Remade

You really know this man huh? Know him enough for him to accept who you are? You go ahead and tell him. But even if his response is negative. Your question is, do you love him more than you love yourself? If you don't meet his standards, screw him, he's not needed.

Hey lady, there's no reason why you should apologize. You did what you did because you believed in it strongly. Never take your word back, stand up for yourself. Just because he doesn't feel the same way, doesn't make you any wrong. You didn't do anything wrong. If he can't handle your feelings, then he just can't handle it. Nothing you can do about it. Remember that for the future.

What do you want? Do you want him more than your religion? Or do you care more about religion? You can't have it both. What he thinks doesn't matter. If he doesn't value your ways then he doesn't matter to you.

Where is your home exactly? Is it where you live? Or is it "YOU"? If she liked you why would your home matter? Your home is "YOU", "Your space", your ego. No body cares about your home (House). Show her what you're made of and not your "home".

It explains it all. Ever watch monkeys play? Friends has to come around and tease the crap out of the other because they're envies and excited for no particular personal reason. It's like monkeys jumping on each other and crapping on each other because one of them found a banana.

Trash_mail, It's not perfect. Everyone knows there's no such thing as perfect. But when that guy or girl hits the milestone or meets that standard of yours. Then a bell rings in your head and tells you, he/she's good enough.

Because we're horny,envies, sturdy monkeys.

I think that everyone above me who has told you "Yes" are . The question lies within yourself. I personally cannot be friends with a girl who has broken me. I cannot be friends with a girl who I know likes me but I don't feel the same way. It all depends on the person. I can tell you what I believe, I believe that man and woman can't be friends. Why? Because I got a penis, two balls, male ego and selfishness. I'm not telling you it's not possible. But only you have the answer to your question.

Did no one answer my question because it's too board or because I already have the answer? I should quit pursuing? Anyone?

No problem man, anytime, now I just have to understand it myself. Sometimes it's good to know you're really not alone in this world. There are others going thru the exact same phase as you. Just try to analyze it and hopefully be able to make a successful outcome in the end.

I've been friends with this girl for over a year, more. Just recently before Christmas, I told her how I felt. She started avoiding me a bit. We are past the dating stage. Our dating stage was when we first met a year ago. As the time went on, she put me into her friends zone. I went along, didn't want to feel anything for her. I wasn't strong enough to face my feelings, so I hid it. At that time, I was getting over someone else. So, at the start, we would talk our life away, I would be her confidant at times. First time I told her how I felt, I didn't do it directly. I brought her flowers with a card (I wrote I cared about her, etc., nothing direct) to her work place. Then a week before Christmas, I brought her a gift and I wrote another letter. This time, I layed out everything. For both messages, she didn't call me right away. So, I decided to be optimistic and actually try and put some effort into chasing her. But all I got was the "avoidance", "I'm busy, I got something to do that day", "I can't". I realize either there was another guy or she didn't want anything to do with me. I asked her to spend New Years Eve with me but she refused, said she had other plans. So, on New Years Eve, I decided to ignore her, thinking she will never call me back. Because I myself have played the "avoidance". She calls me on New Years Eve, I didn't pick up, she left a message "call me back". I didn't call her. She called me again. I didn't pick up. So she made two phone calls and I didn't bother to answer. I don't want to avoid her but I've been thru this stage before. The girl in my past broke me to pieces. I don't want to feel that way again. I care about this current person but she's causing me the same pain now. What do I do? Do I call her back or stick with my plan, ignore her and move on?

thanks, I'll give okcupid a try

even eHarmony rejected me, awww crap... "eHarmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive research with married couples. One of the requirements for successful matching is that participants fall within certain defined profiles. If we find that we will not be able to match a user using these profiles, we feel it is only fair to inform them early in the process. We are so convinced of the importance of creating compatible matches to help people establish happy, lasting relationships that we sometimes choose not to provide service rather than risk an uncertain match. Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time. "

Bruce, this is what I encounter recently. We are really a lot alike, although different in age. I've been friends with this girl for a year and just two weeks ago decided to climb off the friends ladder. I've heard her life stories and problems. At the beginning, we've shared our dreams, stories, etc... Story short, I told her how I felt and now I'm being avoided. She won't even give me a chance to show her I can be her man. I searched and asked for help. The only conclusion to this is, "Be a man and walk away". Because if you continue this, there will be no end to it. You're her emotional back up right now. She rants all her problems to you. But for you, at the end of the day, you achieve nothing. Let her go, don't pick up her calls or anything. Ignore her. If she really feels something for you or decides to feel something for you. She will try anything to get your attention again. She'll leave you a message or try to visit you. But for now, leave her. Leave it be. It's the best and only way. Dont look back either, look forward. Our eyes, ears, nose and mouth face forward for a reason. We're meant to look forward and not backwards.

Cold, I have the same paranoia problem. Everytime I meet someone new, I keep thinking they're going to leave me for someone else. That's because I grew up in a screwed up family, where my mom cheated on my dad. This is my reason for being paranoid. I've been alone my whole life. Everytime I meet someone new, I would get my heart broken in less than a week. Because I just couldn't act normal, be happy and keep up with them. I'm afraid of a negative outcome. This is our primary problem and we'll both have to fight it. Give yourself a fighting chance. Find out what the problem is and then, "Fight it". I hope we both make it thru. Good luck.