ahhh..success is the sweetest revenge

[NR498E]

I wrote this thread for everybody that got totally screwed over by their ex.It is proof that if you do what is right,learn from your breakup, and work to be the best person you can be,thing's will work out in your favor.

It does take time though.I remember a few month's after the breakup,I was reading threads on here,and 1 year seemed like a life time.I could hardly make it through a day.

Let me tell you it goes fast.The trick is,you got to stay busy.

Anyway...I'm going to make a long story real short.

The love of my life took a big crap on me and dumped me about 1 1/2 year's ago, after a 3yr relationship.I cried everyday and posted here for a good six month's.

Other than moping around and feeling sorry for myself,I spent all my free time making my life better.

I took some classes, landed a sweet job, and moved to Florida.(Me and my ex alway's talked about moving out of the cold midwest together.I like it here by myself.)It took a long tme,I just got here about 3 month's ago.

Not long after I moved, I heard from a friend back home that she was talking about me,saying thing's like "I'm so happy for him","I loved that kid","I was young when all that happened."

Feeling cocky and confident, I sent her a post card of my new home on the beach.With a equally cocky message that said "This is where I'm living.Stay warm!"

It was a petty thing to do,I know,but I had to do it.

About three weeks later I got a letter form her.It didnt say much, I tossed it out and went to the beach.

Three week's after that she call's.I must admit it was nice to talk to her.It was great telling her about my sweet crib on the beach,my killer new job and all the cool places I've been to in the last year.

She told me she is still living with her parent's and not making more than $200 a week.She told me where she hang's out at now,and who she hang's out with.I know the places, they are dives,and the people are loser's.

Then I hear from my friends that she is doing coke now and sleeping with everybody.

That broke my heart,I know she didn't leave me to be living the life that she is living now.

Thing's havent worked out for her the way she thought they would.I remember her telling me how she was going to get a apartment all by herself,get a new car,blah blah blah.She hasnt done any of the thing's she said she was going to do.

I think it goes to show you that if you screw people over, due to your own selfishness, you get what is coming to you.

Having said that,I can now now say I've had my revenge.I pray she get's her stuff together.

 

All in all, everything has reversed.She left me because she said she could do better.Yea...Ok..

Peace out,Andy

[Maverick32x]

mmm... well i dont blame you for feeling a LITTLE satisfaction... but I wouldn't be too happy about it..... either way, congrats on getting over her, and moving onto a better life!!!

[cordelia]

Wow...that is really sad, for her I mean. Sounds like she has a lot of growing up to do. Congratulations though on all the great changes that you've made in your life. Your story is an inspiration to anyone who has been hurt by their ex.

 

Cheers.

[poloplayer]

Hi,

 

I am glad that the break up led to a lot of personal growth for you. Keep riding that great wave.

 

Too many of times have I witnessed many of the similarities from your post in my life post break-up. Some of the girls I only dated for a few months but I began to really like her when things didn't work out. I went away and focused on me, while she did whatever she did. Fast forward X amount of months or years and we cross paths...she is itching to get back with me, but I don't want any of it.

 

Keep it up.

[A_Friend]

Andy,

 

Best of luck from my side as well mate..

 

It's pitty that people leave somone who cares so much for them thinking of getting something better than what they have got and finally end up loosing everything ...and my ex has already taken that step ....I am sure she'll also miss me the way your ex's are missing you ...

[ruby19]

Great inspiration, good for you and thanks for posting how life can be on the other side.

[secretdarkness]

Don't do what I did. Try to move on completely... bring complete closure, or you may be haunted.

[rsxguy520]

andy, all i can say is wow..you know whats coincidental? im going through that transition as well. haha. i've done so much in the last couple of months it's unbelieveable. Getting into the Transfer school i wanted to go to, all the place i've gone, i'm now beginning to know what you are feeling..its funny cause my ex left me for something that she says is better. fine. oh well at least now im enjoying my life, while she is stuck to the guy that got into between us..funny thing is guy is older than her. and shes like a dog, you tell her to sit, and she will sit. lackin independance. oh well.. man i love your post i'm glad you've moved on and live a successful life.. major PROPS to you!

[Juliana]

Maybe now that you're assured of your own success, you can turn around and be a friend to her, and remind her of her own dreams, instead of just watching her fall.

 

Just a thought.

[NR498E]

rsxguy520, that is awesome what you are doing.Sitck with it and you'll be amazed at where you will be in a couple of year's.

If there is anything I can ever do to help,please let me know.

 

 

Juliania, I would like to be her friend,I really would,but I still can't find myself able to forgive her.The way she did me was ice cold.Maybe someday..maybe....

Peace out,Andy

[Belle]

It goes to show that as you sow, so shall you reap. But try not to rub it in. She already knows she screwed up.