Bar16
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Well according to her the only thing they did was go out somewhere and that was right before we broke up we broke up 3 days afer they went out to there "date" but she said that he was trying to talk to her behind my back for a little while. Its just the fact that right after we break she would go with him one of my friends. I know shes not seeing him now thought. But anyway we talked about getting back together and both of agreed its way to soon to consider that. But she says she really misses me alot and i really miss her alot. I honestly dont know whats gonna happen between us. I know she still loves me but i really think this time apart is good for us both. Im not scared that she wont come back im just to the point where its like if were suspose to be together then thats whats gonna happen. Im not gonna chase after her when we broke up b4 i did that and it was really a hurtful expeirence i really think im better off not knowing what she is doing on the weekends and who she is doing them with.
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Ok its been a month since me and my ex of five years broke up. I know a big part of breaking up is my fault i pushed her away when she loved me the most. But anyway after we broke up i found out she was messing around/ seeing one of my close friends that me and her hung out with every weekend. We did not talk for about two weeks until i found out about this. When i found out of course i fliped and we stoped talking again for a few days then she wrote me a long email sayin how sorry she was and this and that and how shes not seeing him anymore becuase its eating her alive etc. etc. Ok so now me and her have been talking and i even seen her one day last week. Even after all this i still fine myself in love with her. I mean i know i dont want to get back together with her right now and either does she. But in the future i think there is a real chance for me and her. My question is does anyone out there even think i should condider getting back with her in the future right now im really confused. One day i wake up and i hate her and next i miss her to death and wish we were still together. Im starting to get over what she did but i dont know if I should ever forgive her for what she has done. someone please give me some advice on my situtaion.
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No i dont talk to the guy anymore he went behing my back to get her so im done with him. Right after the break up she was nasty and mean thats why i stoped talking to her. Now she says she didnt give herself time to get over me and she is going threw that now. She keeps emailing me sayin she is sorry. But everyone knows what happened and i could only imagine what people will think and say to me if i somehow forgive her and take her back its a very confusing time.
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Oh and she says she is going to call me tonight around 7 cause she really needs to talk to me. Should i talk to her or not?? we havent really talked on the phone in about three weeks
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Ok i posted before but this is a update. Me and my ex of 5 years off and on. Broke up almost a month ago. I knew she was seeing someone else then i found out she was seeing one of my friends the friend me and her hung out with all the time. So when i found out i called and we got into a huge fight over it of course. Ok well now for the past few days she said she stoped seeing him cause it was tearing her apart to know she was hurting me and how bad she hurt me. Now she is sayin she cant sleep at night and she is crying and she really misses me and all this stuff. The thing is when i found this out about her and him I said i was done i would never see or talk to her again. But for some reason I cant keep thouse feeling i mean i love this girl to death and I really miss her. I know i shouldnt give in to her but its really hard. For some reason i just cant stay mad at her will someone please help me. And yes we did no contact for like three weeks the first time we talked was when i found out what she was doing. I just dont know what to do. I know the right thing is to let her go for good but my heart wont let me.
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Well i have posted b4 me and my ex of five years (off and on) broke up about three weeks ago. And yesterday i just found out she is with one of my close friends. The friend the me and her used to hang out with all the time. I finnaly put all pieces of the puzzle together and ask her about it yeserday and she finally admitted. I just cannot get over it. I was moving on getting over her and this hits me like a ton of bricks. My emotions are out of control. All i can think about is all three of us hanging out having a good time. And now i can picture theM two hanging having just as good of a time but with out me THIS IS NUTS I ONLY THOUGH STUFF LIKE THIS happened ON TV!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Shes not differnt then me at all we all like the same things i think thats why we stayed together so long. hmmmm how bad can she be she lies shes cheats. She would go out at night sometimes and disappear basicaly she was just a liar and a cheat. I mean we broke up because she said she was at six flags with her aunt and cousinds come to find she was there with a guy i had no idea about. so you do the math my whole this is why the heck did i put up with that for all those years.
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sorry i meant to type she is WITH someone else now
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Yea well i think it has alot to do with she is someone else now. And when i look back i think about how much of a negative person she was and feels so good to have her out of my life. She couldnt be trusted and she was a liar. And we had a huge fight a few days ago which really made me realize how bad of a person she really is. I just wish it didnt take me 5 years to realize that there are alot better people out there.
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Ok well i posted b4 me and my ex were together on and off for 5 years. We broke up almost two weeks ago and I thought it was the worst thing ever. But now after a lil no contact I dont really miss her that much and for some reason dont care. Do you think this is because we were just attatched and not really in love. Now that im single and living the single life i dont think there is anyway i would ever take her back.
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Well once again not even a day goes by and i get an email. just her saying that she just feels she needs this right now. and hopefully we can be friends and keep in touch in the future. I just read the email and deleted it!!!
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Thanks for the advice it is really helpful. I always try no contact but she always breaks it. She instant messages me like today she was like you alright. And i just said huh? and she said nevermind and that was that. I guess im just going to have to ignore her every time we talk she acts like a b**ch anyway and shes only doing it cause she has someone else and she knows she can get under my skin. So im just gonna leave it alone and see what happens. Today was actually a good day i feel really good. Me and my ex had a trip planned for Vegas June 1st i was going to cancel it but one of buddys is gettin a plance ticket and me and him are going so that makes me feel really good. Its time to get on with my life if she comes back so be it. Maybe i wont even want her back
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I have been doing that. Ive been out almost everynight its just really hard. We wernt just a couple that sat home all of our friends were each other friends and me and her were really best friends she was the best friend that i have ever had and that is what really hurts here the most i really miss the fun that we had. But i think she needs space i have really been her only boyfriend ever and if she decides im not what she wants i guess ill just have to move on ill just take it day by day. And ill just leave her alone for a lil while and see how she reacts
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I think your right. its just i can only do NC for about a week or two cause we have a trip to vegas panned June 1st that I paid for for her birthday. She used her credit card to purchace the trip then i wrote her out a check to pay off her credit card. So the problem is i have to contact her to let her know that i cancled the trip and she has to give me my money. I need the money were talking over a grand here. So I figure ill give about a week or two then call her and tell her what i did. But im sure she will call me sonner but you never know.
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Another huge problem is she has a twin sister and she was with my BF for like 2 years and when they broke up she just jumped right into another realtionship and stayed with that guy for almost two years. Then they broke up and now she is with another guy for like 3 months now. I just think she sees that and thinks ok well i can do that to. and im scared that excatly what she is doing.