Duarts

here's this link removed if you want some background... I wanted to keep talking to this girl after our breakup because she's fun to talk to. At first I just wanted her to change her mind, but I also wanted to respect her decision for ending the relationship...so I didn't call or do much for the first couple weeks, I did send an email asking her to go to dinner with me to talk about stuff (because it was too hard to call...I did call once but she was @ work) but she didn't respond. We got along great all the way til the end, even our last conversation we had went well...until I was actually the one who told her I wanted to talk to her in person (because I had felt like she wanted out for a little while), but then she ended the relationship over the phone. After about 2 weeks I had accepted the idea of us not being together anymore, but I decided to just wait a little longer to be sure I could handle it. So tomorrow will be 3 weeks, and I figure it's a good time to call...I'm sure she'd be okay, I doubt there's any way I could have meant as much to her as she did me, and since I'm okay now, I really don't see a problem...but I dunno if it would be weird or not. Just so you know where I stand emotionally, I'd take her back in a second if she wanted...I don't forsee that feeling changing any time soon though. But also, if she never wanted me back, I'd be totally fine being friends with her (I think). So I guess my question is just...should I call tomorrow? should I wait awhile longer? or some other option? Thanks

I'm told that I'm pretty hot...and I claim (and can probably back it up pretty well) to be the shyest person ever. Just something fawked up in my brain I guess, just always been this way.

So here's my story...this could easily go into the shy forum, as I am as shy as they come. I met a girl at a bar about 3 months ago, and we connect! I'm never able to talk to ... anyone, especially not girls...but I can talk to her. I get her number and am able to call her. Our connection is still strong over the few times we talked before hanging out again. I know she has to have felt it...she was wanting me to go with her to a wedding in her hometown (about 3 hours away) after we had only talked on the phone a few times and had only seen each other twice (stupid me didn't go with her though.) She was the one who kissed me first too...the 3rd time we saw each other. I'm 20 and had never had a girlfriend, never done anything with a girl (like I said...extremely shy). She's 22, was engaged until about a year before we met. Well, I wanted to be with her all the time...I called her often, we end up just talking and I'm not able to ask her to come over or anything...we live less than 5 minutes from each other, and she's only been over like 5 times, and I've been over there about the same (over the course of ~3 months.) Yeah, so I'm pretty slow...but the times we shared together were great... Well, the past few weeks I could tell she was less interested in me. She'd be gone for a week and didn't call at all…and the last time I went over she was kind of leaning the other way on the couch...and when she would do something showing affection (putting her leg on mine) she'd quickly pull away. So it's been coming for awhile, but last Friday she officially told me that we shouldn't have a relationship anymore...she's trying to deal with school right now wouldn't have much time for me...she says "she has a fear of commitment and long term relationships" and what-not (due to what her ex-fiance did to her)...and she says we could still be friends and hang out sometimes... She's the only girl I've ever liked enough to pursue despite my extreme shyness…I'm not sure if I love her…she'd be my first love so I may be mistaking feelings...but honestly, when I wake up in the mornings to my alarm, she's the first thing I think of before I can even shut off my alarm. I gave her a letter saying how much her friendship would mean to me since I haven't had many people in my life that I could talk to… So now I need other people's opinions…I don't want to be "that guy" …should I just leave it alone since she doesn't want to be with me, or should I call once in awhile and try to stay good friends (since that really would make me happier than never talking to her again…or at least not often, we may randomly bump into each other sometime), or should I tell her how I really feel (possibly hurting chances of even a friendship). also, one more thing...in an email she wrote "Anyhoo, I just wanted to let you know a bit more about how I felt and let you know that I still think that you are a fabulous guy I just don't think we're right for each other..." where I think we're almost perfect for eachother...but then again, I probably know a lot more about her than she does me, since she talks more than me (as most girls do)

Sounds like my relationship...except I'm the shy guy in my case...I'm trying to get better (come out of my shell) but it is really difficult as I've been this way my entire life. So if your boyfriend is anything like me, he wants more too. Since I'm so shy, I'd like my girlfriend to be more.. commanding is the word maybe? I guess the way it is gives me more practice so I'll be better in the future...but I'm sure she's getting annoyed and impatient as you seem to be. How long have you guys been together?

I'm a 20 year old virgin and have tried to have sex with my girlfriend a couple times, both times I was pretty drunk...and I couldn't get it up (because of nervousness or whatever). She's experienced, and I know she wants it...I want it too, but not as much as I just want to satisfy her. I'm sure she's annoyed that I couldn't get it up...I attempted oral, I'm sure it wasn't very good though as it was my first time doing that as well, plus as I mentioned, I was drunk. But now after a few weeks she doesn't seem as interested in me. I want to try again without being drunk...I dunno, there's a lot more to the story and more I want to ask, but I'll keep it short and simple. What do you think she's thinking? I'm a good guy other than ... these problems, I give her flowers, call her often, I've been told many times I'm hot, smart, funny...all that good stuff. How do I go about trying again? Should I actually ask to try again? (I'm shy too, so it's really hard for me to talk about stuff like that, which is why I had to be drunk for my first attempts) thanks. By the way, we've only known eachother about 12 weeks, and the first try was after about 4 weeks...2nd try 8 weeks. I feel I kinda rushed it a little...but whatever, what's done is done.