Scootchy

Hey Unhumble I am also studying stuff I do not want to study. The way to look at it is that few people really enjoy their job. These people find ways of making work a more pleasurable experience. These people are concentrating more on the evening at hand and how much fun they are going to have after their crappy shift at their crappy job. Students change their careers dramatically all the time. People have to find their passion in life. They have to experience all that life has to offer and take full fiscal advantage when the opportunity presents itself. Get out there and learn what you want, and have a good time when you are not working. The people who work hard for a living better enjoy what they are doing. The feeling you get from a job well done or a noteworthy accomplishment is the ultimate reward. Thus, if you enjoy your job, that joy is your reward and the salary is a bonus. If you hate your job, the only reward is how you spend your time when you are not at work. Your salary is still a bonus. But these people have to find a new way of looking at their job or find a better one. Think about why you go to find a job. Money! Thats the main part of your life that we are talking about. You better enjoy it! If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.

Hey rawr58 This friend of yours is acting very childish according to the information that you have provided. Your friend has to just cool down for a bit, and needs to be reminded about who and what it is that she is throwing away here. It sounded like you guys were really close, she just needs to be reminded of that. I think you have to take charge in this situation. Cut into her day when she has a free moment. Don't arrange a meeting, just pick her out of whatever it is she is doing. Put her down on a spot and talk her ears off. Tell her about the things you are feeling like you told us here. Tell her you are really trying here and that you apologized and want to really be friends like you used to be. If she refuses after a substantial amount of effort on your side, then I think you deserve a better best friend. Someone who forgives.

Hey SaSaRai You know you can always use those self tanning lotions that you rub on. Apply in a circular motion and one hour before going to bed. Applying in a circular motion will make sure that no streaking or weird tan spots develop. You are supposed to let the stuff get absorbed by your skin so thats the reason for applying an hour before bed. Wear proper pj's that won't stick to the tan lotion. Different positions will probly solve your problem aswell, just make sure that you cover every area of your body with approximately the same amount of time in every position to get an even tan.

Those are some cool ideas. Thanks a lot Jinx! She's very deep into sports, but I don't think that is gonna help me in any way. Not that I can think of at least. Its a restaurant by the way. Anyone else got some ideas?

Hey people. Scootchy here. I met a stunning girl online that lives an hour's drive away from me (Not that transport is a problem). I let her know that I'm interested in a long-ish email and immediately after she read it she let me know that she is also interested. What am I supposed to do to make the perfect first date absolutely perfect? Well as close to perfection as humanly possible anyways. We both are completely inlove with the beach (Its winter here by the way) and music. I know a snazzy place that has a live band every Thursday night at like 20:30. I think we can do that to top it off. Anything for earlier in the day? Just to get her to tell me at the end of the date that she wants to do it again sometime, atleast. Any help will be greatly appreciated.

She works everyday until 6pm. She has to take a taxi home everyday after that. I need a car. I can ask her out when I have a car. I can't do anything about this until I get a car. Her new work is a 30 minute drive from my place. I will drive that way though for her. Mentor, I don't want this one to be the one that got away. I don't want to have the conscience of I could've had her if I did something differently. I really want to know what the DIFFERENT thing to do is. I really don't want to lose this one. I visited her today and convinced myself that I am no good whatsoever at talking to women. I don't talk enough! I need to plan conversations before I start them. I will practice them if I have to until it gets natural. She didn't seem so talkative to me today. I think its a bad thing. I sympathize with people who had to go through this type of thing, especially those who never had a chance like this. I know now how it feels. I am 100% confident that I can be the perfect boyfriend. I can be very romantic. I just need someone who loves me. I want her to be this one. I know I can keep her happy. I just need to get her first. HOW? I can do all these ideas when I get a car and a drivers.

Thanx you guys, Mentor especially. You've been my trusted advisor through this pretzel shaped situation that I'm going through. I shall take her on dates as much as she is available the second I get a car and a drivers. That should be on the end of February I hope. Her birthday is on the end of February. As of Friday she wil be working in the other mall in the middle of nowhere. She will still be living near her old work though, which makes it easier. I visited her yesterday in her shop. It felt like an eternity when I last saw her. We hugged for a longer while than a normal hug and I told her that I missed her a lot. She said that she missed me too. Whe used the word "missed" so I take it that she did actually mis me. What do you people think? I got the longest two months to go before I can take her on dates and give her, her birthday present on the end of February. Maybe both on the same day. That would be sweet.

You're right, Ticklebug. Now I want to know If I could just ask her how she thinks of me. A friend or maybe more. Is this a smart thing to do right now for me? Will she even say more than a friend is she feels that way?

Alright fair enough. I just don't want anyone taking her away from me. I want her! That's how I really feel about her, but yeah ok. I'll hold it off.

I feel as if I need to tell a friend of a month of mine how much I really feel for her. If you people want to know more of my story, please read my previous thread called: I NEED help! Frist time love struck! I phoned her on Christmas night and we talked happily until her battery died 10 minutes later. She's working in a different mall half an hour's drive away from where we bothe used to work, I still work there. I told her she can phone me when she wants to hang out again. I really would like her to phone me one day very soon... I'm working tuesday night and I'm afraid I'll see her in her old shop and she didn't phone me. I'll handle it if it happens though...Just the telling her of my love is bugging me. Should I hold out till her birthday? That's 2 months away and I'm really scared someone takes her away from me. I'm working on getting a car and a licence still. That's a big problem. Her birthday is on the end of February and I'm giving her a special present and some love song lyrics from our favourite Sinatra. This will work I know...but how do I say I love her? Please check out my first thread mentioned above to get the full picture. Every bit of help will be greatly appreciated!

