barbielovesmac Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 And it drives me INSANE!!! I'm looking for a guys perspective on this. Why is it that a guy acts different when he is in front of his friends as opposed to when he's not? We are not 14 anymore and playing those little games. For example, you say "I miss you babe." He says, "I miss you too babe." His friends say, "Oh your "whooped"!" Why do other guys have to tease their friends about their girlfriends? IS it an ego boost thing??? It drives me bonkers haha! I completely understand that your boyfriend isn't going to be all mushy in front of his friends but he doesn't need to act like a butthead and at times act like he doesn't care. Then an hour he calls me when he's alone and it's like a 180! WHYYYYYYYY?!?!?!!?!? Thanks guys!! Link to comment
Remade Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Because we're horny,envies, sturdy monkeys. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 but that doesn't explain WHY!!! haha Link to comment
Aurian Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 On their part? Jealousy On his part? Pride. He needs to pretend that he's still the same guy he always is when he's around them. He wants to pretend he's still macho would never DREAM of using any goopy words like "hunny-muffin" Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 On their part? Jealousy On his part? Pride. He needs to pretend that he's still the same guy he always is when he's around them. He wants to pretend he's still macho would never DREAM of using any goopy words like "hunny-muffin" i agree with that. it must be an ego thing. something i will never quite understand GRRRRRRR Link to comment
Remade Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 It explains it all. Ever watch monkeys play? Friends has to come around and tease the crap out of the other because they're envies and excited for no particular personal reason. It's like monkeys jumping on each other and crapping on each other because one of them found a banana. Link to comment
Brooke657 Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Shoes are unique, every pair is differnt. Girls like to stay connected. And since you say dude so much we get to say oh my god lol. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 A girl says I love you on the phone to her boyfriend infront of her friends all of them say something like "oh my god thats so cute". A guy says I love you to his girlfriend on the phone in front of his friends he gets a "dude your whippped". When a guy is a jerk to his girl infront of his friends he doesn't mean to be. I'd rather have one mad girlfriend then 5 guys giving me a hard time. The girl is more understanding and she'll listen late, the guys won't. What a guy says to a girl when they're alone is what he really means. you've got a POINT, well something that made some sense to me YAY you're right i will NEVER understand it ....... Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 Your right though you probably will never understand it. Just like we don't understand the need to have hundreds of shoes, the need to be texting everyone every second, or why you guys tend to say "OH MY GOD!" every 5 seconds lol. i do NOT say "OH MY GOD!" every five seconds dude!!! HA! Link to comment
Dako Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Peer pressure is strong among insecure young guys, and they can be pretty vain. If one of the herd finds a nice GF, they tease him out of envy. Link to comment
musicguy Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 I act the same way around my girl with my friends as I am when I'm not around them. I'd say mushy stuff to my girl around my friends, I don't care what they'd say Link to comment
lifestream Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 It depends how they said it. Sometimes I do it to bug my friends. Guys tease their friends, it's their way of showing they care. It relieves tension and it's funny. We like that. If my friend gets mushy on the phone I like pulling out the mime whip and make the *wa-schhhhh sound. It really means nothing other than as a joke. But even then it doesn't mean Im telling my friend to act macho. It's just a joke, guys joke about everything. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 I act the same way around my girl with my friends as I am when I'm not around them. I'd say mushy stuff to my girl around my friends, I don't care what they'd say see, i respect that. Link to comment
musicguy Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 see, i respect that. Thank you I mean what would my friends ttry to do...stop me..if they say "oh you're whipped" I'd say "you're just jealous" or "and you're stupid" Link to comment
lifestream Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Personally I don't find most guys to be all that serious about it. We like to bust on our friends as a joke, not to make them seem or act like any less of a man. A guy shouldn't have to resort to firing back. Just laugh it off and keep going. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 i LOVE all the views on this!!! its pretty insightful. although i'll never really get it, this can better help me to understand. keep em comin!!! i'd love to hear what anyone has to say Link to comment
Siriana Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Hello I am girl. Well afer certain age (and you're far away form that point) guy soften up a little bit and don't act like complete monkeys when it comes to that. Till that time you have to live with it. So when you're in company don't call him honey, sweety, or anything similar thats cute in private but makes his friends ready to jump on making fun. He makes some modifications in his behaviour when he's around your girlfriends, right?! He is not going to act the same in male herd and between your friends. He will stay away form teasing them like he would teasing his friends, he will be more carefull about his language, he will try not to comment this month Playboy mate... So you need to do the same for now. If he's polite and respects you when with friends but not so romantic and keen on showing emotions thats normal. I would just play along. If he's making fun of you, or is rude toward you when he's with his friends than he has huge self confidence problems. Link to comment
valiantv Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 I think you'll just have to accept that guys and girls are different! On the whole, men don't generally like talking about their feelings in front of each other in the same way girls do! It's just differences like the way guys can sit around, have a few beers and watch a football match, while girls will see nothing interesting about it! It's because guys are different from girls that you hetero-sexual girls love us so much! If we were the same, you wouldn't like it... Just accept it and don't let it bother you Link to comment
Brooke657 Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Some guys do talk about their feelings...but their mostly gay (not all). I figure you just gotta cut them some slack sometimes if they're not all like yeah I love you too infront of their friends but if their actually being rude you gotta talk to them about it. Link to comment
musicguy Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 I talk about my feelings all the time. I'm a very expressive, open with my feelings kind of guy..I wear my heart on my sleeve Link to comment
treefrogkate Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Your right though you probably will never understand it. Just like we don't understand the need to have hundreds of shoes, the need to be texting everyone every second, or why you guys tend to say "OH MY GOD!" every 5 seconds lol. For the record, I have about 6 pairs of shoes, text maybe twice a week, and don't say oh my god more than once every couple of hours or so. Women aren't that hard to understand when taken individually. Link to comment
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