redsuede Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Its been sooooooooooooooooooooooo hard for me to get angry or mad, as it usually just turns in to hurt. Today, I feel so good because I am so so so mad. I want to celebrate with everyone because anger is something I dont know how to do. Literally. How dare she treat me the way that she did. I am worth WAY better than that, and I am extremely upset she thinks I am her DOG whenever she is bored or lonely.. God, it finally feels good to be mad. Link to comment
Brooke657 Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 lol well im happy for you and your new found anger Link to comment
sandyv Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Yes the getting mad stage is the beginning of recovery..... From here you'll see a big improvement in how your feeling.... good for you ... Link to comment
redsuede Posted February 16, 2007 Author Share Posted February 16, 2007 I love it.. (Newfound Anger)... Link to comment
redsuede Posted February 16, 2007 Author Share Posted February 16, 2007 Thanks so much for taking part in my celebration.. Yes, Sandy, I feel soooo GOOD! I am angry and I LOVE it! Link to comment
ironpumper Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Its been sooooooooooooooooooooooo hard for me to get angry or mad, as it usually just turns in to hurt. Today, I feel so good because I am so so so mad. I want to celebrate with everyone because anger is something I dont know how to do. Literally. How dare she treat me the way that she did. I am worth WAY better than that, and I am extremely upset she thinks I am her DOG whenever she is bored or lonely.. God, it finally feels good to be mad. REALLY? hmmm.it's been hard for me to 'get mad' too...That's an interesting thought, maybe I'll just write a little list of all the inconsiderate, cold heartless things she's done to me and read it a couple of times, get good and pissed!!!!!!! Link to comment
JoeWho Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Anger is the beginning of real progress and it is a very powerful motivator. You are on your way my friend! Link to comment
redsuede Posted February 16, 2007 Author Share Posted February 16, 2007 ironpumper.. I wrote a 10 page letter and didnt send it.. I think that started the ball rolling (as well as her too good for the world attitude) Thanks guys for not making me celebrate alone... Link to comment
friscodj Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Yep, anger is part of the grieving process. Grief is normal which means you are normal... So many people resist or avoid anger, thinking it is a negative, immature, evil emotion, one that they should not have. They try to be the "bigger person" and transcend their humanness by fighting or otherwise fooling themselves out of anger. Then they feel like they've accomplished something in this little mission and take pride in their "accomplishment"...until reality hits, the hammer falls, and they end up either having deep seating harbored resentment or blow up in usually misdirected ways... So it is good you reached this point while you still have control of it and can express through healthy and non-abusive outlets... Just think of that whipsaw cutting away this weight attached to your heart and soul... Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Well depression is REPRESSED anger! Congrats on your um...er...Glad you can finally get mad...um...er...wait a sec... Hope you throw her picture accross the ....no wait a sec....Um... hmmm ok ok ....Um...congrats? BTW...anger is a GOOD sign. Use it wisely! -SuperDave71 Link to comment
need2bme Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Well depression is REPRESSED anger! I need to take heed to this. I can sometimes slowly feel myself either not doing what I need to do or not wanting to do anything. I still haven't experienced my anger like I should. I still sometimes speak with her and even though I get off the phone and I don't have any relationship talk, I am also not being real about how I feel. Kudos to you for getting angry... Link to comment
redsuede Posted February 16, 2007 Author Share Posted February 16, 2007 Thank you so much everyone.. I really feel like celebrating.. I love this. You guys have been so much support. I really hope everyone is right, that this is a GOOD sign. **I like the whipsaw mental picture** BTW, that picture you gave me last time I put on my desktop to remind myself. Also, I do have some pictures that I would love to release some of this anger, and a ton of things given to me that I cant stand. If you all were here, I would give you all hugs!!! Link to comment
sandyv Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Red: 5 months later, I still get my sad days, and angry days, but more are angry now.... and thats the feeling that motivates us..... you are doing great, keep going and don't look back... (its hard I know)....... Link to comment
Jason1080 Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Use the anger; Im a martial artist and an acrobat, so When i was goin through your stage, I unleashed all my anger on kicking targets and on some aerial movements. I actually improved after i used my anger as an aid for my training. Link to comment
kate111 Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Don't get mad get ahead. This is my attitude. Use the anger to energise you into making your life better. The world sometimes has a weird justice sometimes. It may take years (this is my belief). Hope I am right. Link to comment
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