Limbo

why isnt anyone posting ive been waiting for days.

well im an idiot. I called her and she picked up and I was ok explaining the situation and she deffinately didnt know anything about it plus it just doesnt make sense she would care when she is with someone else. Everything was fine until she said ok I have to go to work now so ittyl, to which I replied ...I hope so ....I miss you so much... BAHHHH. Any advice would be appreciated.

Ok this gets even better. I have a friend who is a girl and we have kissed once because I was so guilty about that I did not want it repeated. She got mad cause im pining over my ex and said she didnt tell me how she felt before now out of respect but now she wants me to move on with her. Im like thats not possible right now and I dont really think of you like that your just such a good person and honest I like talking to you. so now shes mad and wont talk to me. at 9 am today she gets a call from a really mad women yelling at her and asking what she thought she was doing with me and she knows we are sleeping together and she was swearing at her alot I guess. I have no clue who this could be. we dont have alot of the same friends. I dont know who would know or care about her being with me or even if we slept together other then, and this is the first time im calling her this, my ex. Im so confused now I dont know whats going on. My friend said the voice didnt sound at all like my ex so I have no clue who would be so mad at that possibility that they would phone so early in the morning and be so angry thinking my friend and I slept together. I want to call my ex and ask her but im really trying to maintain the NC rule...im so messed

My girlfriend and I have been fighting alot and she moved out a couple months ago. After she moved out we were getting along so great I thought well maybe we just needed some space. So I start hanging out with friends, a little too much maybe cause I neglected her and took for granted that she would always be there. I should mention we have been together on and off for 7 years and have broken up for months at a time before. I had asked her the last time we had broken up for a while if it had been any easier with any of her other boyfriends to which she replied no. So she stops phoning me and stops returning my phone calls, emails, text messages everything for like a week. Im going nuts thinking I deserved this for neglecting her and taking her for granted. I wouldnt stay over at her new place cause I guess I had some resentment towards her for moving out...aka leaving me instead of dealing with the situation differently but I guess I can see how it happened more clearly now. Today she finally comes over out of the blue on her way to work. She tells me something happened she didnt plan on. She tells me something happened with a women. Then I grab my coffee table and flip it upside down and almost everything else. and im like ohh I guess thats what all the ...I need space give me some time was all about. She had told me she had some interest in women in the past but wasnt interested in a realationship with one cause she couldnt see herself doing that. Im thinking she is fullfilling something she has had in her head for a while and Im sure its not going to be a long term thing,even though she says she does like her and has been with her for a week and a half about. My plan is to love her the best way I can, to let her do what she will do weather I like it or not. Im going to be her bestfriend which she says I am and that she misses me and wants to still be friends.(yes the dreaded phrase that no man wants to hear). However I will have to settle for this and I believe if I am there for her and truly showing I care for her and im there when she needs me, she will realize after time that I am the one she is meant to be with. I would really like to grab her and haul butt to the nearest councelor but I cant control this situation and I just have to except that cause there is no other choice. I believe that if she sees me going on with my life and being the bigger person so to speak that there will be more of a chance for a healthy relationship in the future.... unless she truly is gonna go the lesbian lifestyle. I would like to talk to lesbian girls actually and find out if a girl who gets into this type of situation after clearly being with a man for such a long time and with only minor lesbian experiences can happily convert to the lesbian lifestyle. I turely cant see her telling everyone and walking down the street holding hands but im not sure right now. Im just trying to stay calm so when she comes over in T- 20 mins from now I can explain my feeling rationally and calmly explain that I will always lover. I respect her and I will always be here for her no matter what, she is in my life forever and I would have it no other way. Ok so she came over and on good advice from my roomates girlfriend I stayed calm and in control and thought clearly and expressed myself very well I think to the point where I saw some hope. Previous to this I was a babbling slobbering fool like alot of people that would be after not having any contact for a week (she enforced, I begged and pleaded) then being told this. So she was here for 2 hours after work. It was late, like 2 am when we both decided to get her home , She has told a couple people including her brother cause she got cornered by him on the street when she was standing with the other girl, but said I was deffinately gonna be the hardest person to tell (had to add that). so I drove her and we didnt really talk in the car. I gave her two very big hugs and told her it would be ok and that I care too much to let her go out of my life if she can be repectful of my feellings to not tell me anything that is gonna obviously bother me and the fact that im not gonna be hanging out with both of them, that I think It will be ok. So I drive home and she calls me right away needing my license plate number to deal with this bs parking ticket her resident manager wrongly caused (another story) which for the last week had been the only reason to contact me at all, just information to get the ticket delt with. So anyway she called me right away and we talked for 2 HOURS after I had told her my license number. Most of it was just spent listening to her type the letter up to the manager and putting together a binder for her brother for school...2 hours not really saying too much but she would not do what I thought she would, which is to be like ok ill ttyl bye..she just kept hanging on even when we didnt say anything at all. I was making it a point of talking about good and funny experiences we have had, trying to show her I could be happy and I joked and laughed and I havnt talked to her since. That was a little over 24 hours ago. She said her and some friends might go to her grandmas cabin over the weekend. Im pretty sure that it would be best to let her call me first but what do you guys think...Im all for the NC thing and the space thing but how much is too much when I see shes not really gone....just lost, and my whole being aches for her.

