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    Paula Thompson

    What are some ways to effectively co-parent with a difficult ex-partner?

    Several studies have concluded that co-parenting with a difficult ex can be a source of stress and strain. The days, weeks, and months after a divorce can either be a chore or a welcome opportunity to practice positive communications and build meaningful relationships with your former partner. If you have to co-parent with a difficult ex, there are a few strategies that can help to minimize the tension and difficulty associated with the situation.

    The first strategy is to set clear boundaries. Couples that have already divorced may not be so willing to continue a relationship with their ex in any form. But setting a comfortable boundary between you and your former partner helps to lay the foundation for a successful coparenting relationship. When discussing matters of your shared parenting arrangement, avoid taking a confrontational or aggressive stance. Respect the other party's opinion and feelings even if you don't necessarily agree with them. Hold onto the knowledge that you both want the best for your children, and stay focused on what matters most.

    Secondly, it is important to practice effective communication with your difficult ex. It's much easier said than done, but it is essential to maintain open lines of communication even if you don't agree. Divorce can leave both parties feeling angry and frustrated, so it's important to be understanding and thoughtful in your conversations. When speaking with your former partner, ensure that you listen to and validate their thoughts and concerns. Where possible, strive to remain polite and professional at all times and avoid engaging in any type of abusive language.

    Thirdly, learn to practice flexibility and compromise. No two parents are exactly alike, so it's important to be able to give and take when it comes to coparenting decisions. This may not be easy to do, especially if you and your ex have different wants and priorities. Even so, when thinking about the welfare of your children, it would be beneficial to try and find a middle ground that is suitable for both parties. By being flexible and compromising (within reason), you can significantly reduce the potential for disagreements, thereby allowing for smoother transitions for your kids.

    Consider seeking out outside help. It may be beneficial to find a third party or mediator to work through any disagreements or disputes that arise from shared parentage. A professional counselor or mediator can provide an objective perspective on any disagreements while opening up the possibility of constructive dialogue. Such conversations can be instrumental in fostering a productive coparenting relationship.

    Co-parenting with a difficult ex can be an incredibly challenging thing to do. However, by utilizing these strategies, you can reduce the frustration and stress associated with navigating shared parenting. By respecting one another, communicating effectively, compromising and seeking outside help where necessary, co-parenting with a difficult ex can be a manageable and worthwhile endeavor.

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