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I love my girlfriend and friend of many many years, she's very good in bed. I have certain sexual desires and she refuses all of them, its nothing I consider outrageous. Ghings like cumming on her body or anal (I can understand if she didn't like it , I can cope), or finishing when she goes down on me. She also doesn't sometimes become the dominant one, mostly submissive. I love her to death but I have spoken to her about maybe trying new things, and she doesn't like to/want to. I've asked her also to touch herself to turn me on, but she won't. I have the urge to stray but I know its wrong. I have even asked her if she has things she would like done on her and so far I gladly do them for her, I love to satisfy her. What can I do? I dont want to feel like sex is boring because I am still young and I do have a good sexual appetite. Please help

I've known this girl since I was 17, I recently turned 21 and we started dating. Shes been my best friend for a while and everything is going great. Ive wanted to know some things about her and we are planning on becoming intimate so I asked her if she's slept with anyone without protection, and she says yes, two people, and that she's been tested before and she will test her self again to prove shes clean. (I had the same scenario with my ex where she came up 'clean' but I had somehow got an STD from her, and she was the only one I ever slept with) so you can see why I'm worried. I know my new girlfriend slept with these people before she met me, but why does it hurt me inside to know she's slept with other people before? Is this a normal feeling?

Well, I took everyones adviced and I basically moved on, and she comes by and she says Hi now and then and a word or two, shes still really shy, but at least I get SOME sort of response compared to before maybe If I just be easy and have small conversations with her she will open up more. [-o

Today I saw her at work and I heard her talking to another co-worker and she was talking and having a normal cool conversation, and when my co-worker (an older guy he's about 35-40) she smiled but I was next to the guy and she didn't look at me, she walked by me several times today with a half smile on her face but looking more towards the floor. She seemed in a good mood. Either I carry money on my feet, or there's REALLY something interesting down there when I walk by lol. Geez come on, it's the ground, and I dont bite 8) . Any suggestions??

I've seen her during breaks and lunch and she's super nice sometimes quiet but shes a happy friendly girl. Shes got this one girlfriend she hangs out with and they talk ALL the time and I have been friendly to her girlfriend (though not interested and her friend is nice and respectful back). Maybe her friend is putting some bad info on me you never know) She does concentrate on her work, but I mean just the way she won't look at me anywhere near my face, and it's so obvious tells me something is wrong, either good or bad. I say this because once she and her friend where coming back from lunch walking side by side, so I said "Hi" in general to both, and her friend smiles and said "Hi" back but she looked down and acted as if she didn't hear or see me. Im just confused, I wish I could read her type of body language or something.

At my job I've recently started noticing Im very attracted to this specific girl, I barely knew her name and what area she worked in, I found out her name, and I always say "Good Morning" to everyone, even the ladies and sometimes talk to a few if they like...anyways.. This specific girl, she makes NO eye contact with me, AT ALL, if I say good morning she says it back but with a low tone or like if it was mumbled, but Im serious I can look the girl straight in the face and she will not look at me, talk to me nothing. Like she hated my guts. I have done nothing to her (or anyone else for that matter) im a real nice guy, real polite, and not a jerk at all. I did see her look in my direction once (maybe accident) but she diverted her eyesight down. I assumed she was just shy but to me now that I'm checking her out more, she seems like she doesn't want to come in contact with me by any means. I'm really confused. Anyone experienced or done anything like this?

In my opinion I believe you did the right thing. A relationship is literally defined as: "A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other" And she (by what you stated her) seems to show she either lacks interest or isn't putting any effort on her part. I think you would be better off finding someone who would balance out the relationship and provide you with more support than what you had. I wish you luck !

My exgirlfriend and I broke up because of some small issues we never tried hard enough to work out, and she really wants to 'progress' as in starting a relationship alone together and I wasn't too ready I guess. She left me and during the process she tried seeing other people, and she saw this one guy who got her drunk and date raped her... now shes pregnant and wants me back in her life, I want her too but she refuses to give the baby up for adoption. What options do I have, I know we both love each other and she made a mistake, but this mistake sometimes hurts me a lot. What can I do?

