Instant Advice For ALL!

Here's something I have to say to every woman who reads this. What you are about to read does not apply to only men but, to you as well as all people in general. We're all at fault in one or a few of what's being written here...just some quick advice to take in.

1. If a man wants you, nothing can make him keep away. If he doesn't...then nothing, can make him stay!

2.Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

4. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to

be.

5. Slower is better.

6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly

happy.

7. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you

deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a

friend.

8. Never 'settle' for any relationship, just because...

9.If you feel like he is 'stringing' you along, then he probably is.

10. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at

yourself a year later for staying when things still didn't get any better.

11.The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

12. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

13. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

14. Maintain 'boundaries' in how a guy treats you. If something bothers

you speak up.

15. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

16. You cannot change a man's behavior. 'Change' comes from within.

17. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if

he has more education or in a better job.

18. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing

less.

19. Never let a man define who you are.

20. Never 'borrow' someone else's man.

21. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

22. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

23. ALL men are NOT dogs.

24. You should not be the one doing all the bending.. compromise is a 2 way street.

25.You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute

about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

26. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship

consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not

supplementary.

27. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

28. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know 'where you are', and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

29. Never move into his mother's house.

30. Never co-sign for a man.

31. Don't fully 'commit' to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

goodluck, but when it comes to real love...luck is not even a factor.

-DG724

Very Very Very True

lol you couldn't have wrote/posted this like three months ago?

it's really good. i will take it with me the next time around.

lol sorry moonunit. ill post more random pieces of advice more often. hehehe

glad to have been on some help.

take care,

-DG724

wow you just like saved a big part of my life, REALLY. see I broke up with this guy because I don't love him and the LDR is way too hard, but I went back because He didn't understand why I broke up with him , and I He wouldn't lay off and just leave me alone, so Now I'm all mad at myself for going back. But You actually gave me reasons I wanted to give him but couldn't find how to say it. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!

wow you just like saved a big part of my life, REALLY. see I broke up with this guy because I don't love him and the LDR is way too hard, but I went back because He didn't understand why I broke up with him , and I He wouldn't lay off and just leave me alone, so Now I'm all mad at myself for going back. But You actually gave me reasons I wanted to give him but couldn't find how to say it. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!

 

 

 

QT,

 

it makes me feel good to have brought out the words you couldnt seem to find. follow your heart, as i think you will. he will get over it in time. youre doing him a favor by ending something that isnt meant to be.

 

goodluck,

-DG724

DragonGirl724

Great advice, most of which men should listen to as well. The really amazing part is that most of that seems to just be common sense. Weird that people need a list to point them out.

boosting this topic up for a certain member.

-DG724

Thank-you for the reminder...thanks for posting. Both men and women can apply them.

Dragon Can I get an AMEN -- AMEN!

I hate symbiotic types anyway. Love is sado-masochistic at its core but don't look at em to complete you. Be your own self. And remember, as long as you have at least 1 hand, some smacky lube, and some porn (or in a woman's case a vibrator) you can always be single for months or even years. Nothing wrong with that.

Nice

That was some really good stuff! I was feeling down now, and this perked me up a little. Women don't need men!

this is great i have to print it and have a copy on hand at all times! Thank you TONS!

I'm a guy 'n i kept a copy!!

hey, sorry i havent signed onto the forum in AGES. im glad this helped out some of you. thats awesome. and im flattered you kept a copy for yourselves.

take care all,

-DG724

Hey, that was da bomb!

1. If a man wants you, nothing can make him keep away. If he doesn't...then nothing, can make him stay! Yeah but you can do things to make yourself more seductive as long as you aren't too involved. You need to watch the wedding crashers.

2.Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Sometimes you are in the wrong. that's all there is to it.

3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. dude, right on.

4. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to

be. What if you are changing something that really is destructive or bad about yourself and your relationships with others?

5. Slower is better. unless you are a quadropolegic running special olympics.

6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly

happy. k.

7. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you

deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a

friend. true.

8. Never 'settle' for any relationship, just because... hail mary. might as well have friends with benifits in that case.

9.If you feel like he is 'stringing' you along, then he probably is. true.

10. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at

yourself a year later for staying when things still didn't get any better.

Oh geeze. everybody goes through tough times in any relationship. You are unneccesarily harsh.

11.The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Unless you got a nice pair of handcuffs and the key or someone without self-esteem.

12. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? What if they all died or he's a mormon, or he's changed or he was just marking his territory before he found his real love or somethin'?

13. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. please. Or at least go play in traffic or somethin' if you are gonna be that clingy.

14. Maintain 'boundaries' in how a guy treats you. If something bothers

you speak up. amen sister.

15. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. dude if that were true there would be at least one cryin' bi777 out there. but some of us can sometimes keep our mouths shut and just let go.

16. You cannot change a man's behavior. 'Change' comes from within. i agree although i tend to frenzy over good sex, harry's burritos and raw chicken so i can be bribed to change, at least temporairly.

17. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if

he has more education or in a better job. true. as paris hilton and most hip hop stars prove, anybody can get a good job these days. and education is overrated. i've read over a thousand books now and the only thing i've gained from it is a pair of glasses and knowledge that i still don't know what the &&&& is goin' on.

18. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing

less. c'mon, your no fun. dude what if he has a toga hercules/zena fetish?

19. Never let a man define who you are. i take it your not into bondage.

20. Never 'borrow' someone else's man. k.

21. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. k, mostly true. the exceptions are very rare.

22. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. damn straight.

23. ALL men are NOT dogs. i agree. i am more like a rabid dingo with foam coming out of my mouth, esp when i am hungry since i don't know how to cook.

24. You should not be the one doing all the bending.. compromise is a 2 way street. i agree except when i am giving it to her from behind.

25.You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute

about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. damn skippy.

26. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship

consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not

supplementary. k i agree.

27. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. unless you get dumped, cheated on or stalked by somebody of ambiguous gender.

28. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know 'where you are', and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. this works both ways. true, very true.

29. Never move into his mother's house.

what if mom is terminally ill and he is otherwise perfect for you? He remember elvis.

30. Never co-sign for a man. unless you are engaged and living together who'd be silly enough to do this? opps i forgot there are fools out there.

31. Don't fully 'commit' to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. k i agree

24. You should not be the one doing all the bending.. compromise is a 2 way street. i agree except when i am giving it to her from behind.

laugh-out-loud

-DG724