Purple

WE have been throughg eVERYTHING together and at this point just don't make each other happy. we have never been able to stay away from each other - call it kismet. We spoke and he told me he hurts horrible everyday - he just wants something eas , non-chaotic now where each person can be their own self. (He was controlling and I was a puppet.) we both realize how awful that was. He is afraid that the patterns won't die and that the damage is too deep. We are figruing out my meds to get me balanced and normal and self sufficient which I have become and hav beomce much stronger than I ever thoght possible. I just don't want to lose him to her w/o giving us a healthy real chance. Don't know if it can be done.

Abouot to be divorced after almost 8 years together but only 1 yr of marriage. Space - space for what? He needs to find himself again and then decide if and when we are both in a good place, we can be friends. I hate this and I hate the nc. The rebound girl is quickly falling in love and I believe it will be reciproacted. I just feel like the jerk waiting for it to end and him to come back to me....

How do you ever get to eat again? I am literally forcing myself to get something in - whether it be some applesauce or just some juice. Unfortunately it's noticeable which makes people wonder and ask inappropriate questions? How long until I feel better - REALLY how long?

They are now having relations- that's when he said it isn't physcial with her, but rather mental. Whatever right?? His parents are my best friends.

My divorce should be final in about 2 weeks or so - neither of us asked the courts to mail the decree - didn't want to know anymore. Been together for 7.5 yrs and got married. This past year was awful. found out I have some wacky crossed chemicals in my briain which did contribute to much of the chaos. I moved out in Sept and am miserable. We were still sleeping together up unitl about a month ago when he met someone. She is my physcial opposite and not his type at all! He shares his new happiness w/friends from every coast. He said we had been done for so long that now he is just regaining his life and just wants some happiness and just to laugh. She hates me by the way. He finally asked for the NC rule and I hate it. She is in my house, my bed, w/my dogs and accdg to him not nearly as pretty as I am. He told me it's not physical - she fills a friendship void - she is his best friend right now. By the way, we were on and off for years and could never stay apart. I keep finding all of these wonderul notes and cards froma FEW months ago! Thoughts please! I hate NC and don't want him to forget me. I am doing better w/o him physically and mentally but not emotionally. Thoughts?? thanks