wonderfulconfusion Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Hi Lady Bugg! Thanks for your words! I now what you mean... Im slowly not hurting anymore, Ive stop hurting when i dont get news.... i think im waiting on someone else and still afraid to tell myself I may never meet someone... Link to comment
Lady Bugg Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 WonderfulConfusion: You're welcome Always remember: YOU are the prize.Occasioanl contact from an ex is just that....occasional contact. Getting your hopes up over one phone call or text or IM....or whatever...is only hurting YOU. I mean, how much effort does it take to type a text message , or email? NONE. You NEVER have to settle for crumbs.......EVER. I look as an ex who occasionally gets in contact as extremely selfish, and egotistical...and persoanlly I wouldn;t want to be with someone who continually hurts me like that. It is a mindset I had to attain in order to finally "get it" and remove them off that pedestal. So far it's working... Link to comment
sandyv Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Hi all! Shaker: Yeah cannot believe my ex is moving into the place directly accross the street from me.... jeez cannot escape his grip, it seems.... and then yesterday I find out the ex has been dropping by to chat with my son when I've been at work..... gotta wonder what hes up to? But I shall stay strong, I don't wanna talk to him, but it doesn't do much to help when he's becoming a new neighbour, just hope he doesn't knock on my door to borrow a cup of sugar or something now ](*,) Link to comment
wonderfulconfusion Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 So True LADY BUGG! I am feeling fine in general but keep thinking that we may have had a good relationship...HAVE HAD...gone now! So I have to move on! Thanks! Good luck to you! Link to comment
tribecagirl Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Hi All, I've just been reading thru some of the posts here and it's true what SuperDave says. The pain does lessen each day, especially when you make a conscious effort to involve yourself in other activities. I can't lie, though. I'm on day 71 of NC and I still do think about the ex and I wonder if I'll ever find someone who will love me just as I am. SuperDave's operation analogy about having surgery is true. When you involve yourself in something meaningful and you decide that you aren't going to let what happened between you and the ex rule over your life, then it's true. You move on and you start to feel better about things and if you're like me, you take comfort in the possibility that your life will change for the better each day. Hurting and healing is a process you have to go through, not to get over. Whatever has happened, it's not your fault. You're human. And being human is something I have to remind myself about. I want to spread good vibes and happy thoughts to everyone here today! Cheers! Tribecagirl! Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 ha ha Thank you Tribecagirl!! STAY STRONG SANDY!!!!! -SuperDave71 Link to comment
andreap Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Well, made it through another day! Last night I went out to dinner w/ 3 of my good friends .....getting out does help....just have to push myself to get out in the first place. Today will be day 23 of NC.....day 7 of the challenge. I am starting to REALLY wonder when I'll hear from him again.....b/c he ALWAYS pops up again! I am literally "rehearsing' what I will say if I run into him or if he calls me from another #......which he has done in the past. Today is a busy day .....so that 's good!! Hope everyone here is doing well w/ the challenge too! Stay strong!! Link to comment
sandyv Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 SD: I'm really trying, but how come i feel like i gotta great big X on my forehead? Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 Sandy, I see your picture and ya DON'T have a big "X" on your forehead. I am going to make a SMALL suggestion to ya.. After this challenge.....I want to see a SMILING picture of you...do you think this can be done? Ya know, personally...if my exmoved NEXT door to me...I would do MY BEST not to show concern. You have to be Sandy no matter what. The more you focus on him..the more you will NOT heal. Worry ONLY about you and family...PERIOD. You can do this Sandy. You have a big heart and I know that you can stand up for yourself....YOU CAN DO IT!!!!! Your Friend, SuperDave71 Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 KEEP GOING ANDREAP!! You're doing great!!!! -SuperDave71 Link to comment