Everytime I talk to her I realize that shes really a woman I want to be with for life, and then I think about her baby, and its not the baby that brings me problems, its the baby brings me awful memories about out horrible breakup and its a lot of pain, and I dont want that pain to be in that baby's eyes everytime I look at him. its not her fault, its not that baby's fault. What should I do? At the moment we are working out plans to possibly get back together and start a family

Personally, I believe it's a matter of luck and how picky you really are when chosing a soulmate, some people marry their high school sweethearts, and some date for years and don't marry until very much later on in life. All dating does, is show you what you like, and what you don't like in a person, so that you can choose better, but what if the 1 person you see, is everything you want? It all depends on how lucky and picky you are...

I'm also afraid that if I end up marrying her, I know one of those kids is not mine and I don't want to develop any different emotions toward that child as I would any of my own (I have none yet). And the fact that maybe I'm young (20) and I should strive to possibly marry a woman who doesn't have kids seems to be instilled in me. I just want to be happy, and I want her to be happy, but I find the child is sort of a 'buffer' between us. I know she didn't mean it.

My ex-girlfriend and I broke up for some time (she thought it was right at the time), which she ended up getting pregnant, against her will. It was date rape, and she now loves her baby, dispite how she got it, should I get back together permanantly and possible have this child calling me 'daddy' or should I stay away from her and find myself someone else. I really do love her no matter what, and she has shown the same for me. What can I do???

StarBrite: Yes she was going to report this man, which happens to be in the navy, and apparently he had done this to other young women himself, and he's in the Navy, she feels if he goes to jail she will not be able to get any money from him to help support the baby because shes living with her sister working full time and it's still difficult to manage. Francis: Her father raped most of his daughters, was abusive, and left her family when she was young, occasionally she did cry when such things were brought up, and most of her family is dysfunctional, and her father did murder some of her siblings and do cruel things to them, she mentions she has nightmares about her brothers or sisters committing suicide and asks me if its normal. I try and help her the best I can, but I know this had subconsciously already caused her some damage, so I can see her pushing me away because in her eyes, men she's seen, like her brothers, her sister's husbands/boyfriends and her previous relationships never went well. So she doesn't know good men out there still exist. Day_Walker: I could easily let her go, and I've told her, that I would really prefer to forget her forever, because even though I love her, I do have some resentment for her leaving me, and for the thoughts she brings to mind when I think about her sometimes. I'm not here to be her 'crutch' in life and I have no intention of being that either. I feel like I'm fighting two different sides of myself, the side that loves her, and the side that says "NO." Thats why sometimes its so confusing.

First, I would like to say this seems like a great community, I'm a new user here and seems very warm. I would like to ask a personal question. Small Background: I dated my current X-girlfriend for about a year and a few months (but we had been friends since way before that), we were happily in love, we thought about marriage, but a time came when I had to move due to family issues, we both knew this way ahead of time. Unfortunately we broke up right before I moved (about 2 months), and we were unable to continue our relationship as we had planned (We've been apart as a couple for 5 months). Turns out she broke up with me because she didn't have enough faith that when I moved, I would find a place for us to live together to continue our lives together... -- When she broke up with me, she didn't know if she should see other people to get over the heart break, but she did, she met a 'friend' and this guy ended up taking advantage of her by getting her drunk and date raping her (what a jerk!!). She's about 5 months pregnant now, and she calls me at least 3-4 times a week, nothing out of the ordinary, and she mentions she want's me to visit her baby after its born. I feel I'm not ready to share a child with anyone, whether its mine or not. I think about a lot of things, the baby, if shes changed, how our relationship should work. And we still have a lot of love for each other. Although sometimes I feel like if I get back together with her I'm just making it easier for her, giving her an easy way out both ways. She broke up with *me*. She's moving to another state and she really wants me to come visit her, and I plan to, but Im afraid we might fall in love again, I know we will. What should I do, I'm so confused I've even wanted to ask her, that the baby wasn't made from a loving relationship and she should put the baby for adoption for a family who is unable to bear, or desires children and can provide love for that baby (I don't believe in abortions). I have a lot of dreams with her in them, which tells me shes in my mind subconsciously a lot. I've even told her that in order for me to get over her pregnancy and our ex-relationship I can't be her friend anymore, which I hate to do because shes one of my best friends and knows me very well. She just says she refuses to let me go because she needs a person like me and I am very important to her. What should I do, I'm going insane.