Over 3 months ago, I began a deep loving relationship with a woman. I think she is a beautiful and wonderful woman and enjoy being with her. She's had some troubles through her life, but then who hasn't. The last month or so, the relationship has become difficult. She is withdrawn at times, she shuts down when we are talking about the relationship. She has always had trouble showing affection or expressing love or feelings. This is something that I have found over the years I need in a relationship, to know that my partner loves and cares for me. It makes me feel special to her. I didn't enter the relationship to feel happy, but having been in relationships before, you get happiness from being with someone that loves you anyway. But without these things I feel unloved, not special and like the relationship is one sided.
In the last couple of days, I have determined that she is emotionally unavailable. The descriptions I have read from many sources draw pretty good pictures of my girlfriend. The good thing is that she is willing to talk to someone - a pschologist (at her own suggestion) - to see what is going on. At least it's a beginning in understanding and a willingness to open up more. Yet, it is going to be a long and sometimes lonely trip for me as she makes changes in herself.
Has anyone been involved in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person and how did you deal with it?