sandyv Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 SuperDave: Your the best!! I'm almost able to smile when you give such excellent and positive feedback.... Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 Sandy, I find that people become what they choose to be ... issues arise because self-doubt creeps in. The moment you start to doubt your ability as a human being, is the moment you are defeated. There was a story along time ago where there was a young couple that went walking in a new neighboorhood and they came upon a new two story house that was almost completed. They went inside and the woman told her husband, who was on a low salary, that they will have a house like that someday. The man told her...we will NEVER be able to afford a home like this...the woman disagreed because she said "where there is a will, there is a way.." Her husband doubted this for weeks and weeks. The wife was sooo persistent thinking about that house that they saw...telling her husband SOMEDAY...we can get a house JUST LIKE THAT ONE.... Finally, the husband begand to agree with her. For years, at breakfast,,,they would tell one another jokingly that they were one day closer to getting a 'dream home'... A few years pass... They went walking once again and they came upon a new lot...no home was built. The husband asked his wife.. "Let's go look inside..." The wife, perplpexed, said "There is nothing there"... The husband replied...."Yes there is...."It's where our dream home is being built." Dream come true if you just have a positive outlook. I promise you. -Your Friend, SuperDave71 Link to comment
Pisces_Princess Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Hi SuperDave, I hope dreams come true...believe me I need soemthing to hold on to right now x Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 Pisces, You have HUNDREDS of people that are holding you right now... You can do this.... Stay focused ok? I believe in you! -SuperDave71 Link to comment
Pisces_Princess Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Thanks SuperDave and everybody...I think if it wasn't for this forum I wouldn't be here right now x Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 Why in the world would you say such a thing Pisces? If I am taking your words correctly, were you contemplating suicide? If not, I am sorry for the assumtion. I once contemplated that foolishness for a girl when I was 17. WRONG answer! I could NOT imagine that thought today because I went thru it. To end a life that God himself created would not only be wrong (in my opinion) it would be soooo disappointing to you and what you could have accomoplished in your life. The way I see it is this...( Just a silly thought ) If I did kill myself ( NO WAY!) ...and I saw God... He would lead me into a theater. He would ask me to sit down as he handed me a soda, popcorn and candy. I would ask him, what are we doing and he would say.. "Since you did what you did, I want to show you what "I" had planned for you. So there I would be sitting beside God in a nice, heavenly theater watching all the WONDERFUL things I could have done and experienced. I would not only feel rotten afterwords, he would show me how happy the person was that I was distraught over... They would not however be happy that I was gone..but that they happily moved on.... I would ask God..."Why are they so happy and you let me be so sad..?" God would reply,"Because you had more to learn...it's a shame you didn't" This my be a tad silly but ya know...I do believe it. Think about it... Your friend, SuperDave71 Link to comment
sandyv Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 SD: A Very Beautiful story, and also inspirational..... yes I get the point Thnx soo much..... Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 Sandy, I want to see that SMILING pic soon ok? Can ya promise me that? -SuperDave71 Link to comment
sandyv Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 I'm not good at smiling SD I'll promise to try tho Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 ALL IN FAVOR OF SEEING A SMILING PC OF SANDYV RAISE YOUR HAND!!!!?? (people are beginning to stare at me funny..... ) See what I do for ya Sandy? ha ha -SuperDave71 Link to comment
AllTornUp Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Most definitely! I vote for sandv to post a smiling picture! Link to comment
pinkbunnie Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 day 2 ( feeling ok but kinda sad). but im sure i can get through this.. i changed my Aim/Yahoo Sn's. I do get tempted to go back on my regular SNs and talk to him but i don't. I would stay on the sn but he tends to talk to me after few days but i dont want that. as much as i still care/love him... he disrespected me and my feelings ( after we broke up).. he basically confused me... im tired of figuring things out and im going on with my life without him..... i woke up this morning telling myself.....everything will be okay...just gota be strong. Link to comment
SuperDave71 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 pinkbunnie, You mind is excatly where it needs to be....keep it up ok? -Your Friend, SuperDave71 Link to comment
pinkbunnie Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 pinkbunnie, You mind is excatly where it needs to be....keep it up ok? -Your Friend, SuperDave71 thanks superdave. i sure will Link to comment
Pisces_Princess Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Hi SuperDave, Yes I have felt suicidal, but not any more...I was so low I thought I was going crazy!! And count this hand up for a smiling Sandy...she's a very pretty lady but smiling would make her beautiful x Link to comment
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