how she reacts
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I think your right. its just i can only do NC for about a week or two cause we have a trip to vegas panned June 1st that I paid for for her birthday. She used her credit card to purchace the trip then i wrote her out a check to pay off her credit card. So the problem is i have to contact her to let her know that i cancled the trip and she has to give me my money. I need the money were talking over a grand here. So I figure ill give about a week or two then call her and tell her what i did. But im sure she will call me sonner but you never know.
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Another huge problem is she has a twin sister and she was with my BF for like 2 years and when they broke up she just jumped right into another realtionship and stayed with that guy for almost two years. Then they broke up and now she is with another guy for like 3 months now. I just think she sees that and thinks ok well i can do that to. and im scared that excatly what she is doing.
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See the thing is when i talk to her i just feel really upset and hurt. Like tonight i was like if i call you will you tlak to me tonight and shes like i dont know ill be busy meaning shes going to be with this guy. That really hurts I mean i think i should take a least a week let her know what she is doing here then maybe call her but im afraid she is hiding everything and using this guy to get over me and if i stop calling her shell forget about me i dont know im soooo confused. And for the record yes we broke up before and both saw other people stoped talking for few months but everytime we saw eachother it just felf so right. I guess maybe time apart could be good for us we are both young im 24 shes 21 so i dont know. I hate to be waiting around for her i just keeping thinking about this other guy she is with and what she is doing with him. I dont know its hard cause when im around her you can tell she doesnt know if shes doing the right thing. When i talk to her on the phone her whole attude is differnt she just blows me off sometime. Its a really hard situation cause i really believe that she doesnt know if she is making the right decison and this guy shes with now is just thrwoing off her feelings.
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So i dont know if you know my story i posted a few times. Me and my girlfriend of five years broke up last week. She is currently seeing someone else which is the hardest part of this. I mean i know i shouldnt blame myslef but when i look back its kind of hard not to. This girl was at one time head over heals in love with me and i just pushed her away took her for granted. I mean i was her whole life and at the time i wasnt sure about her but when i really started fall in love with her it was too late. She said i pushed her away and she lost alot of feelings for me. But anyway so we broke up last wednesday officially. i went to her house we said our goodbyes which was soooo hard both of us crying. Her saying that she just feels like she needs to do this right now and who knows what happens in the future. So we talked a little after that on the phone and i started reading this site and everyone sayin no contact no contact so I do it one day goes by and she calls and like an idiot i answer. And all these emotions start coming back and i start saying stuff and being annoying ask ?s about the guy and if they had sex and just being plane dumb. My ? is should i not answer when she calls until im ready to talk to her without my emotions getting in the way. I honestly believe she will come back to me because we have been threw this before and she always comes back. My only problem now is will i want her back i just need some advice because for some reason we cant stay away from each other for more then a few days.
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You say dont worry about the money but were talking about 1000 dollars here im just not let a thousand dollars down the drain. I could really use the money i know it sounds like a excuse to call her but i really need my money back and it it wasnt for that then there would no contact period.
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The thing is were gonna have to contact each other in about a week or two cause we had trip planned and she payed using her credit card and i wrote her out a check to pay off her credit card balance. So im going to cancel the trip but i have to contact her to get my money back from her so i was thinking ill just wait a week or two cancel the trip and get in touch with her but im not gonna call her or anything for the next week or so.
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Ok so me and my ex broke up a few days ago she was seeing someone else and broke it off with me and says shes still hopes for the future.....so anyway Ive REALLY been trying to the no contact, but being single now and going out every night. ive been getting really drunk, and calling her i did it both friday and saturday night i dont even think i talked to her i just dont want her to have the satisfaction of knowing that i called i even went as far as taking her number out of my cell phone this situtaion really sucks!!!! we were together for 5 years
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Ok heres the deal me and my girl have been together off and on for five years. Im her first real boyfriend ever i met her when she was 17 shes 22 now. We went on a break about 6months ago and got back together but it wasnt good. We broke up yesterday she told me she has been seeing someone else. She says shes been with me for so long she wants to see what life is like without me and if she has feelings for someone else its not all there for me. But she gives off so many mixed feelings like when i was cleaning out my room she was like dont throw my stuff away just keep it there. weve broken up before and we always wind up back together. Also we have a trip to vegas in june 1st that i cant get my money back for she says she would still think about going just as friends. I mean we are bestfriends and really eachother only real friends so its really hard. But i dont know it just never feels like its over with her i know her all too well i just dont know what to do should i just cut her off. or should i try and see if we end up back together again. and should i just say screw vegas and take the money loss or go with her is she decides to come please help me im stressing out
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See the situtaion is like this i am her first real boyfriend we have been together off and on since she was 17 years old shes 22 now and she says weve been going through so much she wants to see what life is like without out me and if she cant do it then shell come back. Even though she is seeing someone else that she says she is intrested in and she says thats another reason if she can have feelings for someone else then they must not all be there for me.....it just really sucks cause we have a non refundable trip to vegas coming up in 5 weeks. she said she would still think about going someone anyone please help
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Ok i really need to know what other people think about this. Me and my girlfriend have been together off and on for 5 years abour 2 and half years straight. We took a break about six months ago and got back together and things were bad for the whole six months she said she was rushed back into the realtionship, but anyway she admitted to me she has been talking to someone else and they went on a date sunday. Any other circumstances i would have been out the door but we have a trip planned in june to vegas payed for so i tried to see if we could maybe stick this out till June 1st when were going and see if it gets better, But that didnt work and we broke up today. The thing is when we break up she gives so many mixed feelings like when i tried to leave she wouldnt let me and said she donesnt know if she handle us not talking or seeing eachother anymore. and she says she needs this to figure out if she really wants to be with me. Now weve been threw this before and i know in about a month from now shes going to be calling me half crying sayin she misses me and doesnt know if she can do this. i just dont know what to do. should i just cut her out of my life? I really dont want to do that cause i love the girl to death. weve been threw this before and we always wind up back together. She says maybe we can go to the trip together as friends but shes not sure but its a possiblity. The thing is i cant cancel cause i get no money back so im really stuck. and i think vegas would bring us back. So i dont know what to do should i just cut her off and say forget it or should i try and see what happens. This is really hard for me were a huge part of each others lives we alwyas say we were bestfriends and its really hard to loose your best friend and your girlfriend. I would walk away but when we say good bye it doesnt feel right or feel like its over. so someone please help!!