Dear eNotAlone, I'm feeling an enormous perplexity when it comes to my situation. I've known this guy for several months now, and I can't ignore the fact that I've developed strong feelings towards him. It's been weighing heavily on me recently and I don't know where to turn. All I can do is try to swallow them and put on a smile, but I know that I'm not getting anywhere with this approach.
I think it's safe to say that this guy likes me too, but does he like me in the same way as I feel for him? If so, I don't know whether it is that much of a leap to tell him how I feel. I'm scared of rejection and the thought just terrifies me. But at the same time, the idea of not doing anything frustrates me even more. I mean, I don't want to forgo the possibility of us developing something more and going to waste any chances of us being together. I can't carry this on any longer, I need some advice.
Please help me, should I take the plunge and tell him how I feel or just keep my feelings to myself? What advice would you give me considering my situation?
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It's absolutely natural to be scared and unsure of how the other person feels; it's ultimately their decision whether they're interested or not, and all you can do is take the plunge and trust that whatever happens, you can handle it. Despite the fear of rejection, try expressing your feelings and see what happens, but at the same time, prepare yourself for the worst and for a rocky road—if you do decide to take the leap.
Either way, it is important to know that there are more to life than this one particular scenario. No matter what decision you make, know that you can cope and handle any roadblock. When taking a risk in any situation, especially emotions and relationships, remember the cliché: no pain, no gain! it may be worth it, but if not, there will be plenty of other people out there to explore.
You have nothing to lose by expressing your feelings to him and still put on a brave face even if the outcome isn't exactly what you expected. The courage you show by expressing yourself honestly will only earn you respect and admiration, so take the plunge and begin this daring path today. You'll never know if you don't try!