Boyfriends baby's mom wants names of my children??

[enlightenme72]

Ok, for some reason my boyfriends mother of his child wants the names, first and last names, and ages of my children. She has never said a kind word to me, and now wants me to just give her this information freely. I say, since they are my children and I'm responsible for them, that I don't need to give that information to her. My boyfriend isn't their legal parent, so he has no authority to give out that information without my permission and he is sticking to it.

 

Her reasons she wants it is if their son comes home with a bump or something happens to him that she can know who is around him. Then tonight when he said he wasn't giving her the information, she said that is bull and that she just wanted them for when he goes overseas (he is in the military) and they have a birthday she can get them a present. ( ok i know the chic is lying because she has said she doesnt even want their son to get to know my kids and my boyfriend and I live together)

 

So, with this information on what is going on, would you give the information to her? I SAY NO!

[CarnelianButterfly]

No way! She doesn't need to know that.

[enlightenme72]

She even told him tonight that she can keep their son from being able to be around my kids at all....

 

I think she is out there....there is no reason to keep him away from my kids, its sheer jealousy, and I feel she's up to something to try to make it happen, when there is nothing that has happened for her to keep him away from any of us...hell he needs away from her if she keeps flipping out about stuff she has no business knowing at all!!

[Mythical_Suicide]

NO!! my bf's ex wife and mother of his other two kids doesnt get ANY information about my children even though they're biologically step-siblings.. I see no reason behind giving her the information. Dont do it especially if the guy isn't their biological parent. I would thin kshes up to no good trying to get the information for the "purpose" stated.. its ridiculous

[Mythical_Suicide]

Just saw your last post, no she can't do anything about them being around your children. When your bf has the kid, he is the responsible parent and thereforeeee can take those children anywhere that is fit for a child and can have him around anyone he pleases. This girl is full of crap and sounds like my bf's ex wife..

[enlightenme72]

Thanks, Mythical...She is a piece of work. I do believe that she is up to something and she also said to him, "Why don't you just tell me and not tell her you told me?" BECAUSE its not right! He told her he wasnt going to do that because he wasnt going to have problems in OUR relationship.

[Mythical_Suicide]

Welcome! and stating that theres nothing she can do is by law.. My bf's ex wife would throw a fit each time he would bring his kids down to my house and she even went as far as callign the cops on us when we picked them up one day. What she didnt plan on was the tables were turned on her and she was told to pretty much suck it up by the cops because he is the parent as well and as long as the child isnt put in danger theres no reason to stop it. It's a control and jealousy issue seems like and also seems liek you have a good guy, most guys would have already done as she suggested about telling her and not telling you.. My bf did that when I got pregnant and had my son and I was upset about it! Good luck girl dont let her get you down

[caro33]

Yes, I say no information. Ages of children maximum.

[enlightenme72]

I agree with the control and jealousy! Has to be all it is!!! But, its ridiculous!

[Reluctant Rebuilder]

That's not only weird it's actually pretty creepy.

[valiantv]

Man what a ... If she wanted to give them birthday presents, why didn't she ask for their dates of birth? (Or did she?) And she'd hardly be pushing so hard if that's all it was, it would be more like, "Alright so, forget it" if that was the reason... Good on your boyfriend.

[enlightenme72]

Man what a ... If she wanted to give them birthday presents, why didn't she ask for their dates of birth? (Or did she?) And she'd hardly be pushing so hard if that's all it was, it would be more like, "Alright so, forget it" if that was the reason... Good on your boyfriend.

 

Thanks, and I totally agree, and no she didn't ask for their birthdates. She sent me an email about a month ago telling me I would never be a mom to HER son and that she didnt want HER son to get too close to my kids or anything to do with them or me. And, all of a sudden she supposedly wants to buy them gifts. First of all, she doesn't work AT ALL and if she bought gifts, I'd assume getting them from my boyfriend since its HIS child support that would be buying the gifts!!!!!!!!

She just frustrates the heck out of us both!!!!](*,)

[DizzyDoris]

Hmmm it does seem very strange, i dont know what to say really. Just so you know, you're not alone here. Exes can be a right pain in the bum! My boyfriends ex wife has stopped their son from coming to my daughters birthday party (how petty) and she even had the nerve to ask my boyfriend what sort of underwear i wear?!! Whats that all about?! lol

 

I wouldnt mind, but SHE'S the one who had an affair in the first place and caused them to get divorced!

 

I really wouldnt tell her anything about your children. Gosh, i bet she interrigates her poor son, every time he goes home after being with you! If you give her any information she sounds as if she could use it in a vindictive way.

[Momene]

She could be plotting some sort of attack on them, the . I'd lock her up and throw away the key given half a chance.

[Batya33]

She even told him tonight that she can keep their son from being able to be around my kids at all....

 

I think she is out there....there is no reason to keep him away from my kids, its sheer jealousy, and I feel she's up to something to try to make it happen, when there is nothing that has happened for her to keep him away from any of us...hell he needs away from her if she keeps flipping out about stuff she has no business knowing at all!!

 

I think she does have the right to know who her children are associating with.

[Batya33]

Thanks, and I totally agree, and no she didn't ask for their birthdates. She sent me an email about a month ago telling me I would never be a mom to HER son and that she didnt want HER son to get too close to my kids or anything to do with them or me. And, all of a sudden she supposedly wants to buy them gifts. First of all, she doesn't work AT ALL and if she bought gifts, I'd assume getting them from my boyfriend since its HIS child support that would be buying the gifts!!!!!!!!

She just frustrates the heck out of us both!!!!](*,)

 

It sounds like it's not a safe (physically or emotionally) situation for your children.

[CarnelianButterfly]

I think she does have the right to know who her children are associating with.

 

Then her children should tell her who their friends are. She doesn't have the right to demand the names of any other persons children from their parents. If she was such a good mother she'd talk to her children more and find out who they play with.

[Batya33]

I am not sure how old the children are or if they have that type of information. My parents always knew that type of information on the families I spent time with - at their homes, that is. The other option is not to give her the information and to agree that the children will not come to her home or interact with her children.