Danny1974

HI, I've been split up from my ex for a few months now,(she dumped me) she has a new fella blah blah blah.. She wants too remain friends and keep in touch which i would like to in time, but i need to get over her first though, ive been keeping to my part of the NC rule but she hasn't, she calls me and texts me about silly little things and makes up excuses to ring me, she tries to make small talk with me and always ask me how im keeping, but there's a big problem... Her sister died in a car crash about 2 months ago, the same weekend she met her new fella, so she needs me too talk too cos he didnt know her or nothing about there family which i did as we was together for 4 years. So how can i possibly say to her, look i would rather you didnt ring me etc cos i need to get over you first, when she calls me she likes to get stuff off her chest that WE can only talk about, it wouldn't be sooo bad if i didnt still love her to bits!!! How can i possibley get over her when she needs me so much at the minute, but it kills me every time we speak, im at my wits end but i dont wanna be dred and tell her to leave me be, at the end of the day ive still got my health and ive lost love not a loved one Please help!!

Hi Christina, I was feeling exactly the same as you, i could not bare not to talk to my ex-g/f, i had to ring her at least once a day, i would conviently be passing her work and stuff just so i could say hi, looking back now i think " what a plonker" She said that she needed her own space and you this and me that blah blah blah.. But what she was really saying was i dont love you anymore!! Its very hard to take but im affraid thats what we have to do, but believe me, when i finally got around to doing NC and chatting with people and going out at every opertuinity it started to get better. Its been a while now with NC, i dont know how long i dont care (i do really but tell myself i dont) i know for a fact i will be as right as rain soon and you'll will too, but you have to cut off all ties with this man, and i mean ALL I feel for you b'cos i know how ya hurting, take care of yourself. PM if you wish. Danny

Well guys thanks for the advice.. Some are actually quite funny too!! I do feel lots better at the moment but you know it only takes little thing to balls it all up again, but thats life.. I'll keep you posted on how it turns out (excuse the punt)

Hey mate i've been doing the NC rule myself for only a few days too, in my head if she phones me im not going to answer but i know it will be hard. My g/f has a new fella now so i know if she rings it will be just out of pity for me, which i dont want. Your case maybe be different, i dont know, but if you really dont want to talk to her then dont!! Its hard for sure WE all know that.. But ask all the others on here, it will get better Head up son

Its been quite a while now but i still cant get my ex-g/f out of my head!! I know she's not interested I know she has a new boyfriend who she adores I know i dont even enter her thoughts anymore And i know she is completely happy with her life.. so why o' why do i persist on thinking about her 24/7 and still have it in my head that her life will go wrong and she will come running back to me?? The worst thing though is that i think about them together, having sex, good times whatever and it tears me apart!! WILL SOMEBODY PLEASE GIVE ME A GOOD KICKING SO I CAN GET MY LIFE BACK ON TRACK.. Please

Thanks cassidy I did tell her that when she told me of her new fella, we was chatting for quite a while on the phone, but basically its a case of "i care for you but dont love you". So thats not really an option, i'd just be beating myself up..

There must be lots of peeps in the same boat as me.. Basically i split up from my girlfriend of 4years about 6 months ago, it was totally out of the blue even though we was going threw "a bit of a rough patch" at the time. She came home from work and said that it was over, i went back to my parents and tried to get on with it as best i could, i did try to get things sorted but to no avail. I've been feeling petty low eversince but not too bad, she would keep in contact via phone or texting, i didnt mind this but knew it was no god for me. About 3 or 4 weeks ago the calls etc. stopped, then she dropped the bombshell, she'd been seeing someone else!!! GUTTED.... But the lad is someone i kinda know, cant really blame him because it wasn't behind my back or nothing, but this lad has a reputation of having a different girl on his arm every other week, he's a tall goodlooking fella with the chat, i've spotted them out a time or two and it breaks my heart, i want too tell her what kind of bloke he is but she'll think its just sourgrapes on my behalf, i really dont know how to get over her and get THEM both out of my head.... Please help