Pelle Blue Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I was taught that girls didn't like sex and just put up with it to please her man. The advice columnist Dear Abbey had a lady write to her saying she pretented to like sex for the sake of the marriage but ddin't really care about it. This stereotype is imprinted on my brain. My wife gets sore very quickly (under 10 minutes despite lubrication - don't worry it's not a medical issue, that's just the way she is) and and there's a time bomb going off in the back of my mind whenever we make love that her ""pleasure"" could turn to ""pain"" at any second... So why do girls like sex?? It's common knowledge that 95% of women physically *can't* orgasm form intercourse alone, plus the V has no nerve endings for pleasure just inside the walls. So after she's had her orgasm (from cunniligus and, of course, nothing inside her) while I'm on top trying to finish, I'm thinking 1) hurry up or she's gong to get sore!, 2) she'll NEVER orgasm because she doesn't like anything in her when she comes anyways, and 3) she can't even feel anything past a half inch inside anyway, and that's EXACTLY what DOES feel the best for me. She can't even feel what feels best for me!! Girls: It's a secret that sex is just a game, isn't it? I read in those romance novels all about the big hunky guy, all the romance and mystery, all the pent-up horny emotion..then when the story get's to the good stuff, what the novel has been relentless leading up to, the actual intercourse, it all gets vague...very vague...because the best part for a girl -was- the chasing and candles and the cuddling. Sex is the bother they have to put up with to get the guy they want based on primitive instincts of getting a good provider who will protect her when she's pregnant. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I love sex. It makes me feel complete. The dirtier, the better... You really need to talk to your wife about this. You are badly misinformed about the wonders of sex for women. Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I've never had an orgasm from sex, but I'd still have it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner if I could find a man that could keep up. It feels good. If done right, it feels amaaazing. It's not just an act to please a man--not for me anyway. Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I love sex. It makes me feel complete. The dirtier, the better... You really need to talk to your wife about this. You are badly misinformed about the wonders of sex for women. lol you're damn right about that. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 welcome to ena. i think that there is a medical issue with your wife, perhaps vaginismus if she is experiencing pain with sex. of course girls love sex. me and all my girlfriends love it, lol. it's fun, it's bonding, it feels good. sex doesn't just have to equal intercourse, it includes oral, manual genital stimulation, etc. i think that the days of women being told to lie there motionless and take it are gone. most of the women i know want sex as much as, or even more than their bfs! at least, that's usually been the case with me! Link to comment
Mavh25 Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 90% of all statistics are made up on the spot. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 90% of all statistics are made up on the spot. lol. oh dear lord. i had an ex-bf who was so amazing at oral sex. in like 3 minutes, i would orgasm. it was heaven. i miss that with him. lol. i don't miss him but the oral sex was amazing. sigh. Link to comment
TheSmilingTurnip Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I'm a big fan of sex. I think that's on my Facebook page. lol. I think that if your wife is getting sore that quick, there IS a medical problem OR she is making it up. If there's lube, then the soreness should not be happening unless there's something else going on. Link to comment
hers Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 God do I love sex. Feeling dirty during it, feeling intimate during it, feeling close during it. All the feelings are so intense. There's nothing I'd rather do I think. You shoudlnt read into stereotypes. I'm not attracted to hunky beefy fabio types on the front of romance novels, and I think those books are jokes. They aren't realistic to me. How often do you communicate with your wife about what you like and what she likes? Link to comment
Jpo Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 lol. oh dear lord. i had an ex-bf who was so amazing at oral sex. in like 3 minutes, i would orgasm. it was heaven. i miss that with him. lol. i don't miss him but the oral sex was amazing. sigh. Um... Any tips for the rest of us? image removed And I know what ya mean OP. For some reason it is in my mind that women only have sex because they "have to". I'm not sure why. I guess because you hear all those stories about women not wanting to have sex anymore after they are married. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 lol, what's the tip? to find guys like that, or how to orgasm in 3 minutes? Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 lol, what's the tip? to find guys like that, or how to orgasm in 3 minutes? I think he wants to know how to make a girl cum in 3 minutes....I want to know how to find a guy like that lol Link to comment
Jpo Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 lol, what's the tip? to find guys like that, or how to orgasm in 3 minutes? Well, I'm a guy, so preferably not lol. And I think I could already get myself to orgasm in 3 minutes if I wanted to. image removed Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I want to know how to orgasm in three minutes.... I'd settle with knowing how to orgasm. Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I want to know how to orgasm in three minutes.... I'd settle with knowing how to orgasm. You've never had an orgasm? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 You've never had an orgasm? I've gotten SO close. I know it'll be soon. Link to comment
Jpo Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I want to know how to orgasm in three minutes.... I'd settle with knowing how to orgasm. I think we could come to some sort of arrangement. Purely academic of course. Think of it like a 'lab' class, where we both learn by doing. image removed image removed Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I've gotten SO close. I know it'll be soon. Ok good. If you've gotten close, then you know what you're trying to reach, and you know what it feels like. I have no doubt that you'll get there soon Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 good lord, i have no idea what he was doing, but whatever he was doing, it worked!!! i don't know how to explain what he was doing. maybe just imagine if you ate the most delicious meal ever, and then picked up the plate and started licking it. it was like that. wow, too much information here!!!!!! to orgasm - try to relax. try not to focus on the climax. it's like trying to go to sleep. you're not going to if you're sitting there going, 'must sleep must sleep must sleep.' same as if you are so focused on the orgasm. breath deeply. make noise. tell him when he's doing something right. just relax!!!! focus on the sensation and on him, rather than 'getting there.' Link to comment
furious Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 The advice columnist Dear Abbey had a lady write to her saying she pretented to like sex for the sake of the marriage but ddin't really care about it. It's not the act, it's who you are doing it with. I bet she'd enjoy it if she and her man communicated and changed the way they went at it. Or found someone that she was sexually compatible with. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I think I do focus too much on "getting there". I just don't know how to let go and let it happen yet. Also, there weird thing is that during sex, the first couple of minutes are a rush of feeling, but, it'll fade after about 15 and then it's just me helping him finish. It's still good at that point but not "oh my dear, peel the skin off his back with my fingernails" like it is in the beginning. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 do you know how to orgasm by yourself? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 do you know how to orgasm by yourself? Nope. I've never orgasmed. I haven't even come close by myself. I understand that it's really important to learn how to do it yourself first. But, it's weird for me. I don't get nearly the same rush at all. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 no, of course, it's not the same as having a hot hunk and feeling his body against yours..... but it can do! i should send you a list of toys to buy, lol. basically, once you experiement and find what feels good for you, then you can show him what to do to get you there. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 no, of course, it's not the same as having a hot hunk and feeling his body against yours..... but it can do! i should send you a list of toys to buy, lol. basically, once you experiement and find what feels good for you, then you can show him what to do to get you there. I've been thinking of buying one but I'm so embarrassed anyone will find out. I'll look into it though. Suggestions are appreciated! Link to comment
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