Yeah you guys are right. I should just let it come naturaly. It isn't as hard and difficult as I'm making it here. I just had the idea of making them smile more often and ultimately think of you more.

Does anyone here know how to be funny with women in a way that will win them over eventually? I know being funny always helps. How about a few good jokes that always does the trick?

I can't walk anywhere with her except around the mall. We got no car and it's not that type of city where you can just walk about casually. I need a car. That's still going to take a while since I haven't even began parking yet. Her birthday is way at the end of February and past Valentine's day. She'll be working in a different mall half an hour's drive away at the start of January. Should I still go with that "looking forward to spending more time" speech and "I think you're special" speech? Should I just tell her straight up that I want us to be more than friends? How can I say that?

TEXT MESSAGE receiveD CHRISTMAS MORNING: I already told SANTA what I want for Christmas - a good friend who will stay forever. So if a fat man comes around & tries to wrap you up...please co-operate! You think she sends this to every male friend she's got?

Yes I did reply to those nice sms' I got from her. I shall keep you people posted. Thanx and merry Christmas!

You'd be surprized what activities we don't got here, Mentor. Thanx alot Mentor, you've really showed me a way to win her heart if I haven't done so already apparently.. It will be hookline and sinker when transport isn't an issue. I'm just really scared that someone will win her over before me. So far no sign of this would be intruder...but who knows. Thanx alot man. I'll be keeping you people up to date. Thank you so much Mentor! Merry Christmas! Please let me know if anyone still got something they'd like to mention or suggest. Every little bit is welcome and appreciated!

Wow. I should pay more attention... This is really really helping me, it's just... The thing is, Mentor, Is neither of us have a car so we are limited to walks outside the mall. How do I increase the intensity without being so obvious? What can I say or talk about to accomplish this? Can I tell her that she's very special to me, or is that too obvious? The only time I get with her alone is the short time she got after work and that is only if she finishes at 6pm. She is going to be working somewhere else like I said earlier, what can I do then? I'll have to drive half an hour to get where she is. I'm gonna have to make a day out of it, don't you think? What do you suggest Mentor?

Thanx alot guys. This has all really helped me. The reason why I didn't feel like I wanted a grilfriend, giggle3474 is that every girl I know this generation is very shallow. Not this one. I REALLY really don't want to blow it with this one. She's very special. I feel like it could be love because, like I said, My heart feels like it stops and I get the most incredible feeling when I think of the time I spent with her. I just want to hold her forever and ever! It feels like you have just eaten your favourite chocolate, you know? I have her smiling face in my head ALL the time. I mean ALL the time. I'm really scared that someone is going to take her away from me. I'm not really good with talking to women. How do I know that she feels the same way? Can I encourage that in some way? I know I can't make her feel what I feel. I just want to magnify it if you catch my drift. Phil, that's a sweet idea. When's Valentine's again? It was never necessary for me to know...until now. Mentor, that's good advice, but it sounds like an art difficult to master.

Hi there. I'm 18 years old and I have never had a girlfriend before and I wasn't planning on changing that for just anyone. Three Weeks ago I met a girl that walked into my workplace and happens to know my boss and his wife for a long time. A few times she sits down at the counter where I work and we talk for quite a while. We communicate very easily. One fine evening I was listening to my mp3 player filled with reggae. Yes! You read right! I love reggae! She asked me what I was listening to, I said nothing she would enjoy. She insisted that she decides that. She loved it! For the first time in my life I've met another girl my age and my race that loves my music! I thaught I was the only one. So did she. I thaught that I was getting a crush on her in that week. But paid it no heed because it never pays off. Round about that day, in that week rather, I felt very strong feelings for her. When she walks into my workplace, it feels like my heart stops. Dead in its tracks. I think I'm in the infatuation stadium of the crush cycle if you know what I'm talking about. She gave mer her number without me asking for it and sent me an sms stating: It was an ordinary day then I thaught of you and smiled. It was no longer an ordinary day! That sms. Talking to her always made my day. I made here some cd's proir to her request. I got her a pruple box with the cd's in them and an orange rose with some love song lyrics. This got me a very positive response via sms. She said I came along when she wanted to give up on life and she loves this friendship we have, and I touched her heart quite deeply. That's what the sms stated. She said one night that she loves jazz and could dance on it, she enjoyed it that much. As much as me! I asked if she goes to jazz clubs. She said she can never get someone to go with her. I offered myself. She was very enthusiastic about the idea! I said I'll take her as soon as I get a car...and a licence. She said she'll take me if she gets those things before me! Yesterday I phoned her while on the beach and asked her if she likes the beach. I go there every weekend. She said it's her favourite place! I offered to take her one day. She said that she'll enjoy that very much! On here birthday at the end of February I am going to giver her a neclace she's being eyeballing in a little shop when we took a strol through the mall where we both work at. I'm also giving her some more love song lyrics written by Frank Sinatra. Our favourite. In a purple box. She has to transfer to another branch like half an hour's drive from where she works right now. In February she might move there aswell. I won't care driving there if I must just to see her. My question is, where do I go from here? Do I just tell her that I love her? How do I tell her? Should I do something different for here birthday or change something or do something before that? Anything would be greatly appreciated!