When a husband who loves bargain shopping takes his wife out to dinner and he sees her order a high-priced meal, it can understandably cause some friction and put a damper on the date. After all, the husband may think the wife is being irresponsible with their money, or why would she splurge like that?
However, the wife may be feeling entirely justified in ordering something expensive for herself. She may have had a long week at work, her job may be especially demanding, or perhaps she was promised a special treat from her husband – whatever the reason, if it is within the wife's prerogative to spend more than what the husband may consider as reasonable, then it should be respected.
If, due to her husband's limited budgeting, his wife rarely allows herself luxuries, then this could be an opportunity for the husband to surprise her with a delightful meal and show his appreciation of her. On the other hand, if the couple has a hefty budget and the wife has ordered something incredibly unaffordable, the husband should make sure she understands they weren't planning on spending that much.
Fortunately there are various ways to handle food arguments. The first priority should be communicating openly and honestly with each other. Discussing finances together can be uncomfortable, but it is essential if couples aim to resolve any kind of disputes involving money. A couple can converse about the issue and ask one another what their feelings are exactly in order to comprehend where their diverging opinions are coming from; oftentimes it can be miscommunication or a failure to understand the others' point of view.
Another solution is for the couple to get creative with how they negotiate potential disagreements while dining out. Some suggestions include budgeting out meals and allocating funds fairly between the two, setting limits on how much individuals are allowable to order before consulting the other person, or having predetermined compromise plans that could be implemented if the conversation veers towards any unwanted waters.
It is also important to remember that dating is a privilege not a right; in other words, if either partner does not feel comfortable enough to treat themselves for whatever reason — even if it falls within the confines of their means — then they forfeit their privilege of dining out. couples should take all arguments lightly; allowing minor disagreements to boil over into major ones should be avoided at all costs.
When a bargain-hunting husband becomes miffed by his wife's costly meal choice – once both partners have assessed their spending habits in a calm and respectful manner – then a healthy solution can always be found. Ultimately it comes down to understanding one another and coming together acknowledgement of what is frivolous and what isn't. Only then can spouses reach an aggreement that will ensure no one feels shortchanged while leaving both parties with full bellies and hearts.