Ex’s friend keeps tabs on me

My girl and I entered a LDR late last year. Her in CA, me in KY. She would frequently talk to her friend in CO about me and for the first time in their 20+ year friendship, her friend was very approving of her choice of mate (without meeting me) which I thought was pretty cool. Her friend then started following me on IG.

We “met” on a FaceTime session when my gf was staying with her. We continued to message each other every once in a while, mostly just common interests or little things about my gf.

Well, my gf suddenly broke up with me (story for later) and I’ve not been active on social media. Her friend has since reached out twice since the passing of my father asking how I’ve been or offering support which has been incredible. Never underestimate the generosity of strangers.

I guess I’m curious as to whether she is relaying information back to my ex? I don’t think it would be ill intent, but I’ve opened up to her and I don’t know if it’s being relayed back to her or if she’s just being a nice person and has just a general interest in me. PS, she has a bf, so attraction is not a factor.

Quite possibly so. I'd be very careful about what I say and keep the response short and generic.

Watch what you say as you cant be sure what she's doing with the info you give her. Ideally you should stop talking to her.

I would say she most definitely is! When I broke up with my ex, i had a chat with her friend. I asked her not to mention that we had chatted. Of course, she did!! Not that I was saying anything bad though.

The friend isn't spying on you, you are voluntarily chatting with her giving her info. Once you break up, you block and delete someone and All their people from all messaging and social media apps. Start dating real girls in real life locally to avoid these headaches in the future.

Her friend has since reached out twice. I guess I’m curious as to whether she is relaying information back to my ex?

If you two did form a friendship she is most likely genuinely concerned for you. There is a chance that she could be giving info to your ex, but your ex could've moved on and they probably aren't discussing you.