behind_these_eyes Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 This is kind of hard to write, cause it's gross and I don't really like thinking about it, but I feel like I need to get it out in the open so hopefully I can forget about it and be normal again. Basically, the other day my dad went to bed early, and I thought nothing of it. The next day while he was at work, I was watching tv in his room cause my tv doesn't get cable, and I was looking at all the pay per view stuff, looking for a movie. There was this thing that said "My rentals," the things already paid for. I looked, hoping he already rented a good movie and I wouldn't have to pay for another... I don't know, but I'm assuming "Accidental Stripper" and "Erotic Volume 3" are not the latest Jack Black films...so naturally, I was grossed out beyond belief. I guess it could be normal, but I can't get past it. For the past 2 days, I haven't been able to look him in the eye, and I feel uncomfotable being in the same room as him. I guess I have a few questions: Has this happened to anyone else, am I just being weird, and what can I do to feel comforable around him again? Thanks for listening, any advice is greaatly appreciated. Link to comment
Gunther Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Wow how increadably uncomfortable, you would think he would keep that kind of stuff to himself. Well, if you really feel that uncomfortable around that, just talk to him, if not then just keep to yourself for a couple of days to get over it. Link to comment
Tpysl Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 All guys will look at pornography, including your dad. You just have to accept this. It's not really that big of a deal. Link to comment
dpressedone89 Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 editing to say i disagree with the ^above post not all guys look at porn, as i said i am sickened by it and im a guy. well, i dont know what to tell ya, honestly that stuff makes me sick i find it dumb and pointless. anyway uhm try to think of other things keep your mind full and uhm i dunno i wouldnt check replies on this for awhile just because it might put the thought back into your head, but thats just me, ~peace and love for everyone~ -stitches aka The Antihero Link to comment
Maverick44 Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 I'm going to clarify Tpysi's position. Most guys do look at porn. If we really need to go pull out the statistics on this, it can be done. It's something "most" guys do. Also, it really isn't that big of a deal. Some guys do take it too far, though. If you're addicted to it, then it's a bad thing, just as with anything else. Maverick Link to comment
dpressedone89 Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 i understood his point i just wanted to disagree that ALL guys look at porn it isnt a big deal but not all guys do, and the stats is about 9 out of 10. anyway just so you know my dad looks at porn and leaves it out and everything so i know how un comfortable it can make someone your not alone. -stitches aka The Antihero Link to comment
sisterlynch Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 I think that she should talk to the dad honestly and say that she came to see it accidentally, and maybe dad shouldn't do that on the pay per view if it is going to be offensive to others in the house. If a young person tells her dad something that is difficult to say and the dad listens to him, that would be a really good growth experience. It would open up lines of communication that aren't always available. If she doesn't tell her dad that he has offended her, and by the way--I feel that she has a right to be offended, then the dad will keep on doing it. And soon the anger may spill over into another subject, and the dad will think that the daughter is over-reacting to something different. And the dad may never get the message. Yes it is going to be difficult, but you can do it honey, just go on. Link to comment
dpressedone89 Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 just so you know she's a girl Link to comment
i_hate_the_world47 Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 It is kinda gross that you had to find that.But,if you really want to know just confront your dad.Or i would just forget about it and pretend it never happened. ~Meagan~ Link to comment
malibutigger Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Well he must have had sex to have you as a daughter and gross as it is to think about, im sure sex was and is as enjoyable as it is for the rest of us. Wether you're in a sexual relationship, have had one or are hoping to have one at some point, i'm sure when u hit 30 u wont just stop. I'd suggest taking a deep breath, hugging him and trying to be nice, coz if he has to resort to porn then life can't be that great for him at the moment. xxx Link to comment
Dezeard Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 I went through a similar situation except: I was looking in my parent's crawlspace for some of my old stuff in one of the boxes but instead found a box with about 50 movies in it!! Wow maybe Bambi will be in here! Or Fivole goes west! Nope....Just "Henry and the Naughty Puppies"? Whats this..... And yes, that is basically...Yes.. Link to comment
sweetpea4670 Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 Ha, my best friend has walked in on her parnents having sex. And another good friend of mine caught her dad masturbating. Try that for embarrassing and uncomfortable! Link to comment
Rangoo Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 It's really not a big deal that your Dad was watching these films. Most men I know do watch them and take care of business at the same time. There is nothing shameful or dirty about that..... Maybe there is not as much sex in his life now, and this is his why of dealing with it... Be thankful your Dad stays at home and does that, I know some of my kids friends Dads just go to bars all the time and hope to hook up with a bar fly or worse. So in that text it's not bad. If it continues to bug you say something..or really just wait a few days and the feelings you are having will go away. Then when you are a grown up woman one day, tell your Dad about the day that you found out he was healthy sexually.... Link to comment
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