I have been smoking weed for about 14 years. Of all the things Ive learned about it I can say this. Basically weed is not gonna hurt you, its the fact that you are smoking it that is bad. Smoking of any kind is bad for your lungs and airways. Back in the 1800's women used to make tea with weed to relieve their menstral cramps. Im not in fact advicating the use because obviously it has some side affects that can be uncomfortable for some people as well as making you very lazy and unmotivated, which is not good. Also depends on if your using it to escape or as a substitute for some kind of emotional pain. there are many people that enjoy it as just something they do once in a while at a party or on the weekend and it does not affect thier lives mentally or physically really. Moderation is the key with anything.........except love.

because they are female, attractive to you and you are comfortable with them.

My girlfriend and I have been fighting alot and she moved out a couple months ago. After she moved out we were getting along so great I thought well maybe we just needed some space. So I start hanging out with friends, a little too much maybe cause I neglected her and took for granted that she would always be there. I should mention we have been together on and off for 7 years and have broken up for months at a time before. I had asked her the last time we had broken up for a while if it had been any easier with any of her other boyfriends to which she replied no. So she stops phoning me and stops returning my phone calls, emails, text messages everything for like a week. Im going nuts thinking I deserved this for neglecting her and taking her for granted. I wouldnt stay over at her new place cause I guess I had some resentment towards her for moving out...aka leaving me instead of dealing with the situation differently but I guess I can see how it happened more clearly now. Today she finally comes over out of the blue on her way to work. She tells me something happened she didnt plan on. She tells me something happened with a women. and im like ohh I guess thats what all the ...I need space give me some time was all about. She had told me she had some interest in women in the past but wasnt interested in a realationship with one cause she new inside that thats not the kind of life she wants. Im just thinking she is fullfilling something she has had in her head for a while and Im sure its not going to be a long term thing. My plan is to love her the best way I can, to let her do what she will do weather I like it or not. Im going to be her bestfriend which she sais I am and that she misses me and wants to still be friends.(yes the dreaded phrase that no man wants to hear). However I will have to settle for this and I believe if I am there for her and truly showing I care for her and im there when she needs me, she will realize after time that I am the one she is meant to be with. I would really like to grab her and haul butt to the nearest councelor but I cant control this situation and I just have to except that cause there is no other choice. I believe that if she sees me going on with my life and being the bigger person so to speak that there will be more of a chance for a healthy relationship in the future.... unless she truly is gonna go the lesbian lifestyle. I would like to talk to lesbian girls actually and find out if a girl who gets into this type of situation after clearly being with a man for such a long time and with only minor lesbian experiences can happily convert to the lesbian lifestyle. I turely cant see her telling her faminly or most of her friends so I know she isnt totally commited to this situation. Im just trying to stay calm so when she comes over in T- 20 mins from now I can explain my feeling rationally and calmly explain that I will always lover. I respect her and I will always be here for her no matter what, she is in my life forever and I would have it no other way.