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  1. ok so I matched with a guy on hinge the week of Christmas. we actually live in 2 different countries but the distance is relatively close (45 min plane ride) so we decided we'd get to know each other a bit and see if that leads to us making plans to see each other. Things were going along casually, we'd text pretty regularly. I work a regular 8-4 job while he works a night shift of 7pm-7am so our schedules didn’t really align for much time to talk except in between him getting off from work or getting ready to go to work and then on the days he would not be scheduled to work. I'm pretty realistic in my approach with online dating so I usually assume a guy's talking to me and a few other girls and going on dates etc., so I don’t have crazy expectation early on. I do like people to keep their word though and I had been in a few past situationships and relationships where guys said one thing and did another so I will admit my patience has become a bit shorter over time. Anyway to the point of my "story" and main question. This guy and I had been texting and occasionally facetiming for about 2 weeks and he was pretty good about communicating considering our distance. His usual day off is Mondays and because there was another holiday coming up in my country I would’ve been off on this particular Monday as well. So, the Saturday prior I asked him to make plans to facetime with me on Monday so we would have more time to talk instead of just in between him getting ready for work. He said sure. Monday comes around and unlike all the other days when he usually is texting a lot I don’t hear from him at all. He would typically text good morning anywhere between 20 minutes to 2 hours after he gets off work and have some conversation before he went about his day, but that day I didn’t hear from him until after 9pm (i go to bed around 9:30 usually to get up early to start my day). He says "hey sorry I didn’t hit you up all day, after work I went to the gym and then I’ve been asleep all day. Now I’m about to go watch the college championship game with my friends". Now I wasn’t upset that I hadn’t heard from him all day because he’s an adult he can do what he wants, but I was kinda upset about the way he seemed to be saying that he was unavailable or didnt want to talk without being upfront. He didn’t make any mention of the previous plans to facetime and didn’t even ask when I would be free to talk at another time. So out of frustration I guess and also from the fear of not wanting to set myself up for disappointment I told him "if you wanted to talk to me you would've the same way you made plans with your friends and you're showing up for that. you can delete my number". He asked if I was serious and after my last response letting him know that I felt like he wasn’t interested and we didn’t need to waste each other's time he didn’t have anything to say. Did I overreact? I will say I’m a sensitive person and though I try to keep a level head its difficult sometimes especially because in the past guys would fall through on plans with me and I used to just let it slide until things boiled up and hit the fan. I also feel like since we are in two different countries and the only way to communicate is via text or calling then that should be taken with a bit more seriousness than if we lived in the same place. it's not like he was my boyfriend. in neutral perspective we are just two strangers from the internet talking on the phone. But now that it's been about a week I do feel a little regret about my behavior. What do you think? Did I overreact? Would it be worth it to even reach out to him? (although I bet he’s already blocked my number and has already forgotten about me haha) I hate being an empath, I process everything so slowly and take all these small things to heart too much. Anyway thanks for reading this far
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